Does anyone else feel like they have lost themselves while being a SAHM?

Amy - posted on 01/17/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




Sometimes I feel like being a mother and wife is all there is. I don't remember or know who I am-apart from being the wife, mom, housekeeper, cook, etc. Any one else?


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Michelle - posted on 01/18/2010




I feel the same way. I actually made a post about this a while ago and I've had some time to think about it. I've missed some things from my life before my family, but I just remind myself that I'm doing good work for my kid(s). I look at it this way when I'm getting frustrated-- being a stay at home mom is a huge sacrifice on our part. We lose a lot of our social connections, free time, and a little of ourselves along the way. However, our kids (I think) will be better off for it, and when they're older, school age and on, we will be able to branch out a little. For the time being I've done a few things that have definitely helped-- my fiance and I have a set night a week where we either go out just the two of us, or (if money's tight) we stay in just the two of us and spend time together. I also have a set night each week where I have me time-- either with my friends, or just by myself. It's really cathartic. Also, I make sure my son and I get out of the house for fun, not errands, at least every other day for a walk or something. Just making sure that you take care of yourself helps your sanity as well as makes you more prepared to be a better mom.

Carolee - posted on 01/17/2010




I miss who I was. I used to be outgoing, funny, thinner than I am now (although I've never been thin)... but I also used to be a party girl. I miss the freedom more than anything. I love my son and my husband, and I'm glad I'm pregnant again, but sometimes all I want to do is go to a bar for a few hours and I can't.

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Yes Ma'am, I have been a SAHM for almost 6years. I think for a while I willingly gave myself up. Now that my yougest is 1y/r. I am trying to find me again. With 3 little ones (5/2/1) somedays it's hard to even find 5minutes.

Amy - posted on 01/17/2010




I did feel that way till this new year. My husband and I are really working on making time for just me so that i can feel like a human again. I encourage you to make/take 5 mintues everyday for just you. Keep your head up! If you need to chat I am here. youc an look me up on face book or talk to me on here. Good luck!

Jodi - posted on 01/17/2010




Yes. I was recently complaining to my husband it's so bad for that when I get to go out grocery shopping without her I feel invisible because nobody can look at me and my daughter and know I'm a mommy. My husband goes to school by day and works by night, so I don't even get the wife hat to put on very often anymore either. So yes, I feel the same way.

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