Do any of you go crazy when you sit at home with your child every single day?

Katie - posted on 05/21/2010 ( 171 moms have responded )

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My son is starting to drive me crazy, I just want to get out of the house, I feel like I am suffocating in here. I dont know what I want to do, Im starting to wonder if I should get a job so I can have a little bit of me time, does that sound crazy?

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Hey Katie, you've gotten lots of advice and I hope what one of these moms says will work for you! Here are some things I do to keep my sanity:

1. Bring my daughter to children's programs at our local library (gives me a chance to talk to other moms)

2. Go to a toddler music class (www.musictogether.com they might have one in your area and again it gives me a chance to talk to other moms)

3. I have an at home business through a direct sales company. Once a week I do a party and my husband takes care of our daughter for a few hours. I love it and make a little extra money to help out with bills.

4. Church - my daughter goes in the nursery

5. Girls Night once a month - Sometimes my daughter comes with me, sometimes my mom or husband will watch her. Either way, it's refreshing to spend time with my friends.

Mandy - posted on 05/21/2010

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Absolutely!! Siting at home all day with no adult interaction could drive anyone crazy.....plus if your child is the only one you have chances are he is just as bored as you are and that can make him needy out of boredom. Try this site, www.meetup.com I found a playgroup/momsgroup there and there are many weekly meet ups to choose from, most are cheap or free, and you and your son can both make new friends....my group also has several mommy nights per month where everyone leaves the kids home with the dads and the ladies go out and have fun. I'd lose my mind if I didn't have my play dates.

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2010

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If you can get a job then great, if not try going for a walk to the park or see if you can join a play group. It can get kinda tiring to be home all day long. I like to read when my son is napping, that way it "me" time and I am still able to hear him if he wakes up and needs me.

Jennifer - posted on 05/21/2010

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I definately go crazy sometimes. My children are 6,5,2, and one on the way. Sometimes it feels like all I get accomplished in a day is cleaning and yelling "stop hitting your sister" or "Curtains weren't made to swing from" I found that if I stay home for too many days in a row, I even start getting depressed. I know I'm doing the best for my kids by being here, but sometimes I wonder what is best for me. I found that if I get out at least every other day, it really helps. I make trips to wal-mart just to get milk, but I stop and look at other things too, and take my time getting home. I'll take the kids to mcdonalds for an afternoon snack. I feed them at home, so that they aren't eating too much fast food, but I'll buy them a yogurt or apples or something and let them play while I talk to other moms there. We have a ton of second hand shops around my area, so I will go and see what they have, because the stuff in there changes constantly. If you feel you need to work, then do it. Some people just aren't made to stay at home and that is ok.

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Jami - posted on 06/01/2010

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sometimes when I feel that way I take my kids for a nature walk or something...on really bad days with the kids I dump them on DH when he walks in and go for a walk myself.

Tia - posted on 05/31/2010

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no it doesnt sound crazy!! i wanna do the same thing, but then i dont want to miss outon anything with my daughter but it just feels like nothing is really satisfying me anymore im doing the same thing all day everyday nd its soooo boring, im ova watchin tv nd movies, im ova the shopping centers ive been to em all just to waiste time ill go all ova the countryside nd im still bored... atm my daughters teething so shes non stop whinging and its sending me insane sometimes ill just break down crying cause she wont stop nd theres quite literlly nothing to do im so over being bored!!

Arpita - posted on 05/31/2010

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absolutely not.....i just feel de same way as u do....my son s two now....but i cant make him unnestnd dat sometimes at least he needs 2 play by himself...i cant go 2 de shower even, while he s awake....sometimes he becomes so uncontrollable dat i hav 2 scream at him or cry being frustrated...den i wish dat if at least i had a part time job dat i could put him 2 ny day care nd just be away from home for some hours.....being a new comer if i dont find a job widin de nxt 3 mths i know my depression will keep on augmenting.....sooo if ya wanna go 4 a job i think its de right decision

Sara - posted on 05/31/2010

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It's not crazy at all. I am on maturnity leave and I'm lucky enough to have 20 months off. My husband is currently unemployed and we live in a foregin country and we are not fluent in German and so we find it hard to speak with people. I'm left to look after my 5 month daughter all the time as my husband suffers from depression and worries constantly about financies and what we should do in move back to the UK or stay here? We miss our family and friends so much and I feel quite alone as does my husband so I can honestly simpathise with your situation. I have a job but equally I want time with my daughter but sometimes I like her sleeping longer as I get some time to myself.

Kathryn - posted on 05/30/2010

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i too have flagged the message left by Christi Thompson. though it was portrayed in a rather inappropriate manner, it sounds to me as though she is just as frustrated as the rest of us!! but that is no excuse to leave rude messages on a site which is here for parents to help eachother with their problems. heres a tip, kristi - share some helpful knowledge based from experience, rather than showing us your unappetising language skills.

Crystal - posted on 05/30/2010

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i also flag the rude person on here i have been a sahm for 3 years my husband is in the army so i am alone with my daughter all the time i do deserve time for myself rather all mothers that stay at home we can post and ask wat we wont if u dont have anything helpful to say then dont say anything at all she asked if other mother fault the same way not u saying we all are selfish beacuse we deserve a break and that we dont wont somebody else raising our kids

Julie - posted on 05/30/2010

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This feeling is known all to well by all moms. Make plans, one a day was all i could manage but it makes a difference. I think she did better too when we were out, or maybe that was all in my head because i had a change of scenery .If working makes you feel relaxed then go for it, we must keep our selfs happy to make our little ones day fun and enjoyable. Playdates, visits with family of friends can be just what you might need. hope this is helpful, good luck.

Kathryn - posted on 05/30/2010

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thats not crazy at all!! i know how you feel. i have a two year old daughter, and have been a stay at home mum since the day she was born. it was a choice i made myself, as she is my first born, and i wanted to spend as much time as i could with her. however, im now starting to wonder if it was the right choice, as she has developed some rather concerning attachment issues. she will not let me go anywhere without her, and if i even go into a separate room to her, she will sit in the doorway and cry. its a very frustrating and draining situation. i often wish i could have some "me time", but it is almost impossible with my partner at work full time. we are currently planning another child, which i am hoping will also help her to realise that not everything has to be just her and me. is that wrong???

Amy - posted on 05/30/2010

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Why is it that whilee most people are encouraging on here and can relate, there is always a jerk or 2 in the bunch? I'm refering to a reply on here by Christi Thompson, please see below. I have flagged her post for rude language/tone because it just is downright wrong what she said. This is a place for women to come and address issues they have and not be attacked for it. Maybe Christi Thompson does not have children or she does and she has skads of money to do something all the time to keep herself from feeling like 99.99999% of moms do. Either way, she doesn't have a clue as to how moms who bear the brunt of child care/rearing feel. Women who stay at home to take care of their children usually don't get much help or free time thereby leading to these feelings of frustration. There are even moms who do work outside of the home who STILL feel the same way! So, please Christi Thompson, refrain from posting your nasty comments. In other words... Shut the heck up!

Brittany - posted on 05/30/2010

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Oh, I go so crazy! Sometimes I just sit and cry! No one to talk to, all of my friends work. It kinda sux! I've thought about getting a job too! I have 2 little ones at home, and theit grandma always acts like she's too busy to take them for a few hours! life at home, Yay!

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hey, i have a 5 1/2 month old little boy now i have not worked since i was 4 months pregenant so have a had a lot of time on my hand i have fouind that so i dont go stir crazy my son and i go out everyday somewhere we even spread out app over the week so that we interact with people i arange shopping days with my close friends have also been to a mothers group for a couple of weeks and became friends with other mums with children my sons age so now we do play dates where we get adult company and the kids are amused with each other. i dont disagree with going and getting a job that is certainly your choice but maybe try this first and see how that may help just a suggestion i know it works for me and my son who is a social butterfuly/ monkey lol

Charis - posted on 05/29/2010

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Hi Katie, I guess most stay-home mothers feel what you feel at one time or another. I feel it every other day =P But when I consider what I chose to stay to take care of him in the first, then my mind becomes clearer and I feel less 'suffocated'. We need time-outs definitely. Perhaps you can rope in your family members to care for your son while you recharge yourself? Even a bath or tea-break can do wonders =) Take good care and God bless you =)

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No it doesnt sound crazy, I tohught the same thing which is why I work 3 days a week now with my youngest in daycare.

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I feel the same and I have 2 boys in that age group. If you go to www.meetup.com you will find a group of many interesting things to do. You can join a playgroup so you meet other moms and your kids get to mingle around. You can also join a scrapbooking group or work out group and that will be able to keep you on track. Jst go to that website and put your zipcode and search your likings. You will love it. I love my playgroup and have been a member for almost a year now. My boys have good friends around his age and I love seeing each one of them grow. Good Luck.

Julie - posted on 05/29/2010

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I feel that way too sometimes. I tell my husband that I'm going out by myself either on a weeknight or on the weekend. I usually go shopping or meet up with other friends of mine that want to get out of the house too. He usually asks no questions and says okay.

Amy - posted on 05/29/2010

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Also, I do things for myself. I take my best friend with us and she will sit with my girlie while I get my hair done. Next week, I plan to take her with us while I get a pedicure. This way, I am around but not totally focused on my baby but we can be in eachother's sights and no one is upset! And if your baby is anything like my baby, he/she can be quite entertaining. My girlie had the whole hair salon cracking up with her antics!

Amy - posted on 05/29/2010

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This is totally NORMAL! Don't feel bad about feeling this way, do something about it! I worked 7 days a week and usually 10-16 hour days up until I was 38 weeks prego. It was very hard for me at first to stay home but I ended up grateful since it took me 6+ months to recover. The 1st warrm sunny day, eveen though I had a stomach bug, I took the baby for a long walk by the river. I took her out with me shopping, 1 store in a day maybe 2 times a week at most since she is BF'd which makes it harder to go out. But now she eats solids too and that makes it way easier! Now we go all sorts of places while her Dad works all day everyday. I don't mind that because then she won't be goofy like him LOL! Maybe I became accustomed to being a stay at home mom because I waited and hoped to have a baby for 15 long years and thought I would never have one. I always planned to stay at home if I did have a baby too. I've tried going out without her but I panic after an hour! She won't stay without me for more than 30 minutes either. I can't stand the thought of her being cared for by anyone else because no one else will care for her as I do or the way I want her to be cared for. And I think she is the extremely happy baby she is because she is with me 99.9999999% of the time. I couldn't ask for a better, more wonderful baby. When I get frustrated, I leave the room for a few minutes, take somee deep breaths, maybe a sip or two of water and when I go back to her, she is so happy to see me again that it makes me happy too and I feel better!

Monica - posted on 05/29/2010

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I can totally relate to you! I am a stay-at-home mom of a 22 month old and a 3 1/2 year-old, and I babysit a 2 year-old boy. We moved to a tiny town almost three years ago, and I am having a hard time meeting other moms for adult interaction! I recently joined MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) and am hoping this will help. Also, I have found that if I can get out of the house whenever my husband does get home; if only once a week or so; it really helps! Tina Fey once said that out of all the jobs she has tried- staying at home with her daughter is the hardest!! Mommies need breaks to be better mommies!!!

Tatiana - posted on 05/29/2010

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You are so not alone as you have I'm guessing already gathered! I felt the same way after staying home with my son the first year. The best thing I ever did was join my local mothers club. There were outings for me and my son, where he got to play with other kids his age and I got to converse with other moms, and also fun mom-only events that brought some sanity back to my life. I've since gotten very involved in the club, being on the board, and that activity has filled the void of not having a job and has helped keep up some of my skills.
Good luck!

Ann - posted on 05/29/2010

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If you know another stay at home mom you could always do a "child swap". That is were one day a week (or what ever works for you) you drop your kids off at her house and the next week she drops her kids off at your house. That gives you one full day every other week with no children! And when you have the her kids, they normally end up entertaining each other, so you end up with another bit of a break. It's a great time to do stuff around the house you can't do normally. But if this does not sound like something that would work for you, then I say get a job. You need to do what makes you happy, cuz really if you are not more than likely he isn't either. Good luck in what ever you decide.

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Yes...it is normal. Your craziness may be trying to tell you that you need a new routine. You can do this with the kiddos and also sched some time w/o them too. Find some volunteer work locally, start a mom's group, take up stroller jogging, take up a hobby, or do all of the above... whatever will shake things up a bit....And kids and even babies love to have things to do and look forward to. They also like when mom is happy so don't be afraid or ashamed to sched yourself some grown up time, sanity time, whatever time, while the kids are w/ someone else for a few hours. You and your kids NEED this. A better and more varied sched is a great way to beat it. YES get out of the house

Sherri - posted on 05/29/2010

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I can totally relate!!! It gets hard at times and then I start to feel guilty that I even feel that way.

Erin - posted on 05/29/2010

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I'm pretty sure EVERY mother feels that way at some point...I know I have...However, every time I feel that way, I remind myself of WHY I made the CHOICE to become a stay-at-home Mom, which is that I am responsible for the kind of people my children become, and if I'm working, they're in someone else's care, and under their set of influences--whether good or bad...And, depending on the cost of childcare versus what you would make at a job, you may just end up literally working to pay someone else to RAISE YOUR KID(S)!! I know I didn't think of it that way at first, but when I did, it opened my eyes...there are all kinds of things to do that can help you cope with the feelings you're having and STILL get to be your child's primary caregiver!! I hope this helps, and that you find what works for you!

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Hi! i can understand how you feel. I am a stay at home mum with my 8 1/2 month old... and I live sort of rural so im at home alot! But i still do make sure I get out, and you should too. Getting a job may not be the answer. If its just for some "me time" there are definately other options. You could get your mum, friend, aunt, cousin, whoever you trust and is willing, to baby sit for a day or even half a day once a week, and do something you love.... be it the gym, art and craft, dance class, or just chill out on the beach with a good book. Sometimes we just need time to clear our heads without little ones at our feet demanding attention. its healthy to get out, so dont feel guilty for taking a day for yourself! Also, when your bub is sleeping during the day, and you know he is gonna be out to it for at least an hour, use that time to smell the roses...LITERALLY... get out of your house (grab a baby monitor if you need to) and GO OUTSIDE if weather permits. sunbake, do some gardening if thats your thing, check the mail, walk around just thinking... getting sum sunshine will help you feel less cooped up. If your son doesnt really sleep much, take him in his pram on a long walk at least every second day... if weather permits. Its good for your figure, and he will more likely than not LOVE it, and fresh air will make him sleep better. He may be as bored as you are in the house! Plus make sure all of your curtains are opened during the day. a dark house makes for a very depressing setting! open some windows, play some music. Sometimes we get cabin fever because we forget, even tho we have kids, things can still be pleasant at home. Most babies and kids simply LOVE music, it doesnt always have to be the wiggles or disney. put on stuff you used to listen to before you had kids (nothing dirty or full of swearing obviously) itll change the mood immediately... and it doesnt need to be loud. Also, make plans! Start writing up what you want to do with your future. All because you have kids, life doesnt stop. It just means things take longer. and that its not all about us anymore. but you can still plan a holiday and reach for that goal. or plan to study from home, or study once all your kids are in school. etc etc,. I think having a future goal is important. Getting a job could be what you need, but i would try other options first. because you may find taking up ANOTHER responsibility, will just raise stress levels and give you less time to do what you need to do at home. Be really positive and remember its a privalege to be able to be at home and be a part of everything your child is doing. You get to see every "first" thing, help them discover everything, see them grow... just remember it can be really fun, sometimes we just have to change things up a bit.

Becky - posted on 05/29/2010

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I LOVE staying at home with my 4daughters but yes I do think I was going crazy until I found PartyLite .... It gave me " me time" I got to go out, have fun with other women, and make a few extra bucks without having all the " work" complications my husband stays with the kids for a few hours once or twice a week so he gets quality time with them while I get quality time with myself :0) it works out GREAT

Jeni - posted on 05/29/2010

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I think we all have our stir crazy days, I find things like just going for a cupa at a friends who has kids so they can go play with someone & you can get some adult company, or playgroups kids swiming classes, just going down the park and people watching etc helps alot.

Lisa - posted on 05/29/2010

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No, it doesn't sound crazy. Sometimes I fantasize about getting an outside job, in order to "get away." (I have two sons, 4 and 2.) Anyway, make sure you get out of the house with him every day. Take him to the park or for a walk around the neighborhood. Try to focus on the moment. We only have these little ones "little" for a short time - They get "big" fast! Try to remember that, even though it seems like it's taking forever for him to grow up, when he's 20 and you are looking back, it will have gone so quickly! (My youngest sisters are going to be 19 in August and I remember so well how it was when they were little.) Anyway, no one loves our children as much as we do, so it is important for us to be the ones to rear them! Best wishes, Lisa Glick



P.S. Playgroups with other moms are an excellent idea! Mine even has a "Mom's Night Out" every few months, in addition to meeting every Wednesday. And you can make some excellent friends in such a group. If you don't have one in your area, start one. Mine was started through the efforts of two young women at my church. It is lifesaving!

Nicole - posted on 05/28/2010

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I am totally there with ya! I feel that way to, but then I look at him and I just cant imagine anyone else watchin him all day but me. I would love some me time, I get that on the weekends, lol.

Tia - posted on 05/28/2010

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nope ;] I get crazy too lol that's why I'm going to college.. at least I'll get my education as well as some me time lol a job is just like it.. you get paid while getting some 'me' time lol

Kristalee - posted on 05/28/2010

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I am the same way. I sit at home all day every day with my 7 month old daughter, and I talk baby talk a lot, even when I am out with adults lol. I cannot get a job right now, but I dont mind not working, I stay at home with her, which I feel is best, and I also attend college online, so I am killing two birds with one stone.

Liz - posted on 05/28/2010

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No one prepares you for staying at home. No wonder moms in the 50's and 60's took drugs and drank. Even if your children goes to school during the day, it is hard to be at home all the time. I love my kids, but.....

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Do you know how many women would love to be in your position? Be thankful you get to spend time with your child. Plan playdates or mornings out. Do some reading on how to interact with your child in valuable ways. He is not a burden, he is a blessing. I am an older mom and have been through the work routine and I will tell you that nothing compares with the privilege and fulfillment of being a mother.

Liz - posted on 05/28/2010

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I totally relate. After years of working outside the home, I became a stay-at-home mom, I sunk into a deep depression. I didn't have the people contact I craved. I had to deal with 3 special needs, adopted kids. There were days when I ran to my mom's house to get away from the yelling, problems, etc. of spending 24/7 with my kids. Don't feel bad. It's normal. Just know that it does get better and that you can tell your kids that you need a time-out and lock yourself in your bathroom.

Mimi - posted on 05/28/2010

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I see a lot of replies that have told you get a job. If you haven't worked yet since you've had children, just remember, you still have all the same responsiblities at home when you get back from your job that you did when you were just a stay at home mom. Some people are made for this and have spouses who share in the "after work" responsiblities, if you don't it is really hard and starts to get to you as well. If you can afford to stay home, work on doing some things for you. It sounds like you just need to get out of the house for a little bit. Suggestions for doing a mommy and me group are great. Maybe get a sitter for a couple hours and go to a movie or get a manicure--anything to give you a little away time.

Imani - posted on 05/28/2010

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I understand how you feel. You need sometime to yourself so you can be the best mom you can be. I always take a girls night out or date night with my husband. I exercise 3xs a week for 2hrs. So I will be the best mom I know how and not feel suffocated. I'm a mom of 2. It's harder with your 1st.

Anna - posted on 05/28/2010

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I stay home all day everyday with my one 9month old son, but i have night classes. But still i feel like i need a break in the day. i never ask for help from anyone cause it's not hard but i feel like to be a better mommy i still need that "Me Time". i mostly go crazy because i still feel like i never do enough. Thankfully i will have my degree here soon and i will be able to find that good paying job ;) good luck try to find you time the best you can :)

Hiba - posted on 05/28/2010

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u not crazy at all u have all the right !!!
hi am hiba i have 4 years old boy and maya is 14 months ,i feel the same exaclly the same sometimes i just go lock myself in my room to feel free and am back to live again ;-(

Jacquee' - posted on 05/28/2010

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Wow! I'm not the only one who has traveled this road I see. My daughter goes to daycare for 5 hours a day three days a week and I look forward to running errands, writing a book, getting my hair done, etc. and having some 'me' time. Before, I felt like my hormones were in a flux and I was going crazy. I love my daughters development and she loves going to daycare to interact with other children. I find myself missing her and when I pick her up, there's nothing like the feeling I get when she sees me after five hours and runs to me saying 'momma'. Get a part-time job at wal-mart or let's start a business together ladies...baby food taste awful!

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2010

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Alot of moms feel that way me i love being home with my kids. But try goin for a walk go to the park he will love the noises and all the excitment

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You are definately not alone there, I got really bored doing the same routine. Fortunatly I just got insurance with Health First & it includes free membership to their gym & they offer daycare for $20 a month. I hopped on that train pretty quick. I am also looking for a part-time evening job to get out & interact with ppl & give my husband alone time with our 13 month son:) Good Luck, I am sure you will get lots of new ideas right here!

Isabel - posted on 05/28/2010

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i totally understand!! i just had my second... i'm 21 and they are 20 months apart. its so hard! and its really hard staying home all the time. especially cuz i've always been on the go. I agree with all the moms that have posted advice. try to get out. try to form a playgroup. and find time with your hubby a lone. I totally understand tho. i get you, i'm the exact same way.

Martha - posted on 05/28/2010

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Are you kidding? YES!!! I felt kind of sheepish after a few months 'cause I wanted to be a SAHM, but it's not just baby care that's difficult...it's self-care that gets hard, too! I would forget to shower, forget to eat, forget to go to events, and by the time she was 6 mos old I was a depressed wreck.
You absolutely need "me" time to be a good mom. Let me repeat: YOU ABSOLUTELY NEED "me" TIME TO BE A GOOD MOM! I'll add to that - it gets a lot easier as they age. My daughter is nearly 2, and while the challenges are different, the demands are muuuuch less intense.
I didn't want to go back to work, even though I needed adult time. I tried to find mommy groups and found one or two that helped me limp along until things got easier. I also take her to the park/nature centers/trails/friends homes. At these places you still have to supervise, but there are other moms there, and you can let them run without having your attention Always Constantly Turned On The Baby (that gets soooo wearing!)
Good luck. You are SO not alone!

Anna - posted on 05/28/2010

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No, not at all. Even before I had my son I would feel that way. My husband works long hours and is rarely home. i always thought it'd be great to be a stay at home mom, but sometimes you just really need adult company! My good friend comes over once a week now, she helps me with the housework if I want, or if I want, we just sit on our butts and watch gilmore girls, and she takes care of diapers and feedings while she's here. It's awesome, and I look forward to that day every week.

Hope - posted on 05/28/2010

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As you can tell your not alone in this feeling. I get a little lonely at times. But not lonely for others but lonely for time by myself. I have a wonderful husband so when I am feeling this way I will go and get a book and he takes the kids out for some daddy time. I am a stay at home mother and thank goodness these moods do not happen often. However as you can see with the reply's some mothers need to get out often. Now I think one of the reasons I do not feel this that often is because I take the boys out everyday. We go to the park allot and play ball outside and fish...things that will offer me to get up and move around with them. The more I move around the better I seem to feel. And I also have early bedtimes for my boys of 6 and 4. They go to bed at 7pm and get to watch one movie. So I do get time alone with doing this. However to each there own and if you feel like you need to get out then you should take heed of the feelings you are having. You could also find another mother and have play dates set up. You would then at least have another adult to talk with and your kids would be having fun playing at the same time.
None of us parent the same or feel the same and your the only one who can answer the whole job issue. If money is not a big issue then maybe you just need to get out and clear your head every day. Again I have a wonderful husband who is a partner in raising our children so this has to contribute to my lack of feeling crazy all the time. I have friends who have absent or lazy fathers for there children and I can say if I was in there shoes, I would go NUTS...lol However I must point out that being a stay at home mother is not an easy task but I hope that it helps you to know your not alone.

Lisa - posted on 05/28/2010

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I have a 2 1/2 year old and 9 month old and I feel the same way. I feel guilty for wanting to go back to work, but I feel like there has to be more than doing laundry and changing diapers all day and arguing about too much tv time or sitting on the potty. Sometimes after being home all the time, it's just downright depressing! I just secured a really good job, but I have a feeling that once I start working, I'll wish that I could be home with them. At least I'll appreciate the time that I have with them more. Good luck with everything!

Erin - posted on 05/28/2010

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I feel the same way almost every day. I did go back to work part time and ended up coming back home because I missed her. Sounds crazy I know but I have found it alot easier to just stay outside with her. She can do her thing and not need me all the time and I will just pull weeds or find somethin to do. Sometimes I will just sit in my beach chair to get some sun. For some reason its just less stressfull and overwhelming to stay out.

Candice - posted on 05/28/2010

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I felt the same way when I first had my oldest child who is now 2 yrs old. I became very depressed because I was glued to the house for the first 6 months of her life. You should absolutely get a job or volunteer if thats what makes you happy. Happy mommy = Happy baby. :)

MINDY - posted on 05/28/2010

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Staying at home is hard,but totally worth it.Do you want someone esle looking after him?Theres groups you can join.Theres a web site Cafemom I belong to and theres different groups you can join.it helped me make some great friends.Where do you live if you need to talk just look me up.I have a 2yr old.

Azaria - posted on 05/28/2010

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well, i love spending time with my daughter, there's time when i got really mad wheh she does crazy things but thats just fine with me. but i have to look for a job anyway cos my husband is driving me nuts accusing me having a great time at home unlike him have to go out and work his butt out and he's been complaining this and that the expenses is too high bla bla bullshit. urgh i really need to get a job ASAP so i dont have to ask money for groceries, diapers and formula milk anymore from him!

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