Does anyone have trouble with their 4 (almost 5 yr. old) and their attitude? Any ideas on help?

Maegan - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 5 and he get's this NASTY attitude and it drives me nuts! Anyone have any ideas on how to help? Thanks!

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LaTrice - posted on 08/31/2009

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When I had my son, someone gave me a book called "Raising Boys." The author, who is a peditrician said that at certain ages boys experience testostorone surgues and age 5 is one of those ages. They become more rambuctions, less likely to listen and get major attitude.



When my son was going through this phase, I took away what he loved most, Legos. Whenever he's was disrespectful, rude, or argumentative, I would put the Legos in the closet for 1 day. If his behavior improved, he got them back, if not, they stayed in the closet. It took a few weeks, but things did improve

Jackie - posted on 08/30/2009

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dont think u r the only one as my 5yr old attitude is terrible i just take his favourite toy off him 4 a couple of days as that is the only thing that works 4 me

Micheline - posted on 08/29/2009

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I hear you, I am constantly in this battle of feeling guilty because I don't see the bean enough, then when I do I get this great kid for a few in then she pulls attitude like she's Hannah Montana, then I get to tell her to stop, then it happens again and I get mad. I feel like I am explaining and repeating and always being the bad guy. I threaten her with taking toys away and tv time so far it's working. Taking away baby doe is a HUGE help too.

Pamela - posted on 08/29/2009

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No ideas, but would love the same advice! My son argues with me about everything and when I try to tell him something he tells me "I know MOM!" So very frustrating for me. My other child is 11 and I know he picks up her slang as well. He is now starting kindergarten and it seems to be getting worse. What can I do to bring him back to sweet little boy he used to be? All advice will be appreciated.

Maegan - posted on 08/28/2009

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Thanks ladies! I did a time out today, and it helped both him and I!! Thank you ALL so much! It's so nice to have a place to come, vent and get advice!!

Nichole - posted on 08/28/2009

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yes i am dealing with the same problem big attitude she like a teenager already. i make her sit in a time out somedays it does wonders and somedays it gets me nowhere

April - posted on 08/28/2009

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My daughter just turned four and once again is testing the boundaries. My husband and I have taken her toys away, but it seems to work better when we place her in her room for quiet time. From what I have heard time outs should be the equivalent of 1 minute per year old. It gives both of you a chance to calm down. Then go in and talk to him about what he did wrong. Assure him that you love him - not the behavior. I hope this helps you.

Maegan - posted on 08/28/2009

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Thank you April! We use to do that , and have gotten away from it lately. I was laid off in May and am now home with him 85-90% of the time. I think you are right, he's testing how far he can get with me. But now it's spilling over until the nighttime as well. It's just so frustrating and I don't like being frustrated with him all the time. It's back to the chart and jar of balls. Thanks for listening!

APRIL - posted on 08/28/2009

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I am going through the same thing with my son. He will be 5 in january. We have tried everything. My husband puts him in the corner but then he cries that he wants to go with his real dad. I a expecting and just became a stay at home mom and I think that he is just trying to see how far he can get with me since he is used to being in daycare and now he is home with me but it really helps when we stick him in the corner for about 10 minutes at a time and have a reward chart for good behavior. If he gets good stars all week, he gets a prize. It seems to be working.

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