Do you think I should let them play together?

Hayley - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My little girl (2 years old) is very fond of our neighbor who is around her age, I originally thought this was great because they can play together daily if they want to, but now I'm worried because of a few strange things in the neighbor girls life. Now before I get into that I want to say that I am in no way suggesting that the neighbor girl isn't good enough. All children are good and they all deserve love but I worry about the effect she might have on my little girl. First of all she doesn't legally live next to us, her mom's cousin is my neighbors daughter and her mom is a drug addict so she has just abandoned her here. She comes for her every once in a blue moon but normally returns her within a period of 4-6 hours. My first concern is that EmmaLynn will get really attached to this child and she will then be taken away and EmmaLynn will be heart broken. Secondly the little girl has some bad manners from the time she does spend with her mom, like yelling "shut up" and "stupid" which I don't want EmmaLynn to learn. Emmie loves the little girl and she loves Emmie so I hate to keep them separate but what if they become even more attached and then her cracked out mom takes her away because they wont give her drug money or because some one finally points out that she's a horrible mother.


Carla - posted on 04/14/2010




If i were you, i would let them play but always be there to supervise thier play if you dont feel comfortable. You gotta look at it this way, she will eventually have friends that are bad influences or at least know someone that is. Unfornately we cant keep them sheltered forever:(

Good luck!


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Kim - posted on 04/14/2010




I would allow them to play, she will have friends later in life that will be bad influences on her, and she will also lose friends and loved ones during her life. it is something that all kids go through at one point or another. And even if she does get attached to this little girl, and the little girl gets taken by her mother, she will be hurt yes, but it will go away and she is young enough that in a few months she won't even remember the little girl from next door. I don't see the harm in letting the two play. But if you are uncomfortable then I say you always be there when they are playing so you can monitor it yourself. I hope this helps, good luck!

Sarah - posted on 04/14/2010




I too would allow them to play together, but make sure you are there to supervise. I would look at it as you could be the positive person/family in her life. When she says or does things that are not acceptable let her know that here (my house, yard, etc.) we don't say those words or do those things. It sounds like she does not really have anyone to teach her those things. As for the leaving part. I think that is just part of life. Families move all the time, so the chances that as she gets older and is in school a friend she becomes close to ends up moving is highly likely. But you realize that though you miss them life still goes on and you don't have to stop being friends just because you moved.

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