Do you think it is ok to reward a 2 year old, that is being potty trained, with candy?

Nayuribe - posted on 06/07/2011 ( 56 moms have responded )

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We've been potty training for 2 weeks, and today, she made it to to toilet (she didn't start there though). When she was done, we called my BF at work, we were all screaming and jumping up and down (we're a loud family), and I needed to reward her for actually finishing IN the toilet!!! I gave her a lollipop, which she rarely gets. She kept repeating, "toilet, candy, toilet, candy." I think she got it! LOL! I had to think quick and reward her somehow, and candy was the 1st thing that popped in my head. Any thoughts, suggestions?

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Kim - posted on 06/09/2011

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I started out rewarding my daughter with candy, which worked well until I found she was getting too much candy.... then I switched to a sticker system where she got 1 sticker for pee, and 2 for poop. After she got 5 stickers, she got a candy. Then towards the end I started using beads. Being a girl she loved necklaces and jewels, so I bought her some beads and cord (she picked the beads) and we switched from stickers to beads, so she got a necklace in the end. She LOVED that.

Mary - posted on 06/07/2011

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I did the same thing when potty training my daughter, but "they" say not to reward kids with food because it will lead to eating/food disorders. I dont do it anymore, just incase. I would suggest trying to reward with stickers instead. :)

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Margaret, I'm surprised that someone as experienced and streetwise as yourself would condone giving stickers or praise. In the "real" world people who do truly good things often get sh!t on. So why raise praise mongering children with no sense of reality?

Oh wait, that's ridiculous... sort of like thinking giving a kid a piece of candy for a good deed here and there is going to turn them in to greedy money grubbers... that's also ridiculous.

Mabel - posted on 06/13/2011

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Why do you think it is a "rod" Margaret?I do the sticker,candy and praise.I don't see what the problem is to giving a treat once in a while.He doesn't get a sucker every time he goes but he knows if that is what he wants instead of his sticker or he successfully pulls his pants down by himself then yes he gets that little something extra.He likes to tell everyone that he is a big kid now!

Annie - posted on 06/10/2011

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We haven't started potty training yet. But, my mom used to give us one M and M as a reward. I plan to do the same.

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Dashanda - posted on 06/15/2011

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I reward my son with butter cookies if he went pee pee (1) cookie pooped( 2) cookies he caught on very quickly and was potty trainined before his 2nd birthday!I think you should do COOKIES because the candy is not good for there teeth.Good Luck with potty training!

Jessica - posted on 06/15/2011

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They did this on Jon and Kate plus 8 back when they were potty training, it seemed to work but personally I wouldn't. I have issues with junk food and I just don't want my LO seeing it as a reward, I want to try to make him think of junk as being the bottom of the totem poll on things he wants to eat.

Kiley - posted on 06/15/2011

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We potty trained our daughter by 1.5yrs. Never gave her candy, just sang and yelled/danced.. And told her we were proud of her. The process was fast. Personally, I'm not a fan of giving children sweets as a reward..but hey, we all do it differently ;)

Andrea - posted on 06/15/2011

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I think rewarding her is a great idea I used gummi bears when I trained my little boy :) But you can use other things as rewards too like stickers for instance my kids love stickers so it works well lol. I think the reward system is great, it helped me so so much when training my kids its very good motivation lol. Good Luck :)

Toni - posted on 06/15/2011

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That is how I trained my two older boys. They got a Dum Dum sucker when they used the potty, and since they rarely got them, they knew they were doing something. :) I see nothing wrong with it.

Cindy - posted on 06/15/2011

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A better reward would be a star,or sticker on a chart. When she gets 10 then a real reward.

Carrie - posted on 06/14/2011

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Yes it's a common reward. go potty get one piece of candy. My youngest niece got one skittle my daughter got what ever was her favorite candy that week. Then we moved to a sicker chart and a trip to the dollar store every week.

Len - posted on 06/14/2011

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We use both candy and a sticker chart. Pee is just a sticker and #2 is a Tic-Tac. I of course use LOTs of praise, hugs, and kisses also but they get those for several different good things they do potty training should be EXTRA special and it only takes a little while for them to figure out what the potty is for and then you faze the candy and stickers out and they just get a good job. I think my son took about a month (one pack of tic-tacs), my one daughter took a week once she was ready (at almost 4) so she didn't get very many, and now daughter #2 has been working on it for two weeks and no longer gets candy.

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I initially used smarties to generate interest and fun for what could otherwise be a scary experience. one smarty each time he went pee. But once he started going more regularly, we switched over to stickers. Since then, he's moved into undies and uses the potty because it's better than wetting his pants. No rewards needed- clean dry underwear seems to be incentive enough!

Julie - posted on 06/14/2011

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No - never reward a child for something that is naturally expected of them. Life is just that way - better they learn that now.
DO reward them verbally and with hugs! ♥

Amanda - posted on 06/14/2011

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I started out giving my daughter candy first, but I am very conscious of what it would do to her teeth in the long run, so I made my daughter a potty chart. Every time she went potty or poo poo I would give her a stamp. I for potty and 2 for poop. At the end of the week I would get her a prize. The thing is she was so excited to get the stamps and the actual prize was a big bonus for doing good. Always give your children praise for doing good. Hope this helps.

Stephanie - posted on 06/14/2011

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I think thats fine. We potty trained our 3 yr old at 2 1/2 with her Halloween candy. It worked great. Yes, eventually she once she got it she would go pee every 30 min for candy. So at that point we started a 3 sticker program so for every 3 stickers she could get a treat but we switched it to yogurt or sufgar free pudding and jello cups. Now she rarely ever asks for a sticker for pee anymore. But poopie is a little harder to get the hang of so for poopies she gets 3 m&m's and for staying dry at nap and bedtime she gets a real fruit sugar free Popsicle. And yes we brushed her teeth real good 2 times a day :) Just do whatever seems to work better for you and her.

Annabutton - posted on 06/14/2011

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Sounds like my daughter three weeks ago (Regarding the accidents). I tried three weeks later and she is doing so much better. She might not be completely ready and you don't want to force it. I don't believe in rewarding with food and I also didn't believe in rewarding with stuff but.... I've found stickers for peeing and a little toy for pooping works fantastic.

Stacy - posted on 06/14/2011

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We used m&m's for my daughter when she potty trained, and plan to use them for my son as well. When we started, I did worry about her expecting them forever every time she went, but she didn't have them that long. We gave one for trying, two for peeing and three for poop. After I considered her fully trained, I stopped offering, and she gradually stopped asking for them. I like to think of it as some extra teaching too - colors, counting. I think the idea someone had of sugar free candy is a good one, as it will give the kid more time on the potty. The more of it they eat, the more they will poop. Good practice, if a little messy :)

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It worked with all three of my sons i used to give them a small piece of chocolate every time they did a pee or poop

Christina - posted on 06/14/2011

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i think candy is ok. when my 8 year old was trainning i gave candy when she did number two. my sister in law actually did a sticker board so every time my niece went to bathroom she got to choose a new sticker to put on the board in her room

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whatever works, we toilet trained our son with chocolate. i had a bag of freddo frogs, and broke each frog into about 6 pieces, and then every time he sat on the toilet and weed or pooed he got a chocolate. it took me about 3 weeks to toilet train him that way, and once he was good at it i started to stop the chocolates.

Bernadette - posted on 06/13/2011

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whatever works for you. If it's a rare treat, then she is going to associate it with toilet-training and it will encourage her to use the toilet more often. If it's something she gets all the time then it's not really going to encourage her, is it, because she knows that she can just get it another way. And if it's the sugar content you're worried about, then a once-in-a-while treat isn't going to hurt as long as her teeth are brushed properly.

Stifler's - posted on 06/13/2011

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Yes. They're a kid they need lots of praise for doing the right thing.

Heather - posted on 06/13/2011

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I think it's ok! This is actually my reward plan for when we start potty training in a few months. My sister rewarded her son with peanut m&m's when he went on the big boys potty and it worked wonders! He knew that if he went pee he got 1 m&m, if he went poo he got 2 m&m's. Then as it became a regular thing for him to go potty on his own in the toilet, she decreased the treats. Pretty soon he was potty trained and didn't even ask for "nummy nums" any more. Good luck!

Mabel - posted on 06/13/2011

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Well I am glad this is just your opinion and not the act of a self-righteous woman who needs to tell people what they are doing wrong with their children.I and others don't seem to have a problem giving a piece of candy to a child or a reward for doing well on something.If you really want to blame someone for the kids who want every little toy or thing on t.v they see then you can pass that one to some of those grandparents who believe it is their right to do that Because they are the grandparents and they don't have to go by the rules of parenting Also what about that job you have/had with the children.Did you get paid for that or was a pat on the back for a nice job reward enough for you? You make it sound like it is a death sentence for these kids to learn from this example and I have another question.When a child that you are (helping) who is homeless do you actually tell them they can't have the candy because it teaches them about being greedy and self absorbed While you stick a piece in your mouth? Oh and before I forget ...there is my opinion.also I noticed you are the only one who had to put the whole god bless at the end of your statement and you are the only one who is telling us that it is wrong to treat our children too.

Imagine that........=)

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I refer to it as a 'rod' Tonya, as I speak from experience as a mother of 3, grandmother of 2, ex dhildcare worker and former nanny and now I'm ministering on the streets amongst homeless families, many with young children.. I've met and cared for children from all walks of life (being homeless doesn't mean one is destitute, it means one has no home). Overwhelmingly, those children who have been rewarded for toiletting with 'sweets' even those whose sweets were 'rationed' by their parents, now look to material reward for everything they achieve, a 'hug' for instance, is no longer suitable reward, and the reward expected increases in monetary value as the child ages. I have two separate families struggling with a child, who originally was rewarded with a sweet when managing to use a toilet, now dealing with children who are expecting a video game for making their beds. Yes, it is an extreme example and a lot has to do with parenting skills, but once basic achievements are rewarded with more than praise or at most a sticker the flood gates open. And now for those who wish to continue with their rewards, I wish you well....you invited opinion by posting here, and I gave you mine...I didn't say you had to accept it. God bless/

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Sure it's fine. So long as she's not getting candy for going potty when she's ten.

My kid actually didn't care for stickers or candy. Her 'reward' was that she got to tear the toilet paper, flush the potty, and wash her hands...three things that I don't let her do unless she potties. For some reason my kid really likes tearing toilet paper and flushing and hand washing.

Rachel - posted on 06/13/2011

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I reward my 18 month old daughter with chocolate when she goes on the toilet. I think it's good to accustom them to a reward for doing a good behavior. When they get older and can understand that it what they are supposed to do anyways, without the reward then start taking the candy away. So far with our daughter she is going a steady 2-3 times on the toilet a day, letting us know that she has to go.

Candi - posted on 06/13/2011

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for my son, we used Gummy snacks. We let him pick out the ones he wanted and every time he used the potty, he got a pack. He was completely trained at 17 months! lol. My daughter potty trained herself before she turned 2 and her reward for training in less than 2 weeks was a new pack of panties! My youngest got the same reward (a pack of panties). My kids were easy! lol

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we tried everything you can thing off, best for use was a potty chart. I started it with stickers for sat on the potty and for went in the potty. He was very back and forth but stickers seemed his best ploy and i could give them to him 100+ times a day with no worrys. My plan was that as he got more consistant with the sitting and peeing i would change the chart to simply peeing and pooping, but that never happened he most literally potty trained over night. We went from full daipers one morning, to he woke up from nap asked for underware and NEVER LOOKED BACK. I wasn't even ready for it he was 6 months old. We let him pick a toy after about a week

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You're making a rod for your own back if you do...why not the 'old fashioned' star for successfully using the potty (or toilet)? Most kids love sticking their stars onto their own chart, and showing everyone how grown up they are!

Summer - posted on 06/13/2011

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I personally think it's okay, but some people don't. My 2 yr old has been completely trained for about 8 months and she was rewarded. I put half a poster board on the bathroom wall and let her put a sticker on it when she successfully went potty. She loved it!

Cynthia - posted on 06/12/2011

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we used sugar free candy. it worked in just days. after 2 or 3 weeks we didnt have to give the candy any more.

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I didn't do it, but I'm not opposed to it.

For the girls.... they had a sticker chart and when they got so many stickers.... they got to go to the store across the street w/ Daddy and get an ice cream.

For my son (who potty trained himself)... he also had a sticker chart. His prize for filling it though was giving it to whoever he wanted. ;)

Katrina - posted on 06/12/2011

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My aunt used to keep jelly beans, and gave one to her kids whenever they used the potty. I used a sticker chart (mainly because Daddy ate the candy I'd bought, not realising what it was for lol). I think it's perfectly ok, it's worth rewarding them in a way you find appropriate- they're YOUR kids, nobody elses x

Nicole - posted on 06/10/2011

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YEAH!!! She absolutely should be rewarded!!! I did mini M&M's because then it is a little something each time and not a lollipop everytime.

Erica - posted on 06/10/2011

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I would think candy is ok as long as it not too much each day. Try stickers though. Its amazing how excited little ones get over stickers. Lol

Valerie - posted on 06/10/2011

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absolutely! whatever works..use different candies that get smaller...congrats!!

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Not sure if anyone has said this yet... But probably don't want to do candy. What are you going to do when she is peeing on the potty 10 times a day?! DD had a difficult time with pooping from being constipated, so we started rewarding with stickers. She got to pick out the stickers at the store and after she poops she asks for Elmo (elmo stickers). Some things we reward with special time with mommy or daddy, we may read her a book or dance with her as she loves having our undivided attention. Although she gets my attention most of the day I just made a big deal about it and now she is excited to clean up the toys because we dance like crazy after!

Ashley - posted on 06/10/2011

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personally i trained four child (mine and close family members' children) with praise and sticker chart, if they filled the chart they got to pick the play place (park, front yard, or mall, etc.) I don't believe that children should have candy more then just a few pieces every couple of months if even then ( mostly at holidays and/or birthdays). If you start making food a reward that will lead to eating problems later. You just have to make the praise very exciting and very sincere, they can always tell if you are faking it or if it is just blasé

Nayuribe - posted on 06/10/2011

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@alisha: 5 kids????!!!!! WOW!!!
i've loved all the suggestions, thank you mommies!! both my daughters LOVE stickers!! and i speacilly liked Kims', with the beads!! Alana loves necklecess, but she brakes them to get the "balls" then i'll have them all over the floor, hahaha!!! so i think i'll go with the stickers!!

Alisha - posted on 06/10/2011

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i think its a great idea! I have succesfully potty trained 3 of my 5 with candy as a reward for pottying.

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A good job deserves a good reward! I was told by my MIL that she used M&Ms and gave us a jar full of them. If the candy works, then use it! Stickers may or may not work. My girl eats stickers so they don't work for us LOL

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Stickers on an incentive chart are a great idea. Candy is good too. If you're worried about the sugar, try those mini m&m's that come in the tube. It will last you a while and you won't have to worry about the sugar as much.

Mabel - posted on 06/09/2011

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We are doing th praise ,sticker and sucker technique. I want to make sure he gets the concept of no more diapers...
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Jane - posted on 06/09/2011

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that worked better than stickers for us. as long as it's not money, it is okay. whatever gets the job done. eventually, they will abandon asking for the reward. in the afternoons, i gave stickers so the sugar content in their bodies isn't all day long. you can do one little candy and do 1 piece for pee and 2 pieces for poo.

Anna - posted on 06/09/2011

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We used M&Ms. I understand that it's not a perfect solution but stickers weren't working. We just did that until the bag was gone. After that we would say, "time for potty" he would sit there and do his thing, ask for an M&M and we would tell him they were all gone, but good job for going in the toilet, yay! and he accepted that and eventually stopped asking for them. We still need to resort to bribing sometimes, when I can tell he's got to go but he's too busy to want to bother. Then I just play his dinosaur song on my cell phone in the bathroom and say, 'let's go potty while we listen to your song' and he usually goes then.

Kelly - posted on 06/09/2011

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it isn't the candy that is the problem, it is how much u give her. a lollipop that she only gets as a reward for using the potty is fine. some people use stickers. some uses so many stickers gets u a treat or a trip to the dollar store. just have to remember that the reward is just for the potty not something she would get any other time

Iysha - posted on 06/09/2011

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Hey, whatever works!! lol...my little sister had to be bribed with a cabbage patch doll and a trip to Disney Land. She drove a hard bargain =] I was trained by just my mom being excited every time i went in the potty.

Cristina - posted on 06/09/2011

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You can try a sticker chart that is above their potty. Every time they pee or poop in the potty, they can get a sticker and once they get four stickers, then they can get a prize, like a balloon or a really big sticker.

I only resorted to treats like candy and chocolate because my eldest daughter was afraid of going poop in the potty in the beginning so she was getting constipated. Then as soon as you'd put on her diaper she'd go! So at first the treats worked for the pooping part but then afterwards she came to expect a treat right after she'd go potty. But now, she's used to just going to the potty without any rewards except praise from everyone else (she's now 2.5 yo).

Anne - posted on 06/08/2011

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LOL, whatever works for you! I think candy is fine. It's not like you will be doing this forever.
My son was already 3 1/2 when we potty trained him. He understood what was going on, but was just too lazy to use the potty. His incentive was: don't pee your pants for 3 days and you get a Hot Wheels car! That worked for him.

Christy - posted on 06/07/2011

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In my opinion, yes, it's fine. Some families I know use two or three M&M's or skittles so they're not getting a lot at a time. Just be sure the teeth get brushed super good!

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