Does anyone baby cry as soon as you leave the room, when you return they stop crying?

User - posted on 04/21/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My baby just wont stop crying when I leave the but as soon I return to the roon she stops crying or when Im putting her to sleep when I put her down she just start crying again. Its driving me insane.

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Diomyrin - posted on 04/25/2010

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hi there, i have same problem with my baby..she is 8 mos now and yet when she dont see me around her she cries...she is too clingy and doesnt go with anyone else but me..she cries when other people go near her and picks her up even to the point of being around grANdparents....when her dad is around and i passed her over she cries coz she wants me..and when i leave she cries...it makes me so worried with the way she is..

Augusta - posted on 04/22/2010

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YES!! My son does that, I have been told it is separation anxiety, normal for babies at this age. It should not last for too much longer, yet it last for a couple of years with some children. What has worked for me is trying to get her use to other people holding, rocking, or comforting her when she is crying, that way she will know that it is OK if mommy isn't holding me when I am crying and is it OK if mommy is not in the room. You should see a great improvement. Hope this helps you out! Good luck!

Mirlace4 - posted on 01/15/2017

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My 6month old doing something. I'm abt crazy, idk who I am anymore. I hv him 24/7 every day alone

Jackie - posted on 04/22/2010

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How old is your little one now? The way i think of it is that you have been holding your baby for 9 months and to suddenly be pushed out into the big wide world, he/she is going to want to be held or cuddled or just know that your there. I would think it a positive thing, but he/she has developed that close bond with you. Im not sure what to do about the sleeping problem though. Im still awaiting for my little tiger to be born lol

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Hanife - posted on 04/22/2010

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Hi there,
Being a mother of 2 i have been through that. Firstly i would say its normal, and normally babies are so clever they get so used to your smell so when left alone they would cry, its a form of communication. However, i would like to point out that if a baby is constantly crying then it could be a medical matter, as i had found out when my son was a baby, he kept crying it turned out he had severe colic,and intolerance to baby milk. Good luck

Amy - posted on 04/21/2010

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My almost 2 year old just started doing it!!! It does get frustrating but it will get better!!! My daughter even wakes u in the middle of the night and gets out of her big girl bed and grabs her blanket climbs over her baby gate goes down stairs and crawls into bed with me!!! All the while kicking and stepping on my face!!! She is fine as long as she doesn't watch me walk out of the room! Forget it if she does see me!!! lol!!! I have been told it will get better!!!

Karin - posted on 04/21/2010

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I have four kids, and each of them went through this at some point (or multiple stressful periods of our lives). Tracy up above had a wonderful solution!
One thing we do is keep our child's crib at the foot of our bed during these periods, and we rub his/her back with a soothing, reassuring voice. If that doesn't work, we just snuggle them down in bed with us until they go back to sleep. Saves time, stress and lack of will-power of having to get up, go to their room, and do the routine. (Sometimes we woke up so late, they were fully awake after having a 4-hour 'nap'.)
Also, I found that if I use the same phrase in the same tone, it is reassuring no matter what the fear is. Heck, it still works with my 10 year old if he is having nightmares.
Get into a routine, and she will know what to expect from you.
As for daytime, I brought my kids with me everywhere when this was going on. I used a sling, bouncy chair, etc... so they were comfortable with me leaving. When they got older, they just follow me. It's frustrating, but there you have it.
I wish you all the patience I wish I had while going through this. It's not easy, but it does eventually get better. Good luck!

Natasha - posted on 04/21/2010

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I wish my son would stop crying if i came back into the room lol! He starts crying when i leave him but won't stop crying if i go to him and if i pick him up he just keeps crying and trying to get away from me then if i put him back down he screams louder. VERY VERY frustrating!! He has done this his whole life (he has just turned 1) and it kills me that i can't even comfort my own baby when he is upset. The only thing that works is leaving him to cry. For most babies though it is just a stage they go through. Your daughter is used to be apart of you and has just started realising that you are separate from her. This phase will pass but maybe you could try putting a worn item of your clothing next to her when you put her down to sleep. The smell may comfort her. All the best. xoxo

Sonia - posted on 04/21/2010

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My baby girl does the same thing, i try not to let it drive me crazy, what i do is if i have to be in the kitchen, i put her in the bouncer so she can see me, then if i have to go to the room to fold clothes, i put her on the bed so she can watch me, any where in the house i go, i try to put her where she can see me, no matter where im at in the house i always talk or sing to her, this way she can still hear my voice, this works for me, hope it helps u....

Tracy - posted on 04/21/2010

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She's having separation anxiety, and it is totally normal! At her age she doesn't understand that you're only in the next room. She thinks you've dropped off the face of the Earth! Try playing peek a boo with her to see if that will help her understand that just because she can't see Mommy it doesn't mean she's left the building! And when you put her to sleep stand crib side for a while and rub her back and sing to her or play her mobile or whatever soothes her. When she closes her eyes and seems to be drifting off, tip toe out of her room. She will eventually learn that you are still there, just in another room. Hang in there!

Lauren - posted on 04/21/2010

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My daughter is 9 months old and thats exactly what she does. She also cries when someone else wants to hold her but as soon as they give her back to me she will stop crying. I've heard some people say that she is "spoiled" and others just say that "she's a momma's girl". I just started using Jo the Nanny's (off of SuperNanny) method for letting a baby cry and its working wonders. Every baby is different though. You just have to figure out what will work best for your daughter.

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