Does anyone else feel like they are going crazy!?

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Hello, lately I feel like I am going crazy sitting in this house all the time! There is just so much I can clean or so many tv shows I can watch. My son is a sleeper so he naps a lot. I am still very young. I am only 20. I never ever get to go out and do anythign and I think it is taking a toll on me. My fiance will be 29 this week, and he just doesn't understand and always has a comment like "what do you regret us, you don't want to be a mother anymore?" That is not it at all, I love my son more than anything, same with my fiance. I just miss having friends, when I see my friends I feel like I have nothing to talk about except for baby, baby, baby. My friends do not seem to understand to concept of having to find a babysitter. It is hard when my fiance works two jobs, my parents don't live anywhere near me & my grandmother is 86 and I wouldn't want to put that strain on her, although she will if I have to go grocery shopping. Like I said before my fiance works as a mason from 5 am- 5 pm and then friday, saturday & sunday (and sometimes during the week) he closes the family resturant. I know he is working to help us since I don't work, but I am in my house 24/7 with just a baby. We have one car, which he takes to work. I am trying to get out more, for example I went to the farmer's market yesterday (indoors) but I had to take Joshua and it was miserable. Same happens when I go to lunch he needs to be held and cries and I can barely eat my lunch. He is 8 months (4 months adj). He was a preemie, so I can't really bring him to the mall and places like that especially now, and I live in upstate NY and there weather is fridged! I just don't know what to do, I try to bake and try other stuf but I am only 20 and I am getting so tired of being susie homemaker. Any Ideas?! I want to put him in tumbling tykes when he is older, but he is so young and going to a gym, I can't leave him in the daycare area with the other children who could be sick because of his weakened immune system. My friends do not understand why I can't leave him with my fiance for a night to go hang out but I feel like a jerk being like"Oh, I know you worked hard all week and just from sun up til midnight, but do you mind caring for the baby while I go out & party, thanks! Oh and by the way, can I have some money?!" Any suggestions that can get me out of this rut?! I have been looking up mommy and me yoga but I can't find any in my area. How do you beat the blues?

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i totally know what ur going through. Im 24 and have have three children . I had my first when i was just 18. I now feel like im 34!! My partner works 2 jobs to provide for us so i am nearly always on my own with the kids. I miss going to work and being with grown ups and like u i dont fit in with my friends anymore because all i talk about is being a mummy and they dont understand that i have responsibilities. I understand u dont want to go out with ur baby cos of his immune system has ur doctor got any ideas on where u and ur son could go or what u could do together to help him?? What about doing a home study course or working from home it might help to give u a bit of confidence and you could still be there for ur son? Or maybe u could work in the family restaurant instead of ur husband to get u out of the house while he learns how hard it is being a stay at home mum? take care x

April - posted on 02/07/2010

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I live outside of syracuse. we also have a bus system but it's more of a pain than anything. I havent taken my son to story time yet and he's very energetic and always getting into stuff so i don't know how well this whole story time thing is going to work for us either. He'll probably start ripping books off the shelves and everything. ah, sure doesnt sound like a good time. ha ha. I'm just waiting very patiently for spring to get here so i can let him run around outside and maybe i can actually catch a tan this year :) Try having your friends come to you. Then you don't have to worry about a babysitter. Or, if you do have the extra money then maybe you could hire someone to babysit for a couple hours once in a while so you and your fiance could go have dinner or something...just the two of you. My parents both live around here and my dad takes my son once in a while but my mother...psh! i'd have to be on my death bed for her to take him.

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Well I live right outsied of Albany, where we do have a bus system, but I don't know it well & would hate getting lost or even waiting for it with my boy. Plus he is at the age where the only thing keeping him entertained is being held, I'd hate if he cried through the other children's story time!

April - posted on 02/07/2010

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Hi, i am also from new york...central new york. My husband recently left for boot camp and i'm temporarily living with my grandfather and i just had to take my car off the road. I know what you mean about not having any freedom..it sucks! And my friends also don't understand that a babysitter doesnt just pop out of nowhere and pay themselves! Sitting around allll day every day get's very old. My son in 15 months and i've been doing it since he's been born. Do you have a library near you? I was thinking about taking my son to the library for story time and to just get out of the house. But...i have to pull him in his sled there. It's only a couple blocks away but NY in the winter...sucks!! Too bad you werent closer and we could help each other out!

Susan - posted on 02/07/2010

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I went online and found a Web site called "Meetup" on there you can find all different groups to join. For us we joined Mommy and Me, a group for SAHM and when I was going thru it a support group for Post Pardum. Hope that helps a little. We live in a very small house in a very small town so it's easy to feel trapped.

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