does it hurt when u r in laber and ur having the baby cuz i was always told that it hurt havin it

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I wonder how much of labor is controlled by our state of mind. I practiced some hypnobirthing techniques... I would close my eyes and just... GO AWAY. When a contraction would come.. I would stand up, lean over the bed.. and rock.. like the midwives showed us to. I would close my eyes and go to my favorite place. I was dancing in circles with Bob Marley.. right in his own front yard.
My husband and I read about pereneal massage during pregnancy.. and we did the massage, every few days for the last month of pregnancy. This really does a LOT to help the monkey prepare for birth.
Now all of my suggestions may seem out of left field.. but I promise, they honestly did make the difference.

Jamie - posted on 05/14/2010

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I felt nothing with all 3 of my deliveries. Get an epidural and you will be fine.

Emma - posted on 04/26/2010

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Yes for most woman it hurts
But for me No it did not hurt the contractions felt like when you really need a poo and are a bit constipated, the only bit that did sting a bit was when the head came out.
i had both my kids with no pain med's during or after and i was up and 100% 30 mins after giving birth with both mine, and was home in less than 24 hours with each.
Both of my labours where under 20 mins too so i was lucky
Everyone is different but on a whole there is normally some pain, but it cant be all that bad as look at all the people who have more than 1 kid ....lol

Sonja - posted on 04/25/2010

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I used hypnobirthing and planned for a homebirth, but my 1st child was breech, so had to go in at the last minute and have a c-section. The nurse in the recovery room was amazed at how fast I recovered. I knew it was bec. of the hypnobirthing. With my 2nd child, I did a v-bac. Stayed home as long as possible and then went in, bec. the state law wouldn't let my midwife do a homebirth v-bac. At the hospital, ended up w/ a young intern who was WAY too rough - pulling on me. He pulled so much that HE made me tear! But, with hypnobirthing, the only thing that hurt was him pulling on me. I would have told him to stop, but it was taking all of my focus to stay calm & centered. I knew that if I got out of focus long enough to put him in his place, I would have felt more discomfort. When you stay calm, your brain releases all sorts of chemicals to reduce pain - stronger than morphene! But, when you stress out & get fearful, not only do you stop those chemicals, you get more stress hormones for fight-or-flight. What happens in fight-or-flight? Your blood goes to your extremities, reducing what is at the uterus - making contractions painful (or more painful, depending on where you started).



When the 2nd kid actually came out, I tore so much that they gave me an epidural and spent an hour stitching me up. BUT, I was so relaxed that when the big tear came, I felt nothing but relief! No screaming or moaning. I was later told that everyone there could not believe how calm I was. When it had been time to push, the doctor was leaving me alone, so I had breathed deeply and I said, "Okay, but do you mind if I take a few minutes to regroup first and get more centered before pushing?" So, when I was where the stereo type on TV has the ladies screaming bloody murder, I was just meditating and shutting out the world. Would have been a much better experience if I hadn't had the intern pulling on me! Fortunately, if we ever have another one, my hubby knows to speak up next time.

Angie - posted on 04/23/2010

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POOP before going!! For real...you dont want to poop on the doctor!! That was my biggest worry and guess what...I POOPED ON THE DOCTOR. It seemed to be no big deal to him but I will never forget it....

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Julia - posted on 11/03/2012

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When I delivered my daughter 2 years ago I was in so much pain. During the delivery I took the epidural and after when I delivered I was in pain for about 1 1/2 months because I had 15 stitches. The doc said she should of not allowed me to have the baby vaginal. I swore I wouldn't have another baby but 10 months later I was pregnant with a boy. He now is 7 months. And delivery was great. I had no epidural all natural and no stitches either. And It honestly wasn't painful. I just think u need to stay positive and relaxed and also hope for the best.

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Every women will experience labor differently. I have 3 sister and all of us have had at least one kid and all of us had totally different labors. One sister had 8 hrs and said it felt no worse than bad period cramps. I, on the other hand, had 4 days of the most unbelievable pain I've ever experienced. When I was pregnant I was hospitalized with kidney stones, and that hurt... a lot... but my baby was posterior and and that gave me wicked back labor. It was ten times as painful as passing a kidney stone, about 20 times as painful as breaking my arm. I thought i was dying. Pushing the baby out was a breeze and felt like a peaceful massage compared to the labor in my experience...

Not trying to scare you or anything. lol. maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones! I sure wasn't.

Melanie - posted on 05/01/2010

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Contractions hurt def.But i didnt think actually giving birth hurt with my 1st(she weighed 6lb 6oz)but with my 2nd giving birth hurt loads(he weighed 8lb 110z).

Wendy - posted on 04/28/2010

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I had my first 2 kids with no pain meds and yes it does hurt my 3rd one I had an epideral and felt nothing and my last 2 children were c-sections and they were the worse pain wise.but let em tell you this after everything is said and done there is no other pain that I would want to go through.once your lillte miracle is here you will not even think about the pain.Goo Luck and Congrats on you new addition to the family!

Zara - posted on 04/28/2010

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hiya hun sorry 2 say but yes it is painfull but don't worry when it is over and you have your beautifull baby in your arms you don't remember the pain and it is worth it!don't worry 2 much hun there is pain relief etc 2 help you through it!x

Gina - posted on 04/28/2010

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OMG to Hannah Cohen! 3 days later??? that is the first time i have ever heard of sex that soon after birth! most dr.s tell you to wait until after your 6 week check up at the soonest!

Gina - posted on 04/28/2010

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um,yes it hurt! that's why it's called labor,it's a lot of hard,painful work to bring that baby into the world! But you will look back on that day and remember that first cry more then all the pain you endoured getting him/ her out,trust me!
Don't underestemate the wonderful power of the epidural! That thing saved my life with both of my kids.

Ameriah - posted on 04/27/2010

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yes, it hurts, but it is so worth it! I had back labor, which must be the worst out there because I couldn't wait for the epidural and they had to give me meds, but 8 years later all I remember was that it hurt, not how much.

Karen - posted on 04/27/2010

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yes everything about labor hurts, including the pushing, and you will continue to hurt to for some time after the birth. but don't dwell on it. Worrying about it isn't going to get you anywhere. I was 19 when I had my daughter and gave birth completely natural, no epidoral nor pain meds (not by choice! lol) but I made it through the pain as has every other women whos given birth. But if you are really worryed about being in pain, i've heard from so many people the the epidoral worked great for them.

Ariel - posted on 04/27/2010

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I had my son 5 & 1/2 weeks early ( he is now 24months ) and weighed 7lbs even. I got the epidural, but the nurse did it wrong so all it numbed was the tip of my toes. Labor was the worst pain ive ever gone through in my life , But Knowing that in just a little while , you'll be meeting your bundle of joy face to face makes you forget all about the pain. Plus, whether you get the epidural or not your still going to be in some sort of pain and sore for at least a few days after you deliver. Im pregnant with our 2nd ( Due September 23rd ) and i plan on not getting the epidural.

Becky - posted on 04/27/2010

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Yes it does hurt. When I was getting ready to have my first son, my mother told me something that ended up being really true for me. She said that child birth is like having really bad cramps with your period and feeling like you gotta take a poop. I'm sure it's not the same for everyone and it's different with each child you have, but it will be ok. :)

Ginger - posted on 04/27/2010

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Yes it HURTS!!!!!! But once you see that precious face you know it was all worth it!!

Hannah - posted on 04/26/2010

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hey, yeah it hurts...but it also helps if you dont have a huge baby lol i had a small bub and i had no drugs, it sucked but i was fine after, back to having sex 3 days later :P good luck

Rhonda - posted on 04/26/2010

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yes, but sometimes you may be lucky and have a very strong epidural, then you wont feel a thing! I had the epidural with my first and it was pure bliss! some aren't so lucky, but I hope you are! Contractions do hurt, they mainly feel like very bad period cramps and if you breathe or walk around (that helped with me) it helps. Just remember that when you feel pain you wont remember it once you see your baby! : ) good luck! women do this all the time and you will be fine im sure!

Amanda - posted on 04/26/2010

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i must be a rare case because my labor & delivery didn't hurt. The only thing that hurt was when the nurses checked my cervix, it hurt really bad when they broke my water, and the contractions were painful but not unbearable...nothin i couldn't breath through. But once they gave me my epidural I couldn't feel a thing. When it came time to push I only had the urge to push...no pain. I only had to push for 25 minutes...it was great!!! This was my first child & I've only had one sex partner ever for those of u who may be thinking :she must be really loose". ha ha.

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it is always different

I have a very high pain tolerance, and for 42 hours of contractions I was screaming. (no drugs) after I was stitched up i said i will never go through that again.

6 months later, I cant wait for another baby! I forgot all about those intense contractions

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Each person's pain level is different and and how well you can handle it depends on you. My first I was so scared it made my labor worse plus everyone told me horror stories so I made it worse on myself my next one 4 hours labor no drugs 10 mins pushing very little pain but I knew what to except . then my 3 well I was exterm high risk pregnant and went in to labor at 33 weeks and was at 5-6 cm and had no clue until i started to bleed so went to see my dr was sent to l&d was stuck on bed rest for a week was in labor for a week but it was not bad at all. then I got scare for many reasons our daughter was very tiny so they were going to do a c-section so I freaked out so I tensed up but still not bad . and I had a tubal also at the same time. that night i was up and walking the hall back and forth to the nicu . I refused the wheelchair. the pain was not so bad. down time also depends on the person to each pregnancy I was only down for the most a day my 1st born I was back to work with in a week . my 2nd i was up and running the house with in 2 days and our last when we got home well I had nothing to stop me. so dont let people scare you. Its all how your body responds to pain and what I thought it was like was a day after the gym if that so not so bad. so good luck have a safe and speedy delievery and I wish you all the best.

Melissa - posted on 04/26/2010

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Everyones labor is different. Don't be worrying about that just think about how precious your baby is. I had my son really fast and I just kept moving untill I was ready to push. The yellow peanut (ball) helped alot! It was comfortable to sit on and be able to move back and forth on it! I had no medicine and it really didn't hurt, I was just uncomfortable when I had to push and they told me I couldn't because the doctor wasn't there! That day is going to be one of the best days of your life! Enjoy

Paige - posted on 04/26/2010

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I guess i may be one of those odd womenn that would take the Labor anyday or the nine months of pregnancy. I hated being prego! I have two beautiful girls. Both pregnancy's i felt horrible all the time not throwing up horrible but dizzy and not myself. Both of my deliveries were amazing i was in labor 5 hours with first and 7 hours with next. I agree that contraction weren't great but not unbarable. When i got epidural I was on cloud nine. Two pushes for first and one for second. Never got stiches for the second but i did for the first and man did it ever hurt to pee afterward. Yikes!!!! Anywho i guess it all depends on the person.

Wendy - posted on 04/26/2010

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seriously when i had both of my girls there was not really any pain and it was over in about half an hr both times and i did do it all natural aswell

Erin - posted on 04/26/2010

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yes, it hurts...sometimes its easier and sometimes harder, but there is nothing in the world thats more worth that pain, than that beautiful baby that you touch and kiss for the very first time! It is definately a labor of love and is the greatest love I have ever known...You will forget the extent of the pain as soon as you see your baby for the first time...it makes it all go away!

Bethany - posted on 04/25/2010

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I found it more of a really intense pressure during each contraction, then after a day or so, had an emergency Caesar, so I'm told I missed the burning stretching part. Ah well, ya can't have everything.

Rachel - posted on 04/25/2010

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yes, labor hurts. think of the worst pain you've ever felt, its worse than that. but i got an epidural at 5 cm and that helped me alot. and afterwards its not so much pain as just alot of soreness. although i did make my hubby wait until almost 4 mos after our daughter was born before even attempting sex again! dont worry, youll get thru it just fine and at the end you will have a beautiful baby to love and focus on instead of the pain

Krissy - posted on 04/25/2010

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yes it does hurt but its all worth it, just remember to breathe thru the contractions it makes it a lot easier than using ur energy to scream! contractions feel like period pains but worse, when it comes to pushing ur body will tell u what to do, it stings as baby's head comes out but once thats over with you'll be holding ur brand new little angel and will forget about the pain. i had gas and air and pethedine both really helped me, good luck :)

Roxanna - posted on 04/25/2010

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Well everyone has their personal experience and some people say it hurts them a lot. But personally I had contractions for 6 weeks staright and yes some of it was painful but i got used to them. When I went into labor I had back labor pains the night before. My contractions were 2 minutes apart. It was really painful but all you have to do is stay calm, breathe in and out but slowly. Just take deep breath in and slowly let it out. What help me was i needed someone to rub my arms or legs or something to soothe me. And my husband did it great job by soothing me. Just have someone you trust there rubbing your hands or legs or your back. When it comes to pushing it only took me 15mins for the baby to come out. Your nurses will teach you how to push. But i will tell you this get the epidurio shot to calm you down because it ease your pain a lot. All you feel in labor are the first contractions until yoiu get the shot and then when the baby is coming just some pressure. It feels like yoiu have to goto the bathroom really bad. But i will have a baby anyday then going through recovery because it sucks for those 40days.

Kelly - posted on 04/25/2010

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Yep, it hurts...but its bearable.I had no drugs and could cope. Women are built for child birth, your body will know what to do and it dosn't last forever.

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With the 1st i think it hurts because we dont really know what to expect. With my 1st it was like that but i didnt have an epidural or spinal. and with my 2nd it was more of an intense thing than pain. and it was completley drug free!

Tara - posted on 04/25/2010

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hounestly , yes it hurts , but every woman is different and every childbirth is too .with my first child i took epidoral so i didn't feel anything just few contractions but i bleed alot ,but with my second child i didn't have the chance to take the full epidoral dose so i felt everything .. it does hurt but first you feel closer to your child and more precious cos you felt pain carrying him and pain delivering him so he /she will be really precious for you . after childbirth and healing you wont feel anything and don't remember any pain . strange hu , thats why women have many children . good luck and take it easy , god be with you.

Abigail - posted on 04/24/2010

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having the baby does hurt i would say not at much as the contractions though they killed. the only part that hurt me was the head the shoulders didnt but was pianful for days after especially going to the toilet i used to dread going to the toilet but was fine fter week or so x

Stacey - posted on 04/24/2010

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Hi there, yes of course labour hurts, a lot! But it also depends on how you deal with the pain. If you go with what your body in naturally telling you what to do, stay in control and dont fight it, it is much easier. It will hurt but its a pain that you cope with because you dont really have much choice! The baby's got to come out somehow and as soon as it does you really do forget how bad it was because you will feel so proud of yourself!

Stacey - posted on 04/24/2010

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Yep it hurts but think of it this way 'you are stronger than you think you are because you are built for this moment' also think 'if it was my partner could you imagine just how much they would be complaining' lol.
All 4 of my labours hurt but I would do it all over again. The biggest piece of advice that I got was Keep Your Sence of Humour' I loved my last labour for that. It hurt all the way but I laughed and joked with everyone all the way through it and they were really special moments. As much as it might hurt at the time relax and smile and think of the almighty high you are going to get when your bub comes. Enjoy I wish I was doing it again.

Lily - posted on 04/24/2010

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Hey here Sabrina
yeah it does hurt lol...no way around it, ether way you are going to feel all the pain from every angle, but when your holding your child its all worth the pain, when your watch your child grow, its all worth the pain :)

Sonya - posted on 04/24/2010

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Hi Sabrina, it's different for everyone :) I have had 3 children and found it more intense than painful. For me labour was alittle worse than period pains and actually having babe was hard work but not 'painful', at the end when your holding your newborn it's all worth it :)

Penny - posted on 04/23/2010

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also, also, after having abby (naturally), when I had to go pee, I sat backwards on the toilet.. it shoots the pee forward, so seems to miss all the sore ouchy bits!!!
we all get through it, one way or another... all I can say is, through contractions, RELAX.. dont tense..
I SWORE I'd have no more after my first, but, nearly 6 months later, preggy with number 2.. now I've been there and done that, have a 2 and 3 year old.. awesome is all I can say :-)
best of luck...
x00x00xx

Penny - posted on 04/23/2010

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um yeah... it does. But, eveyone's pain threshhold is different, I had no pain relief with either of mine, but, it's a personal thing, but, yes, I think anyway you look at it, pain is there... some womaen LOVE it, others (me), dont :-( but, the end when you have baby, is worth every second...

Jana - posted on 04/23/2010

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Absolutely! I may have forgotten the pain over the last 10 yrs., but I wouldn't go through it again.

Kathy - posted on 04/23/2010

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I have only one child, 19mths old. I had all natural child birth no pain medicine of any kind. But my labor was also only 4 hours long from start to finish. I honestly didn't have any pain just discomfort in my lower back when I was ready to push. I was told by my grandmothers that if you walk a lot while pregnant it helps with the labor and pushing makes it not so intense. So I took their advice walked a mile 3-4 days a week. And everyday the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy. In my case it was very good advice. But it might have also been because I was so excited to hold my baby boy that I wanted sooo long for.

Jenelle - posted on 04/23/2010

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I think of everyone's experience one thing hasn't officially been brought up. Yes, Labor Hurts, but you do it because Nothing else in this world that compares to the feeling you get when you look in your new babies eyes...truly priceless. It is mentioned in most posts that you forget about the pain. When you deliver a baby your brain automatically produces a hormone that makes it so that you will forget just how painful it really was. Which if you think about, God was pretty smart in doing that, because if I could remember just how painful it really is and was I wouldn't have six kids right now. But do know that the next time you go into labor and you are dying in pain..the first thing out of your mouth will be "Oh yeah, I remember this really sucks!! I don't want to do this again!" But you do, the hormone is emitted and you forget the pain again, and you still have a beautiful baby that makes it worth it!!

Jennifer - posted on 04/23/2010

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There will always be some kind of discomfort/pain of some sort. Quite honestly, I slept through both of my children being born..both times they had to wake me up to push, and with y daughter I could actually hear myself snoring! Now obviously these were not "natural childbirth", but had some kind of drigs to aid pain. this is entirely a personal choice. Most of my pain was after, when the meds wore off; that and the burning when you pee for awhile! I found after my first child that the anticipation of not knowing what was going to happen was worse than when it actually happened! you'll be fine, it'll all be worth it, and when it's over you'll forget any of the bad parts!

Sam - posted on 04/23/2010

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it hurts yes.....but really the only thing i remember about the delivery was the burning of the baby coming out..... I had gas with the first and nothing with the last 3 and i really dont remember anything with any of them. The burning feeling is the only thing i remember. Once the babies were born tho i didnt really feel any pain it was more of a discomfort feeling that i had.

Rachelle - posted on 04/23/2010

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Yes, of course it hurts! Think about the size of a baby coming out of you! But, also think about how many women have been through it and how many have more than 1 child by choice...it is definitely worth it in the end! I have 2 boys and I wouldn't trade them for anything!

Marcia - posted on 04/23/2010

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Each labor is different, but mine hurt like a biatch! I had back labor for a few days and I won't ever forget the pain or recovery. Sorry but its the truth! That being said I would still have a dozen more kids if I could have them because my son was worth it!

Hajira - posted on 04/23/2010

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It does but the the pain doesn't linger in yr mind afterwards.. my labour pains were only concentrated below my belly button and upper thighs so for 8 hrs the monitor only showed itty-bitty contractions since it was placed high up my belly... docs says i was having braxton hicks.. scared me stiff since its my 1st labour pains (other 2 was ceaser b4 labour started) 1 doc decided to place the monitor rite where i said the pain was and well suffice to say all the specialist had to be brought back middle of the night for my ceaser.. i can't give birth naturally (too dangerous)

Rebecca - posted on 04/23/2010

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Hi yes it hurts it hurts ALOT and i had a epidural but beacuse id been in labour for so long i felt and i ript but its also true that once it is all over you dont even remember the pain all you are thinking about is your new buddle of joy that lays in your arms so dont stress and good luck

Angie - posted on 04/23/2010

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Are you serious? Does it hurt? What in your right mind would EVER make you think that a watermelon coming out of your whoha wouldn’t HURT! And the pain should be the least of your worries. Just let me say this…. The very second that baby comes out YOU WILL experience an overwhelming since of relief.
Happy Mothering

JESSICA - posted on 04/23/2010

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some women it hurts more then others. i had three boys and they all hurt. the only thing that hurt was the contractions. all contractions are different. some have it worse then others. does that help you any?

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