Does anyone else feel like they are losing there minds?

Roseanne - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 29 moms have responded )

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I am a stay home Mom with a husband that works all the time. Lately, I have been feeling like I am losing it!! :) It migt be the winter and being trapped but I want to know if anyone else feels a bit alone and trapped!!

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Danielle - posted on 01/28/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

Oh my goodness I am sooo there with you. I have a 4 year old a 3 year old and a one year old and am almost 9 months pregnant. My husband leaves the house before anyone gets up in the morning and doesn't get home until an hour and a half before their bedtime. Sometimes I get soooo overwhelmed I have panic attacks. I can't even remeber the last time I had a break from my kids. I love them to death but somedays I just can't deal with being everyones everything.



wow i have a 7,6, and a 11 month old i thought i have it bad, hang in there...

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Meg - posted on 04/02/2013

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I'm glad I read this post, I don't feel so bad now! I'm so excited for spring, I can't wait until we can get out of the house and go to the park!

Danielle - posted on 01/28/2009

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all the time i have a husband who works all the time, and i have three kids, ages 7,5 and 11months every day i stay in my pjs and just take care of my baby till my daughter comes home from school she's in prek im so tired, headaches, just dont feel like being bother so i know how you feel, just get my on my day to day activies, and barely make it thru the week...if you need to talk im am here

Shell - posted on 01/28/2009

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Not awful at all!!!  Very normal I bet we all would say.  I had post-partum depression too.  I thin between our hormones fluctuating (and mine STILL do that today) and adjusting to the changes, it's very normal to feel the way you feel.  

Shell - posted on 01/28/2009

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When it's Spring time, look in your area for a mom's group or preschool PTA.  I joined that when my son was 3 y.o. and it really helped alot.  The girls I get together with every few months are those ladies I met 8 years ago!!  There should be a support group like that near you and they schedule really fun outings so you get to spend alot of time with your kids at the same time as making friends.  Then you take lots of pics and get obsessed with scrapbooking when they are older (like I did)...see, it gets better, honest!



 



Hugs to all!

Shell - posted on 01/28/2009

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All I can tell the gals with young ones is that it does get better.  I know it's hard to come up with things to keep the kids busy and settled and I only had one so I know that's a different thing all together, but I didn't even get to think about hobbies (I love scrapbooking) until he was at least 5 y.o.  But just know, now that my DS's 11 y.o. I can say, you do get some time back so you don't feel so trapped and frustrated.  Escaping to a long hot bath when our hubby gets home is what we all need tonight...I hope you all can get a moment for that.



 



In the meantime, pray for sunshine to melt all this snow! 

Paula - posted on 01/28/2009

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I totally feel the same way. How old is your child or children? Mine is almost 5 months old. He had colic for the first three months and reflux. We are still dealing with pretty bad reflux. He is a Momma's boy!! Whines alot when not right by my side. I wonder if I may have postpardum depression. Did I spell that right?

I am lucky that my husband works from home some but still feel kind of trapped sometimes. Does that sound awful?

Lori - posted on 01/28/2009

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I am glad I am not the only one. Things had been getting better but this week she refuses to nap. I feellike I have spent most of the last 3 days listening to her cry/whine. Last week I was so excited about staying home b/c I got to see her crawl for the 1st time but after this week I am wondering if I made a mistake staying hoome w/her. We moved to Mobile about 2 years ago & I don't have many friends. I have joined a mothers group & that helps. My husband just called to say he is on his way home from work so I will be out of here but I have no place to go!!! The only good thing is that in Mobile I don't have the cold/snow to deal with however summer is coming when it's too hot to even think about going outside. Thanks for listening - I just needed to vent!!!

Trisha - posted on 01/28/2009

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yes i feel like that alot of the time.. i main thing is i homeschool my 6yr old in 1st grade..she and i get along really well but when teacher mode comes out she just shuts down an i feellike i am the prinicple more than mom... and we are alwys fussin at eachother.. i just feel sometimes that i am alwys yellin or correctin.. and then i feel crappy.. then some days are really good....soo you are not alone..

Lesley - posted on 01/28/2009

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Losing my mind!!!! OH yes. I am a first time mom to an almost 21 month old little girl. My hubby works 10-12 hr days and I rarely go out but when I do I usually take my little one to the mall just to get her out. Let's just say outings are not here thing. We really can't even take her to a resteraunt because she acts up. I will take her outside in the backyard or for a casual stroll in the neighborhood but other then that I am usually couped up in the house. I feel like I want to pull my hair out sometimes especially when it comes to feeding time. She is sooo picky and a lot of the time if she doesn't like what I am giving her she throws the food on the floor, it's so fustrating. I agree when they say being a stay at home parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world. I do have coffee night on Wed. with my husbands friends wifes and that helps a little because they are all moms as well but working mothers. I was also considering taking Jasmyne to the Gymboree laugh and play once a week so she can interact with other kids her age and at the same time I can talk to the mother's there which helps because a lot of them are possibly having the same issues that you are having with your own child. It is good to get advice from other mother's. I took when she was 6 months up until she was 10 months then I pulled her out but I think it is time to put her back in. I think it would be good for the both of us. Good luck to all you stay at home mommies.

Caylie - posted on 01/28/2009

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oh and i forgot, i am disabled and i live in a small town. there is nothing to do here, my dh keeps telling me to get a hobby, i don't have time for a hobby! i have a son who loves to get into everything and drive his mama nuts! i don't get away from him ever, like i have had maybe four hours bubbers free time in the past 15 months!! i can't pee alone, i can't shower alone, there are times when i really miss not being a mama, but then bubbers makes me laugh somehow and i forget all about wanting to rip my hair out lol

Caylie - posted on 01/28/2009

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i was just going to make a post like this lol i am losing it i swear!! {not really but man the loony bin sounds like a nice vacation!!} i just need some adult convos that do not start with 'whats cooking good looking' my husband works long hours each day and his idea of a nice weekend is hanging out at home, whereas i want to run as far away from home as i can lol it does not help that last weekend when we went shopping {my idea} i rolled our jeep on the way home. no injuries, just now i am too darn scared to drive anywhere. i hate winter!! lol

Shell - posted on 01/28/2009

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I always figured it was the time of year/weather.  I have been a SAHM for my son who is now 11 years old.  He is getting to the point where he does so much independently that I feel useless some days!  I do have hobbies and probably clean the house WAY too much but I still am bored and lonely.  Once it's Spring I get busy in the yard and doing flower gardening to keep busy.  It's difficult and I think about going back to work again, but I stay committed to seeing him thru his school years and know that even if I'm feeling bored and useless sometimes, that I'm doing the best thing I can for him right now and my time to do other things will come.  For now, I just pray for the SUN to shine and melt all this snow!  Glad to know we're not alone and thank goodness for the internet!

Brittany - posted on 01/28/2009

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Hi i'm new here. my name is brittany.i have a 2 year old and i mite br pregnant.I too am going nuts. but my hubby is home all the time now b/c He got laid off.

Nicole - posted on 01/28/2009

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Oh my goodness I am sooo there with you. I have a 4 year old a 3 year old and a one year old and am almost 9 months pregnant. My husband leaves the house before anyone gets up in the morning and doesn't get home until an hour and a half before their bedtime. Sometimes I get soooo overwhelmed I have panic attacks. I can't even remeber the last time I had a break from my kids. I love them to death but somedays I just can't deal with being everyones everything.

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2009

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I am a sahm with twin 8 month old boys, and two stepdaughter 7 and 4 that are home with me everyday, with exception or school for the 7 year old and 2 hour preschool for the 4 year old. I feel this way a lot also, especially this winter! My husband is a fire fighter and his hours are "suppose" to be 8 - 5 but when he is home he always has calls or meetings he has to go to so I basically do it a lot all alone! It is a really lonely place to be sometimes. My solution has been that I take the kids to children's programs at the library. I made friends with other sahms on the fire department and in town and I try to talk to them and one the ladies and I are trying to go to the mall with the kids once a week just to get out of the house..not even to shop just to walk around! I try to get out of the house myself at least to drive around for 15 mins or to go to the grocery store...and if my husband isnt going to be home I get the neighbor girl to come over and sit. It cost to have her which i hate paying a sitter but sometimes even a half hour lets you clear your mind and start over ya know!

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2009

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My daughter is my 1st, and only baby. My husband has a 5 year old and we have cabin fever. I feel the same, I should just be thankful that I'm able to stay at home with her as well. We are from Pittsburgh so I can relate to you with the cold weather. Here in Maryland we just got our first snowfall yesterday. I just want another car so i can get out every once in a while. Nice to hear from you!

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YESSSSS!!! It may be due to the cold weather, I don't know. I live in Ohio and it has been extremely cold lately. I just had my first (and only) baby on December 17th. I don't go out with her because it's too cold....I don't go out without her because of the separation anxiety. UGH!! My husband also works long hours and I have no family where I live. I have a couple girlfriends here, but they have their own lives that don't include newborn babies. I guess I should be grateful that I am able to stay home with her, but sheesh....I need some company, ya know?!?

Lois - posted on 01/23/2009

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I am deffiently right there with you hun.  My DH works at night and seems like all he does is sleep, eat, bathe, and go to work...no time for me...and to top it off I am always the one with the baby

Rowines - posted on 01/21/2009

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Ohhhh no!!! You are definitely not the only one. My husband works nights and we only get to spend a few hours together except for the weekends when he's off but most of hte time hes at work or sleeping. I feel like it's just me and the kids and our new puppy. I get overwhelmed just about everyday. What helps me out is just when the child/ren are sleeping or with dad just take a looooooooong bath and relax that or just go out with a friend or even by yourself it helps. Another way is fond someone you trust to watch the kid/s the one night or a weekend that your husband is off work and go out on a date, it brings the sparks to the relationship again!!!

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2009

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Everyday! My husband works a lot of 12 hour days, and by the time he gets home at night, I'm about ready to pull my hair out. Thank goodness for my mother, who is always ready for a reason to come over to play with her granddaughter and a cup of coffee! =)

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2009

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I'm with you girlfriend!!! I'm loosing it. I'm a stay at home mom with an 8 mth old little girl and my husband's son just moved to MD with us for the first time after living with his grandmother (my husband's mom) since he was 2 and she was a wonderful grandmother but now we are paying for how she raised him. He's 5 years old but acts like he's 3. He cries all the time, he gives you a hard time when you ask him to dress himself or to eat dinner (she fed him when he wouldn't eat)....I'm loosing it and am ready to pack up my baby and go back home!!!!

Lori - posted on 01/21/2009

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I am with you!  I just moved from Miami, FL to Indiana and on top of staying home, I left my friends, my family and my warm weather. My first winter has been challenging.  I have an 11 month old and and am pregos with my second!  I don't really have any advice that I have tried yet, still getting to know the area, but I am trying to meet people and do the whole "play date" thing.  I wasn't sure I'd be a big fan of that, but when your mother-in-law is your only friend, you gotta do what you gotta do!   I gave my number to a girl I met that works at my dog's vet today (i know, weird) but I figured that's the only way to really get to meet people when you are not as free to roam about during the winter time.  She mentioned that you can find "mommy" groups on line in your area.  She found one a few months ago and loves it.

Crystal - posted on 01/21/2009

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I feel the same way alot. I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old.  During the day it is not too bad with just my son here, but when my daughter gets home from school they tend to fight and argue alot. Some days I think I am gonna have a nervous breakdown, but whenever my husband gets home from work I take a long hot bath with a good book. That seems to help some. I also feel alone alot with my husband working all the time, by the time he gets home most nights the kids are going to bed so he doesnt have to deal with them. I just take one day at a time to try to keep from going nuts. :)

Kelly - posted on 01/21/2009

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I find this time of year especially tough! The weather makes going out not that enjoyable. Our business is slow so money is really tight....just seems it's all going against the grain right now. I have friends planning big trips and dinners out and we seem to have to decline each time. It all helps to put me in a depressed state of mind for sure :)

Louise - posted on 01/21/2009

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im the same except here in NZ its summer lol
but i dont drive. i have no hobbies what so every my partner always gets on my case bout finding something but most stuff does cost money so i have no idea's! lol

Vanessa - posted on 01/21/2009

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I feel the same way at times.  I am a stay at home mom to my 2 year old and expecting another boy June 4th.  I don't really have many hobbies and don't go out too much, especially in the winter.  When the weekend comes I look forward to going out.  My husband thinks I need to get out more so I don't get so stressed out.  Some days are worse then others.  On the days when my son acts up and doesn't take a nap I feel like I want to pull my hair out.  The other problem is that all my friends moved out of state so I don't really hang out with anyone but my husband.  I think the only thing you can do is maybe get hobbies that keep you busy.  I joined facebook and that has really helped.  I get to talk and see my friends.  I am always looking for someone to talk to.

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