Does anyone else do date night with significant other?

Jessica - posted on 04/05/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




I have 3 kids and don't get out and we never have adult youngest is 6 months and i have been out once to dinner on valentines day and then to a Carrie Underwood concert. Does anyone do date night and do u feel bad for leaving your kids?


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Jenna - posted on 04/06/2010




We have scheduled our "date time" normally on Sunday nights since that is when my mother-in-law takes our son for the night. We try to go out to dinner, even if it's just a local place and do some personal time together.

Jessica - posted on 04/06/2010




It is just very hard to find a sitter I can trust..I live about an hour and half from my mom and shes the only one i trust with my kids.My daughter is type 1 diabetic and my son has adhd and can be hard to handle at times then my youngest is 6 months.It's alot to take on for a sitter. Hoping to get out and talk my fiance into a date night monthly.Thank you for ur comments :)

Tara - posted on 04/05/2010




At first we didn't do date night very often because my hubby didn't think we needed to. He worked four days on four off so we went out a lot but we took the baby. I tried to explain that it needed to be just the two of us. Now we have them more often...we need it

Stephanie - posted on 04/05/2010




My husband and I do date night every other Saturday. I dont feel bad about it time without the kids makes me love them and it gives me time to miss them.

Susan - posted on 04/05/2010




Yes we do date night and no I do not feel bad. Our doctor encouraged us in the very begining to make sure we make time for each other and we always have. It gives us a chance to get away for a little bit and go to a movie, dinner or whatever else without talking about diapers and poop lol

Heather - posted on 04/05/2010




We definately try to have date nights...I think it is important to have some time to ourselves without the lil one...sometimes you feel leaving, but that is need to do things for yourself too otherwise you will lose yourself in everyone else. we deserve a break once in a while!

Kylie - posted on 04/05/2010




hahaha yes i always feel bad everytime im away from my kids.I think thats a sign you care about your children.Wanting to be near to your kids and look after them is normal .

At the same time though wanting to have a little bit of adult time with your partner is also just as normal.You were a Person before you had your children and it is important for you and their dad to show them (you kids)that you love each other and have a caring and thoughtful relationship together, everything you do with your husband or boyfriend , your kids will pick up .They will translate it into their own relationships when they are older too.

I have four kids and i am a stay at home mum, my partner and i put away time each month or week for us to do something anything together as a couple.That doesnt mean we dont love our kids it just means that sometimes i want to talk about something other then x-box i-carly hannah motanna and the wiggles or chugginton..

Kristin - posted on 04/05/2010




I would love to have date night, but finances do not permit on anything akin to a regular basis. We try to connect in smaller ways on a daily to weekly basis instead. We do sometimes feel bad for leaving them, but our marriage security is what will give them security.

I have to admit though, that between date night and time to myself, I will more likely take the time to myself. But I also really need the solo recharge time to be good for anyone.

Hope that helps.

Mandy - posted on 04/05/2010




I wish!!! I would love to have date night even once per month but we don't. We spend our weekends working (we have a party business that we do on the weekends so we spend most Saturday and Sundays delivering). And in the evenings during the week my husband is just too tired. He suffers from chronic fatigue syndrome so he loses his energy about halfway through the day and by evening time he's exhausted and usually asleep no later than 8pm. But on the rare occasions that we do go out just the 2 of us i do feel bad for leaving the kids. Actually my husband has been saying that we need to take a vacation just the 2 of us to "reconnect" but I don't think I could leave my kids for a whole week. I'd miss them too much to even be able to enjoy myself. Plus I would feel so guilty if we were having fun at the beach and my poor kids were stuck at my in-laws house for a week. Dates though would be nice.

Lucy - posted on 04/05/2010




I love being with my kids (2 and 3), it's the reason we decided I would be a stay at home mum even though money is tight, but I also LOVE my husband and some time off!

We go on a date at least once a fortnight, and in my opinion paying attention to our relationship makes us better parents, as we feel happy and relaxed. I also think it is great to set your kids an example of how a marriage/partnership should be. My 3 year old daughter always asks if we had a nice time the next day, and often says things like "you and daddy really love each other don't you?" which makes my heart melt!

I remember how tough it can be when you have a little one of just a few months old, but I think the trick to getting adult time when you don't have a trusted babysitter available regularly is a structured, early bed time routine for the kids. Both our kids are in bed and asleep by 6.30/7pm which leaves us the evening together, so we can kind of have date night at home if we can't get out, with a nice dinner or DVD :)

Taralee - posted on 04/05/2010




We absolutely have date night. Yes, i feel bad leaving, but i know she is fine. Plus she deserves a mommy and daddy who have a strong supportive marriage, and have a loving relationship. You will thank yourself will make you a stronger mommy and daddy. Go for it and enjoy it!!!! You deserve it!!!

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