does anyone have a mamas boy?

Danielle - posted on 03/09/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my son is 10 months old and totally attached to me. we have people say they'll baby sit us because our son is so easy going but once he realizes im gone he just cries. how do i fix this?

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Valynn - posted on 03/10/2010

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My 6 mth old is a total momma's boy! When daddy comes home from work and starts to play with him sometimes he tells our son, "why do you always wanna look around at mommy?" He does fine when my husband and I go to catch a movie or dinner alone, but when I walk through the door his face lights up. I do love it !! Moms are the first faces they see when they wake, then last face they see when they drift off to sleep, and probably the face they see the most during the day. Our babies just LOVE us!

Jamie - posted on 03/10/2010

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I have a momma's girl!! She is completely atached to my hip, and wont even let other people feed her if she knows I am there!

Laura - posted on 03/10/2010

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my 8 mounth old is a mummys boy to the point were even his daddy cant feed him sometimes he just kicks off till i do it he been getting better reasantly thoughas i was really ill and couldnt give in and take over he learnt kicking off wasnt working and started eating for daddy too i think we sometimes maybe encourage children to be mummys boys by giving in or at least that was the problem with my son

Medic - posted on 03/10/2010

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I have a mamas boy but he has always been ok being left with people we know. Hes 3.5 now and just has to know what I'm doing at all times.

Carolee - posted on 03/10/2010

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Yeah... my son's 2 1/2 years old and I can't hug my husband without him getting jealous! He goes through (and always has gone through) stages of extreme mommy-neediness and just wanting to hang out with daddy. He doesn't get THAT attatched to daddy, though...

Christy - posted on 03/10/2010

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My son is 18 months old and a mommas boy. When I leave, he may cry for a little bit, but then he does just fine. If you baby him to the point where you are afraid to leave him with anyone he will never learn to be without you. Start out by just leaving him with a family member for awhile until he doesn't cry when you leave him. Then try it with a friend. I know once my son gets use to being around someone he no longer crys when I leave him because he knows I will come back soon. Don't worry, if you practice he will eventually grow out of the seperation anxiaty. But he will alway be a mommas boy! :) Good luck.

Alina - posted on 03/10/2010

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My son is four and a Momma's Boy. When he was your baby's age he did the same thing. My husband and I tried to go on our first date after I had him - eight months after - and left him with family and they said he cried and wouldn't eat until I came running through the door. Even now, I can sit down on the couch and he's running to my lap, very clingy boy. He has to go wherever Mommy goes to the point that I have to lock the bedroom door so I can use the bathroom! And he sits outside the door until I come out, even if Daddy's home. I agree with the others to enjoy it while it lasts, although I understand your need for some time alone. I'm with Lena with church, too. Both my kids learned to be social with Children's Church and play dates. My daughter has clingy moments, but she's pretty independent with me; she's a Daddy's Girl.

Aimee - posted on 03/10/2010

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aaaaww he just loves you so much....hehe use that to remind yourself when you get frustrated! apparantly sometime between 8-10mnths babies begin to realise that mama is actually a seperate entity and not just an extension of themselves. They can start to get quite anxious as they begin to discover that you are your own person! A good way to start making it easier is to begin playing lots of peeka boo and hiding games everyday and then get a little more into it.....when you have someone around to help you for a while give your son to them and say lots of cheerful "byes byes" and waving and leave the room. Make sure you come back before he starts to get too antsy about where you are. try increasing the times over a while. Spend lots of time with as many different close freinds and family as possible and ask them do this with you, even if you just leave the room a few times while someone else is there it will help him get used to it. Over time he will learn that you always come back and be secure about it. The time with other people just needs to be safely and gently increased in a way that he can cope with. He will totally get there! I have a wee mamas boy too, gotta love it while it lasts :-D !!

Lena V. - posted on 03/10/2010

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My son was totally a Momma's boy. He still is and he is 16 years old now. He is healthy in everyway. Even socially. He has tons of friends and plays sports and is very outgoing. The few things that I think I am glad about him being a "Momma's boy" is now he will come to me for things that most boys won't talk to parents about. We have an open and honest relationship. He is very respectful of me and also other adults so don't worry so much about him being a Momma's boy. He can pick up alot from you on how to be a socially and emotionally healthy person. I think what you may be concerned about is his seemingly inability to feel secure without you. He is only 10 months however. I think it is normal. I have a 2 year old daughter that is the same way. She still won't go into the nursery at church without me staying with her. I think the key is having a great social group that you meet with on a regular basis. For example church. We attend church three times a week and it worked wonders for my son. Now my daughter is starting to "break free". I am glad my kids were both clingy at there baby/toddler age. Now that my son is grown. I miss it. Even though we are close still. more than most Mom and son relationships, I miss the clingy baby boy I once held. Enjoy it while you can and still give him plenty of opportunitues to venture out with close and trusted friends. Little by little he will get it. God Bless you and your family.

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