dealing with adhd children without husdands help

Lisa - posted on 10/19/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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im just so stressed out with dealing with them and the meds dont seem to help and the doctors wont up them anymore what ideas do u moms have with dealing

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Aniesha - posted on 10/20/2009

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I have a friend whose 6yo was diagnosed with adhd, & the doc was going to put him on ritulin, then this old lady told her to give him a cup of very weak coffee in the morning, & that has done the trick! It's like it's balanced out the chemicals in his brain. So you could try that maybe? She swears by it.

Tracy - posted on 10/19/2009

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I don't have any experience with adhd chldren but if the meds aren't working, do you think they need to change them??? maybe a change in their diet...you could also get a second opinion on how much meds they do need, if you are able too. I hope things get better for you...

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Lisa - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Airan:

No still give the meds...regularity is important, they need them at the same time everyday. ADHD meds take a while to work and when you skip doses it puts them back. About the coffee, for some reason when you give someone who is hyper a stimulant "coffee" it counter balances them. And believe me with a 4 month old son and normal busy life it is hard to keep my step son busy too. The important thing is providing him with many of options for things for him to do that he likes, even if they are things for him to do on his own. And then reminding them "Hey why don't you go play with...." My sister has 3 kids 12, 9, 8. Her 9 year old has ADHD and she is a single mom. You are going through the same things we both are. Her best advice is this..kids with ADHD are often some of the most intelligent children. Giving them things to do to challenge them is important and also giving them things to do that make them feel important is also something they need. She doesn't get much time with them, but makes sure to provide he 9 yr old with art supplies (age appropriate of course for when she can't supervise him), books, math cards, puzzles, etc. Change toys, puzzles etc when you can. Part of the reason children with ADHD that are still hyper even when on meds is because they are bored. This is way they cut up in school too. Also letting them help with house work, works for both of us too. Even if we have to go back and clean it again later. They need a sense of accomplishment. I know it is not easy and it takes time but you WILL find what works best for you and your children. How old are they?


well he is 9 and my daughter had it too and she is 7  and we try to give them things to do around the house like pick up toys and there room but no go on that one they refuse to do it and if we do ask they fight with us bout it or cry and say they dont want to do it so im just at a cross roads with it all any ideas on like games or activites it would be nice cuz were not the most creative ppl in the world and thanks again and hope to here from u soon

Airan - posted on 10/21/2009

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No still give the meds...regularity is important, they need them at the same time everyday. ADHD meds take a while to work and when you skip doses it puts them back. About the coffee, for some reason when you give someone who is hyper a stimulant "coffee" it counter balances them. And believe me with a 4 month old son and normal busy life it is hard to keep my step son busy too. The important thing is providing him with many of options for things for him to do that he likes, even if they are things for him to do on his own. And then reminding them "Hey why don't you go play with...." My sister has 3 kids 12, 9, 8. Her 9 year old has ADHD and she is a single mom. You are going through the same things we both are. Her best advice is this..kids with ADHD are often some of the most intelligent children. Giving them things to do to challenge them is important and also giving them things to do that make them feel important is also something they need. She doesn't get much time with them, but makes sure to provide he 9 yr old with art supplies (age appropriate of course for when she can't supervise him), books, math cards, puzzles, etc. Change toys, puzzles etc when you can. Part of the reason children with ADHD that are still hyper even when on meds is because they are bored. This is way they cut up in school too. Also letting them help with house work, works for both of us too. Even if we have to go back and clean it again later. They need a sense of accomplishment. I know it is not easy and it takes time but you WILL find what works best for you and your children. How old are they?

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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Quoting Airan:

I have step son who was diagnosed with ADHD at 5, he is now 9. It is a battle everyday. The main thing is to keep them focused and busy. Idle time is hyper time. Be very insistent with the doctors. We went through the same thing with the meds but had to keep on the doctors. Calling and calling. If they won't up them than insist that the meds be changed. We went through 4 different types of ADHD meds before we finally found one that works. Also after a while kids build up a tolerance for the meds and that maybe a reason to change as well. I know what you are going through and it is not easy but try different things to occupy their time. You must keep them busy. And yes on the weekends we give him a little coffee. It does work. Ritalin and other drugs like that are "uppers" if someone without ADHD were to take them it would make them hyper...so yes coffee works but dilute it. Hope this helps, anytime you need to talk please feel free to talk..one ADHD mom to another...good luck.


ya ive herd of the coffee thing may times and i dont know it just seems that it would be impossible to work because of the caffine in it  and the thing about keeping him busy is another thing were not the most intergetice parents that we should be so its hard for us  so bak to the coffee thing are we not supposed to give him his meds the day we do the coffee thing or what thanks for ur input and hope to talk to u soon

Jennifer - posted on 10/20/2009

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There are new meds. out there . And I have heard good things about them. So I would ask the Dr. to change meds.

Airan - posted on 10/20/2009

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I have step son who was diagnosed with ADHD at 5, he is now 9. It is a battle everyday. The main thing is to keep them focused and busy. Idle time is hyper time. Be very insistent with the doctors. We went through the same thing with the meds but had to keep on the doctors. Calling and calling. If they won't up them than insist that the meds be changed. We went through 4 different types of ADHD meds before we finally found one that works. Also after a while kids build up a tolerance for the meds and that maybe a reason to change as well. I know what you are going through and it is not easy but try different things to occupy their time. You must keep them busy. And yes on the weekends we give him a little coffee. It does work. Ritalin and other drugs like that are "uppers" if someone without ADHD were to take them it would make them hyper...so yes coffee works but dilute it. Hope this helps, anytime you need to talk please feel free to talk..one ADHD mom to another...good luck.

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