Does anyone else feel completely alone and ignored?

Sharon - posted on 09/22/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am feeling completely alone lately and almost at my breaking point. My husband works in sales and seems to be married to his job lately. He doesn't talk to me about hardly anything anymore and the romance is all but dead. I know that he loves me but he doesn't take the time to show it anymore. I have tried to talk to him about it but no apporoach has worked. I am so confused. Could really use some advise.

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Tanya - posted on 09/23/2009

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i have a similar situation,,,,,and have come to the conclusion that men really just don't have a clue,,,, it is in there genes,,,i found that reading the book "men are from mars women are from Venus " helped me immensely,,,, i have left it in the bathroom so that maybe my hubby would browse it and get a clue,,,hehehe,,,,,he has been and i find that little things are changing,
may not work for everyone but he is showing me a bit more attention

plz feel free to add me to ur friends if you feel like you would like to chat
cheers
Good luck ladies

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Sarah - posted on 11/07/2012

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All I can say is...DITTO...so many woman feeling ALONE AND IGNORED and I will add UN-APPRECIATED!!!! Sometimes, like now, I don't even have the energy to re-hash all that I feel and Have felt for years...surfice it to say...I am 50, with teenagers...and I don't think it gets any better...I think MOM + My Own Maid!!!!!

Michelle - posted on 09/24/2009

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Sharon I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way although I really wish we didn't. I have just moved countries, sold all my stuff, anything we didn't sell is in storage waiting to be moved, left all my family and friends, all for what my husband wanted. We arrived and everything was different from what it was meant to be. Now I am a stay at home mum for a 4 1/2 year who prefers being at Pre-School or off with her friends and I don't know what to do. My husband works long days and is tired and doesn't want to talk when he gets home, he keeps making comments about me being home all day as though I should have been doing more? I'm not permitted to work in this country otherwise I would. I've tried getting involved in the local community but it seems so hard to make friends here everyone is so busy with their own lives. We live in a friends house so I can't really do anything around the house without upsetting the current household balance, I miss having my own place. I'm thinking I will take up knitting to pass the time... but then what? It's all well and good to read books and talk to professionals, I've done both of these, but after awhile it all falls back to normal. Life can be very frustrating at times.

Stephanie - posted on 09/24/2009

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See if there's any way you can get him to go to counseling with you. There you can get your point across hopefully. I've found that men ignore everything that is not important to them until you are basically done with them and then they try seeing your point. Try the book "5 love languages"...its tells the different ways people expect to be loved and actually relates to both men and women

Dawnetta - posted on 09/24/2009

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My husband is also in sales & he is a really wonderful man. I remember feeling that way when our daughter was 6 months old & crying ALL THE TIME. I broke down a couple times & we talked a little & I learned that having to talk all the time at his job played a factor & also just not really feeling like he had that much to contribute. Making more money by investin more of himself in work was one way he knew he could contribute. Now that our little girl is bigger & more mobile & fun, she is still a total mommas girl but he is a really cool dad. Try to be patient & find some close girlfriends or family member to vent to who will still love your husband when your done!

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Have you ever seen the movie Fireproof? If you havent you should. There is a book that the guy reads in that movie its called The Love Dare. You should buy it. It really helps. You can get it at Walmart or any Christian Book Store, probably at any book store, like Barnes&Nobles. It has helped me tremendously, even if your spouse isnt responding right now to you at all. Dont give up. God Bless!

Kimberly - posted on 09/22/2009

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I can feel you on that one,I am in the same boat you are. It is really hard i have tried talking to my husband about it almost every day over the last few month! I found the only thing that has helped me was finding a mommy's group in my community and finding out that it was not just me going throw this and that I was not alone ! Have a family and being a stay at home mom was all i ever wanted and in till meeting up with my local mommy's group i was ready to just walk away from it all i didn't want to do it anymore but i found having the support around me has made things a little easyer to handle ! but also just being able to talk to someone or even other people that knew what i was going through helped alot

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