does anybody else wonder why theirkids will lie knowingthey will getcaught?10 &teachin my 3yo this t


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Sally - posted on 02/11/2010




children just do this i am afraid,especially little ones ust don't seem to get the fact that you know exactly what they have been up to. i find that instaed of just telling them off, get down to there level or sit on the sofa with them when they do something wrong and ask them thinds like. why do you think it was naughty to have done that? how do you think it made mummy feel when you did that? do you think that you should have done that? little things like this seem to save the big arguments and tantrums also help them to understand what they did and why it was wrong.this is what i do with my 4 and most of the time it is a possitive out come. also i tell them all that they will be in lots lots more trouble for lying than they will be for the actual thing they are lying about this usually helps loads. good luck.

Maura - posted on 02/09/2010




For little kids, an age-old Boston tradition: Tell them to stick out their tongue and that it has turned black, which means they are lying. Soon they will be reluctant to stick out the tongue, knowing you will "see" they are lying, soon they smile, soon stop lying. My mom did this and it worked great with my little one. If they run to mirror, you tell them it has already disappeared.

For the ten year old (and others): Psychologists give very good advice, don't set your child up for lying. Don't ask "Did you do this?" You know they did, so instead say "Why did you do this?" and "Why was that a bad idea?" and "Why are you supposed to be on time?" (not why are you late?) This doesn't leave room for lying and gets them to think about why something isn't good.

Lying can become a habit and a way of life. Good luck with this, let us know how it goes.

Rachelle - posted on 02/08/2010




my 3 and 4 yr olds both lie. i dont know how to stop it. my son will say whatever he thinks will make me happy. sometimes he even gives me 2 answers to the same q cause he doesnt know which one i want to hear. haha. if you have any suggestions for a cure let me know!

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