Do any of your partners think being a stay at home mum is easy?!?!?

Beth - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Me and my partner of 5 years had our baby daughter 5 months ago. We have always both worked but since having our daughter we decided it was best for her if i stay at home. Don't get me wrong i love that i can give her my undivided attention and feel i am doing the best by her but it always seems to get thrown in my face in an argument that my job is the easy one! Have any other of you stay at home mothers had this! I have tried explaining countless times that keeping up with a baby and keeping a 3 bedroom house in order is tough not to mention the fact that he gets weekends off! Which us mothers NEVER get! How to i respond to this when he brings it up that he has the rough end of the deal. I do understand working full time is hard but so is being a full time mother!!


Stifler's - posted on 08/08/2012




Sounds like you need to relax. Neither parent gets a weekend off. When your partner is home he should be doing things 50/50 with the kids and around the house. I know my husband feels bad that the kids are ready for bed by the time he gets home at night. It's hard when they are so small especially if you're breastfeeding and feel like the baby is always attached to you and dad can't really do much it still seems unfair. It will get easier when they're not feeding and whingeing constantly and can play by themselves for a bit. I used to feel the way you do when I had 2 under 2 and my husband sucked at feeding her the one night of the week I asked him to get up so I could have a whole night sleep. But now they are older and feed themselves and can walk things are easier, hang in there.

Michelle - posted on 08/08/2012




Unless he is in the position of having to look after her all day and night he may never understand. Maybe book a girls weekend away with your friends and leave him home to do it all.

My husband has never said I had the easy job, he says he does. He gets to switch off when he gets home and have 2 days off. Being a SAHM is the most thankless but rewarding job in the world.


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Mechelle - posted on 08/08/2012




My husband and I have had this argument MANY times! We have been together 3 years. We have 3 children. A 4 year old, an 18 month old and a 6 month old. I am a stay at home mom and he has an overwhelming job. He lays floors (hardwood, ceramic, etc) and is constantly working long hours and weekends. He thinks that his job is harder, which, physically, yes it is. My point of view is, his job may be more physically demanding, but my job is physically, mentally and emotionally demanding. I talk to 3 children all day long (only 1 can talk). He feels that because I don't have to work outside the home that my job is easier. I can barely keep up with the house because of the ages of my children.

After 2 1/2 years of this and never getting a single break, I ended up with post partem depression after my youngest was born. My husband had to take time off work and be the stay at home parent. After 2 weeks of taking complete care of 3 young children all day and all night, he now understands and we have not argued over whose job is harder.

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