did i do the right thing?

Erica - posted on 04/22/2012 ( 19 moms have responded )

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i got really really mad at some driver on the road tonight. they swerved in front of me and i had to slam on my brakes as hard as i could. when i did this my son 3.5 in his booster seat almost flew out of his seat. my tuck is old and it does not have the locking thing on the seat belts because of the age of it. it was not standered on cars the year this was made. well needless to say he then pulled into mcdonalds parking lot and i followed him in there and yelled at him and reamed him a new a** hole. i have never ever done this in my life. i told him that i have kids in the car and if he ever did that again that i was going to call the police. i did not have my cell phone only because it was not charged so i could not do it at that very moment other wise i would have. of course the anger part also came from being on my period. i know tmi. do you think i did the right thing or should i have handled it different?

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I agree with Sarah, he is not in the correct car seat. My son is 7 years old and is still in a 5 point harness. They go up to 65 pounds and 58 inches tall now. I'm sorry, but I can't see putting my child's life at risk to save $100. You can get a Nautilus that will last as long as he will ever need a seat--it turns into a "highback booster" at 65lbs, and goes all the way to 100 lbs. You can check with your local fire department, police department, women's shelters, and churches for assistance if you cannot afford to pay for one, but you really need to get him in a better seat.

And no, I would never yell at someone on the road that I did not know for making a driving mistake. I've made mistakes before, everyone makes them, that is WHY we use seatbelts and carseats.

Jennifer - posted on 04/23/2012

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It's very easy to say...well, you should have gotten a liscence # and..., but honestly we are all human, and things happen in the heat of the moment. I remember one time my hubby screaming his head off at some young punk kids for driving like maniacs. I swear people could hear him screaming from two counties over. lol Just try to remember that there are psychos out there, that could harm you even if you are yelling out from the window of your car, but honestly hine sight is 20/20, and sometimes it is incredibly hard to hold back emotions, especially when our precious little ones are put in harms way from some maniac.

Migmarie - posted on 04/22/2012

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Well, you took it better than I would have...Congratulations on behaving like a mommy!!! It happens. I would do anything for my baby and I would have done worse if I were in your shoes. Smile :) It could have been worse for him and for you.

Michelle - posted on 04/22/2012

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I would have handled it differently only because you don't know what his reaction could have been with you confronting him. As drivers we need to be aware of everything on the road and even expect the unexpected.

How was he to know that you had kids in the car? Plus he could have been swerving to miss hitting something.

To be honest, your 3.5yo should still be in a 5 point harness just in case these events happen. You can't control how other people drive but we can take all measures within our power to protect our children.

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Erica - posted on 04/24/2012

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i dont know about the color but i dont care either. i care about the safety of my children. who cares if the color is pink or blue or whatever. it has very little pink in it. it is mostly grey.

Erica - posted on 04/24/2012

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my husband is the one who dont like the idea of putting our son in the pink and gray car seat but i dont care anymore. i fell that it is safer for him. i am also going to turn my daughter back to rear faceing even tho she does not like it at all. oh well they are going to be safe and if that is what i have to do then that is what i am going to do. she screams when she is rear facing but i dont care anymore after this happened i dont trust anyone so i am going to keep my kids as safe as i can. i dont care what the fireman said about him being in a booster. he also took the base of my sons booster off and said that he did not need it. i put it back on only because i thought it would be safer. the reason he took it off is because he said that it would be easer for me to buckle him in with the seat belt with the 2 carseats next to each other. there is way more than enough room for me to buckle him in with the seats next to each other. but that dont matter now because he is not going to be in that seat anymore he is going to the one that we bought for sophia and that is going to be that. once he reaches 65lbs then we will put him back in the booster seat unless my daughter needs to go back in that one for some reason. which she is on the small side and wont need it for a long while. she is barely 20lbs as it is and should not face forward. the fireman said that she could face forward even tho she was not 20lbs. which i said no she i wanted her rear facing he said that was fine. i just want my kids to be safe and that is that. i may make a phone call today and see if i can get a different seat for my son so that he dont have to be in the pink one. we will have to see.

Heather - posted on 04/24/2012

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I would not feel bad about switching him to a different car seat. If it is going to keep him safer then by all means do it. Because no matter how safe we drive we have no control over others on the road. My son is 5 and half years old and still in a five point harness. Soon to be switched to the booster seat because he is just now reaching the 40lb weight limit. He started complaining about it when he was four because his cousin and some other friends his age and even some younger were starting to use just a booster. But I wanted him to be safer and not be able to sit inappropriately in the seat which a regular booster allows. I explained to him that this was safer for him and he does not complain anymore. Also I had tested to see if he could sit in his car seat (which transfers to a booster by taking out the harness) with just the seat belt and the belt ended up coming across his neck. So that was another factor for keeping him in the harness longer.

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The Symphony is a wonderful seat, I'm glad you are going to put him in it--the color does NOT matter, his safety does.
Also, remember that firemen are not car seat experts--they have a program in place to help parents because they have time, but the program is run mostly on charity and is often grossly underfunded, meaning they may not be able to give you the proper seat for your child. They know max & min requirements for different seats because they have a database, but the training they go through is very minimal. They do their best to help everyone, which is why they gave you a seat (a legal seat is better than no seat at all), but given their budget, they just can't fit everyone who needs a seat into the best seat for them.

Stifler's - posted on 04/24/2012

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i think that revving someone who did a dangerous thing on the road was even more dangerous, he could have been violent.

Erica - posted on 04/23/2012

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i took my son to the fire department when i got my daughter her new car seat. they gave me on for her because she was over 1 and still in the infant seat. when i got there they weighed and measured my son for the car seat that i had for him and said that he is too large for the 5 pt harness for that seat and that there was nothing else i could do for him but put him in the booster. it is a high back one with the thing the belt goes through the thing. a few weeks later after i got a free seat for my daughter my parents got her a new one for easter. i did not know that they were doing this at the time. the one they got her is pink i know but it goes up to 65lbs and i think i am just going to put my son in that one from now on. i know he dose not like it but that is what i am going to do with him. i feel that it is way better for him to be in that than what they had me put him at the fire department. it is not all pink but it is gray with pink polka dots. the link below is the one that my parents got for my 1yr old and i think that it will be fine to put my son it it instead of the booster. i say this because it goes to 65lbs and it is not really girly like some of them are or the purple one that i really really wanted for her but could not buy because of our budget and not having any extra money at all.



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User - posted on 04/23/2012

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To be honesty I would be more concerned about the fact that your son could have been seriously injured or worse because he's not in the correct car seat for his size.

Jasmine - posted on 04/23/2012

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I don't think you should beat yourself up over it. You just went into mama bear mode because your son was in the car, totally understandable.

I3elleza - posted on 04/23/2012

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I won't judge you...we all have anger from time to time....especially when it comes to protecting our babies!! Just try not to follow him next time lol

Carol - posted on 04/23/2012

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I wasn't even aware that they made 5 point harnesses for 3 1/2 year olds - my youngest is almost 9. Both my boys are also giants and we had to turn the seat around before they were one because their knees were in their chests. So I guess I'm a horrible parent too. When I first read this it sounded like you got out of the car, sorry. I could easily see yelling at the guy through an open window. You still have to weigh all the crazies out there though. I've given a light (very light) tap on my horn to let a dump truck know that he swerved into my lane and nearly hit me and my kids and the guy followed me for miles screaming and gesturing. He's the one who almost hit me and all I did was lightly beep to let him know I was there. I assume they're all crazy psychopaths when my kids are in the car and now I always keep my phone with me.

Erica - posted on 04/22/2012

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i also think part of the reason i freaked out is because the truck i drive is my parents and i know they would freak out if i got in an accident. i know it would not have been my fault but damn i was pissed off. i have NEVER NEVER EVER done anything like this before. it would also raise my parents insurance through the roof even it was not my fault. and he was from wisconsin where they dont require insurance.

Erica - posted on 04/22/2012

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Michelle my son is not in a 5 point haness because he is too big for it. he is over 40lbs and no longer fits in the 5 point harness and i dont have money to go and buy him one that goes to 65lbs they cost over $100 and my husband is the only one working. We went to the fire station about the car seat thing for him and they said the same thing he is over the wight limit and he is also 45in tall. i wish that i could have handled it better. i did not get out of the car when i yelled at him. i did it through the open window.

Carol - posted on 04/22/2012

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Of course that's the wrong thing to do - even if it's part of what everyone would love to do in the same situation (I'd add a crowbar to the side of his head as long as I'm just dreaming). You put your life and your kid's life in danger as soon as you got out of the car. Get the license plate number and a description of the driver if you can. Call the police whenever you get to a phone. I've done it a couple of times in very similar situations. If it's a company car or truck, call the company and complain. Glad you guys are okay. There are too many losers on the road. Adrenaline's a bitch to control too.

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