does any one else have a very leaky bladder after having kids?

Christiine - posted on 03/18/2012 ( 24 moms have responded )




i am 22 years old after my first baby i didnt have a leaky bladder till 11 months after he was born and now that i have a second child its worse i cant control the leaking


Bethany - posted on 03/18/2012




oh dear. You poor mummy. I havn't got leaks, but I do cross my feet over if I'm standing up and I need to sneeze :) I flex my pubic muscles to stop any sneaky wees that might come out when I sneeze.

I'd look into some very regular pelvic floor excersises. The bladder is supported by 'elastic bands' of muscle that cross over under it. You can 'pull' these muscles up towards your navel as if you're trying not to wee, but if your butt is clenching, you're not doing it right, just your wee muscles. It's quite tricky and if you can just hold them tight for count of 5 then relax, and do that 5 or 6 times, that's good.

Through the day, do that a few times, when you're washing up, when you're watching tv, when you're at a red light in the car, waiting in line anywhere, when ever, the muscles will slowly build up their strength. Good luck!

Trisha - posted on 03/25/2012




I. Had the same problem, you should talk to your dr mine annoys me but when I went ffor my. Pap he told me it was normal discharge I had my kids close together to he. Said that it can. Causee your bladder to not bounce back as good as if you only had one child. I'd say talk to your dr & see what he says I doubt there's anything that can help other than. A panty liner good luck :)

Tara - posted on 03/20/2012




I have the same problem and have had since my oldest was born (she's turning four March 22). You should get checked by your doctor to see if you have any type of uterine or bladder prolapse (basically the muscles supporting them aren't working as well and they fall a bit out of place).

Lois has pretty much summed up the options your doctor will offer you in addition to suggesting trying Kegel exercises first. I have a grade 1 uterine prolapse, but it isn't bad enough to require surgery or a pessary insert. I do Kegels and they do help. I also make sure that if I feel like I might have to go, I go, because if I wait too long I will leak, or if I cough or sneeze or laugh I will leak. If the prolapse gets worse then they will consider the pessary insert or the surgical repair but until then it is Kegels and making sure you go when you first feel the need.

Sandy - posted on 03/19/2012




It's been four years since my first and last childbirth, and I still pee myself a little when I sneeze, cough hard, jump and dance. I also have a difficult time holding my pee, like I used to be able to do. It's almost comical. Everyone says it'll get better. The jury's still out on that. :p

Kristy - posted on 03/23/2012




I didn't have this problem with my first two pregnacys but my last labor was induced and it was long and drawn out. Well after a very healthy 7 lbs 14 oz baby boy was born I noticed I had a hard time with my bladder control. I was told to do kegals, but that wasn't really enough. I found after a long hard labor I could barley do them at all. After being ignored by my OB/GYN I took matters into y own hands and did an internt search and founf out its a very common problem for women after childbirth, espiecally after difficult labors. So what you need to do is get a kegal exersiser. You can get them off of not only will it help with your baldder but it will also help with your love life as well. there are many out there in all shapes and sizes but the one I recoment is they GyneFlex. ther are three different clolors to choose from I recomend since you are having such a hard time getting the white set first and work up to the pink and eventually the blue set. There are two differnet strengths that come in the box plus an instruction manuel. If you find this set is too easy for you then get the pink set. This will help with controling your bladder. Good luck.


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Davisdana011 - posted on 04/03/2015




I am also 22 and about to have my first...I have been peeing myself when I laugh since I was a small child...I have one week left to make up my mind on whether or not I want to have a C...any suggestions?

Barb - posted on 04/05/2012




There is such a thing as a Vaginal Therapist. I know someone who works for one and she said what they do for people is miraculous. Sounds like it's more than just Kegels. She told us about an elderly woman who'd had this problem for years but after treatment she was crying (for joy) and hugging everyone because she no longer had to wear diapers! She was a new woman. I think I'd look into it if i ever got to the point of having to wear pads daily. I don't know why it's not more well known... I guess we don't like to talk about it. I don't know how common vaginal therapists are but hopefully you can find one near you!

Debbie - posted on 03/27/2012




oh yeah its sometimes really embarassing sometimes im still there havent found a cure for it yet so i wear a liner

Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2012




Its normal. It happened to me after my 3rd baby. It will take some time but after 6 months you will be back to your old self.

Deborah - posted on 03/21/2012




get yourself refered for physio therapy , the physio will give you specific excercises to help don't feel alone , this happens almost all women at some point after having babies, maybe your doctor should check you for prolapse also , this happens in 50% of women but they don't tell you that while you are pregnant

Lois - posted on 03/20/2012




I have the same after my first, was in labour for 20 hours with an hour and a half of pushing in obstructed labour which ruined my pelvic floor. Am now expecting my second and still doing the pelvic floor exercises!

Pelvic floor exercises are essential but can only do so much. If you have a really leaky bladder you could try a ring pessary, a shelf pessary, or ultimately surgery. Most of the surgery these days is straightforward and day-case rather than having to be in hospital for a long time, try googling TVT and colposuspension/bladder prolapse repair. I hope that helps.

Gretchen - posted on 03/20/2012




I too have problems holding my bladder and find making more frequent trips to the toilet helps and also cutting back on fluids if im going out for the day. (Not big on public restrooms!)

I noticed more problems with sneezing, coughing, etc after my first child at age 21. Fast forward to age 35 (my son is 3) and ive noticed the trouble holding back. Kegles helped me some but its also what happens with babies and age :)

Talk to your doctor also, thats why they are there.

Good luck, i hope you find relief soon! :)

Nikki - posted on 03/19/2012




I had it a tiny bit after my first and got referred to physio and got a special insert with a rod on the end so you can see if you are doing the excercises correctly, you lie on your back and watch it move, brilliant idea. After having my second child, kegels are just NOT working. I have been referred to the hospital and I actuallly have a prolapse of the bladder. I also got one of those diagpram thingys but I couldnt get it in on my own. I have to go back in 6 months, and I might get surgery. But I have to wear pads every day now, and I hate it, i feel like an old lady Im only 36.

It gets me really down, but there is not much I can do about it. This is also the first time I have told anyone about it!!! So thanks for lettin me get it off my chest

If you have no luck with kegels I would ask to get reffered. xxx good luck xxx

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Someone mentioned kegels already and I would like to add squats. I've been doing them this pregnancy and have gotten great results! Highly rec'd HabIt Pelvic Floor DVD

Tabitha - posted on 03/19/2012




12th pregnancy...her poor body. Well the upside to the insert she got is there won't be anymore babies for a while which should give her body time to heal! Anyway, I too have this problem. My last pregnancy was more than 10 years ago. But I cannot cough or sneeze without first taking a trip to the bathroom or I'll have to change my General leaking should go away after a while though.

Bonnie - posted on 03/19/2012




Christine, I don't know how long it has been since you gave birth to your second child, but it does get better, at least it did for me. Now i'm pregnant with my third so we'll see how long it takes this time, but it wasn't as bad before I got pregnant with my third.

Liz - posted on 03/18/2012




I have a friend who is on her 12th pregnancy and finally convinced her doctor that she absolutely cannot control her peeing! She can't feel it coming or anything. Her doctor gave her an insert (sorry I'm not sure what it's called) that goes in like a diaphragm but helps to support the bladder. The only problem(s) with it though, are that you can't have sex with it in AND you can't put it back in yourself. I know there is also a surgery they can do but you have to be sure you're done having kids before they will do it. I hope something helps for you!

Karen - posted on 03/18/2012




An easy way to work those muscles is to pee, then stop, pee, then stop. Its annoying, but it helps. I remember doing it after I healed, and at first it was so hard to stop!

The sneezing though.. I have to brace for it like Bethany, but even then, sometimes a sneeze just sneaks up on you and you don't have time to prepare.

edit: When I say pee, then stop. I mean all at once in one bathroom break lol!

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