Do men lose all functioning motor skills when they get married?

April - posted on 03/03/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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What is it about men that when they get married, they lose all capability of doing anything for themselves. My husband's first mistake was to marry a woman who was 30 years old. I was set in my ways and determined that I would not live like the women before me.



When we first married, I was working more hours and earning more money than he was. I told him that he's responsible for his own laundry because I'm not Wonder Woman, I can't do it all. Now, even though I am not working, he's still doing his own laundry. We now have three little ones, I already have to wash 14 loads a week, so he can handle two loads. He makes comments that other guys he works with, their wives do their laundry. I just say, "that's nice". I have enough to do.



Being at home is more than a full time job. They don't get it. A few years ago when I was working, he was laid off and staying home with just two kids for two months. He couldn't keep up with the house. His mother came over to help him clean. So, I bring this up anytime he says anything to me about the cleanliness of the house.



His other job that I refuse to do is taking out the trash. My mother will come over and she want's to take out my trash and I say, "No, it's his only job, let him keep it."



I know that there are a few understanding men out there. Even though my husband is the best man for me, he is still like most men. They think that since they are working outside of the house, that they do it all. But we need to stand our ground and let them continue doing stuff around the house.



My great grandparents had 15 children. He outlived her by 15 years. Why? Because she probably did it all. If you want to grow old with your man, let him take some of the responsibility. We owe it to ourselves and to our children.

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Dawn - posted on 03/10/2009

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actually it does work on my hubby sometimes. i have to throw a fit and cry first. but he will get up and attempt to help. doesn't always do it the right way but he at least tries. this only works once in a while though. then he figures out what i'm trying to do!! LOL. like this morning i got mad that he said last night that he was taking today off and then said this morning he wasn't. well he took my daughter to work with him cause he knew i was mad!

Kate CP - posted on 03/10/2009

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Dawn, going on strike won't work. Men never do anything unless really prompted to do so. They don't even buy new underwear when the old ones get holes. You know the kind of holes I mean? The ones you can fit a friggin' watermelon through. Ugh.

Dawn - posted on 03/10/2009

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wow nicely put!! i was just thinking about that this morning! my husband thinks that because i don't earn a paycheck that i don't work! i'm pretty sure that i work harder and longer than him everyday! it's so frustrating. at first his 3 jobs in the house were to mow the lawn, take out the trash and change the cat litter. now that we are done having children and there is no chance of me being pregnant he won't change the litter anymore. says it's my cat so i should do it. he rarely takes the garbage out. if it's full instead of changing the bag he will just put stuff on the floor in front if it or leave it on the counter for me to clean. he won't take his dishes to the kitchen...he rarely does his own laundry. i have to do the laundry for me and 2 kids...he used to do his own and wash the dishes and stuff back when i was still working but now he can't seem to do it. it's very frustrating. i mean he walks by the garbage and sees that it's overflowing and that i'm busy with the baby or whatever but still won't change it...he lives here too and these are his kids too...so idk why he thinks he doesn't have to help out. i think we should all go on strike!!!! no cooking or cleaning for a week!!!! then they can see just how much we really do! he wouldn't last one day as a stay at home dad i know it! i left him in the car for 10 minutes yesterday with both kids while i ran into the store...the baby was screaming of course and he was PISSED that he had to sit and listen to it! o well...now you got a taste of what i go through all day and all night!!! ok sorry i'm done now:) LOL!

Jody - posted on 03/03/2009

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When I was working full time, my husband was great. He helped with everything. Neither of us had any set chores. We just did what we could. Now I have been a stay at home mom since July and he has literally forgotten how to do everything...even close a cupboard door!!  We mostly just joke about it, but some days I cannot help but wonder what happened to that anal rententive, "nothing is clean enough for me" guy? Ha!

Kate CP - posted on 03/03/2009

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My hubby has some chores at home. Sometimes I get fed up with the way he does them and I end up doing them myself. But then we have a "lesson" and he re-learns how to load the dishwasher or fold a shirt. Men. :P

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