does any ever get stuck at home all day everyday and your partner is never greatfull for u?

Carley - posted on 01/12/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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im at home all day everyday never get to go out unless my bf lets me use the car. when i do the washing and clean up hes never greatful he just calls me lazy. wat do i do? ive threatened him to split up but he dnt care

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Kimberly - posted on 01/13/2010

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If he didn't care about the threat then I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship. This does not necessarily mean that you need to split but I think the communication needs to be expanded. Sit him down and give him a visual list of what all you do. Ask him what exactly his expectations are and determine what yours are. Be open and honest and let him know that you feel taken for granted. I don't think guys really understand that being a stay at home mom is a full time job in it self. Another option is to determine what it would cost him to accomplish what it is that you do if he had to pay someone else to do it. example, what would he spend on food, laundry, errands, babysitting, etc. Men tend to speak in the bottom line in terms of what it costs for their investment. Well, you invest a great deal in your family, tell him what that costs, so he can see in dollars that you DO contribute to the household. (I've personally used this last one and it worked with my fiance'.)

Melissa - posted on 01/12/2010

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All I can say is I am so sorry I know how you feel! I haven't worked for over 2years almost 3 and I want a job so bad! just for the social aspect of it! I am so great full for him letting me be a stay at home mom but I get lonely all the time! we live 20+ miles out of town so I don't have anyone close to lean on. All I do is clean and take care of my 21 month little boy I almost feel like a nanny at times. My husband tells me the same thing about being lazy and not caring if I leave. I think it is because he knows I wont leave because I wont have anything and I do not have family that can help me out or for me to lean on for help. I may not have the greatest advise but I think it helps to just talk about stuff so if you have someone to talk to on the phone once a day it helps! I know I feel a lot better if I just call someone and see how there day is going and BS for a little bit! I wish I could help you out more but I am kinda in the same boat... hope things get better for you!

Ashley - posted on 01/12/2010

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I feel the same way! I stay at home all the time and ive told him over and over if he wants me to go back to work i will but he wants me to stay home and im glad hes letting me and im able but he thinks that (in my opinion) that he can tell me where to go and when and thats makes me very mad but i try my best! He calls me lazy sometimes but i do everything wash clothes, dishes and everything! I know where u are coming from! we have came close to breaking up but he tells me i cant do it alone! U can find me and become my friend so maybe we can talk about things! Whenever we are both online! Hope things get better!

Kathleen - posted on 01/12/2010

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So sorry you feel this way.....Do you live where you can reach out to friends or family to drive you places during the day once in a while? Or could you walk to the library or a park where you might meet other moms in similar situations? If you could get a group of girlfriends to lean on you might feel less alone.....Good luck!

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