Does he not know I am tired?

Ashley - posted on 04/22/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




Does anyone elses husband complain about being tired but can not understand it when you tell him you just want to sleep tonight? I get up at least three times a night with my son, get up at 5:45 (he gets up at 6:15 for work )to get my kids things ready for school. Then the rest of the day I am cleaning, taking care of the baby, running my other two here and there, homework, dinner, bath, bed and then more cleaning. So when night comes I deserve not to hear him tell me how tired he his, or have him try to fool around with me (that is extra sleep time), I just want to go to bed.


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Angie - posted on 04/22/2010




if he is anything like mine... NO! he doesnt get it. I asked him to take one feeding last night and got a guilt trip out of the deal (at 1:45 am) and then was up 40 minutes later because he didnt burp the 3 week old! I went to the doc today got told it is the baby blues,got some meds, get some rest and maybe stay at moms for a week or so.

I know that my husband admits to being raised in a household that a woman took care of all of this, but I am not that woman. AND I am not sure if he noticed most of our moms are now medicated or have been in therapy!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/22/2010




Well, if I could give you some advice, find some nap time in there somewhere! Part of the stay at home wife job description involves getting up in the middle of the night (I know, not fair), and everyone, husbands and wives who work outside the home, think our days are just full of leisure time. My advice? Make some. Everyone thinks you have it already, so you might as well claim this "perk." Nap when your youngest naps.

On the marital bliss part, try this. Have a frank conversation with hubby explaining how the stresses in the evening really pull down your libidio. Explain you are hot for him when he first comes home, but then it's time to help the kids with homework, dinner, get everyone in bed etc. It would be a great help to you if he could just take one or two of those burdens off your shoulders in the evening so you have more energy and time for him. Then make sure you give him some time and energy. We all think "kids first" but it has to be "marriage first" really, the kids will be better off. No one benefits when marriages fall apart, and more women need to realize most men take it personally when you do not want to have sex with them. If we read into any morning or afternoon he doesn't give us a kiss goodbye or hello, imagine how much they read into us being "too tired" for sex with them? And they won't even talk to us about it, it just festers and grows into resentment and hate.

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