Does he know I'm mommy?

Jennifer - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




I currently live at home with my parents. My mother doesn't work so she is home with me and my son all of the time. I often wonder if he realizes that I'm his mommy, since we both spend so much time with him. How do I know?


Theresa - posted on 02/21/2010




Even newborns can recognize Mom from her smell. He also heard your voice most often when he was still inside you. He recognizes your voice. Yes he knows you're his Mommy. There's no way to tell for sure, but that's what all the scientific evidence says. As far as him beoing close to your mom. Count yourself lucky hat your son has extra people in his life that he can be very close to. Even if you don't believe in the science of it, he'll know when he gets older. Plus he'll feel lucky that he has such a close relationship with Grandma too.

Kristi - posted on 02/21/2010




How old is your son? If he's very young, you may not be able to tell yet. You need to make sure that you talk to him. I have always talked to my son like he was just another person, just another friend. And also have your mom say things like "here comes grandma." I've never been in your situation, but now that he's almost two, my son smiles and comes running when I walk through the door after having been somewhere. Sometimes he even cries "mumm mumm mumm." It's so cute and makes my day!


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My mom lives with us and is home with us all the time. She spends a lot of time with him but he knows Im the mommy. Im the one he runs to when he's hurt, he gives me more kisses and hugs, and when he's getting tired he comes up to me and snuggles with me. Kids know who their mommy is from birth, mommies and babies share a special bond that know one else can have.

Carolee - posted on 02/21/2010




I lived with my mother until my son was almost 2. We made sure that he learned that I was Mommy. I made all the big decisions, and she did her own thing when she wanted. There will be times when he prefers her, but it's the same way even if you live apart. As long as you're the one taking care of him the most, he'll know. Don't worry. It will be fine. (My son had no problems when he and I moved in with my husband. He still spends one night every weekend with Grandma, but he loves being home with Mommy and Daddy.)

Rebecca - posted on 02/21/2010




As long as you are taking an active role in your babies life he knows that you are mommy. You were the first person he knew. Don't worry about it. Be happy that he has 2 women to love him.

Renae - posted on 02/21/2010




He knows you are mummy for many reasons, one being because of your scent. He knows your scent from before he was born, it is one of the first things babies recognise when they are born, they lay on mums chest and immediately recognise her scent. Your mums scent is a bit similar to yours, which is why most babies are comfortable with their maternal grandmother - but its still not the same as mummy. Babies also know their mum's voice from when they were in the womb and they learn to identify mum's touch, so they know who is picking them up and holding them.

Think about it this way; you are the most important person in the whole world to him, but isn't he lucky to have two people in his life who know and love him and will always look after him.

Brandi - posted on 02/21/2010




HE KNOWS!!! Yours is the first voice he remembers from before he was born. He will remember you and your voice forever! Babies ALWAYS know their mommy ESP when they are well loved by their mommy

Shelley - posted on 02/21/2010




I lived at home with my mum when i had my son and my mum was always around to, they can tell the difference by your smell and voice and the way you hold them, so dont stress about it as he does know who his mum is.

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