Does staying at home ever get old??

Nikkeya - posted on 04/22/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




My boyfriend and i moved to Idaho in january... and although i have worked since i was 14 at the same resturant i felt i neeeded a break. Also i stay home with my son because i am afraid of daycares mistreating him... but i didnt know it would be this hard. I feel really depressed sometimes. What do you girls do to pass the time?? This is a harder job than i thought..


Erin - posted on 04/22/2010




To pass time.....lots of games. I also try to schedule playdates with my friends. And the mall is always fun they have those play areas for my daughter and people watching for me. During the winter was really hard so I started a project with my daughter and she helped me paint a room and make pictures for the walls. If your son is still an infant take lots of pictures ine day and make a collage it will be fun for both of you. Get some washable paint and big huge pieces of paper and put the paint out and let him crawl through it. Its fun and messy and at the end you have his first painting! In the summer I bought a little pool for the backyard when she was still a baby....we would spend alot of time in there and it was fun for both of us....hope this helps!

Tiffany - posted on 04/22/2010




I know the feeling and I feel your torn pain. I to am a stay at home mom and I struggle with it as well especially since my husband is the only one that is working. However I am alot like you and afraid of the daycare systems at my location. Do trust I would love to relocate however its just not fesable. I had my daughter in daycare and she had two accidents in six months time and stayed sick the entire time. I wish now I had never put her in there but at times I'm glad I did bc she learned so much there. She graduated and was so proud of her they had a ceremony and everything,but I don't think the sickness that she went through was worth that considering due to the sickness she kept she had two sets of tubes put in her ears. SO be thankful Your at home and try your hardest to enjoy the time you have as a mother lf three very spaced out I know how quickly they grow. I have a 9 yr old girl fixing to turn 10, a 13 yr old son, and a 12 yr old step son. Its hard now bc I missed out on so much. I try to remember that everytime I feel absolutely crazy. You'll always have hard days but shake it off and remember it'll all be worth it in the long run;)


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Deena - posted on 04/22/2010




I run 2 business besides being a stay at home Mom/homeschool teacher. It does help to get out, make friends, get a hobby if you can..that helps big time too!

Lynne - posted on 04/22/2010




I am kinda in your boat right now, I just moved an hour and a half from where I used to live. I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years on and off. What I used to do is keep myself busy with parenting classes and mommy day out things that were offered by families first. Look around and see if you can find a family support center that offers this type of stuff for you and your son/ its a great way to meet other parents and for your son to interact with other children while you get a break. I have been out of luck up here so I am getting depressed. I am determined to find another place like that up here. If I cannot I might just have to start a group by myself and hope it takes off.

Sara - posted on 04/22/2010




Stayin at home is the hardest job in the world.I am a stay at home mom of 5 with one on the way, and sometimes I can go insane but you have to just get out.Take the kids for a walk or to the park or visit a friend or family it helps for awhile but in the end it all gets old.Gl

Nikkeya - posted on 04/22/2010




Thanks Everyone these were wonderful ideas. I am going to try them all. Last week i did find a church and the people were very friendly i think i see possible friendships there. And i love the idea of maybe just getting a weekend job just to interact with other people and make friendships :)

Kristi - posted on 04/22/2010




i chose to take on daycare children since i am home. my son is almost 3 and i watch two other girls one 2 months younger than my son and one 8 yr old that we pick up after school. it definitely helps fill the time and keeps my son entertained too. that way he doesn't miss out on any of the social interactions. the extra income is never a bad thing either. also, i am very lucky to have an awesome indoor park local that is a fun way to get out and see people. for a while before i started daycare i even got a weekend job just one day a week making minimum wage. nothing special but it was nice to get out and talk to adults and my husband was home from work to watch the baby. hope this helps. don't get discouraged and take pride in the little things you accomplish whether it's just housework or time with your son, you are doing a great job!

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2010




I would encourage you to get out. Find what the community has for mom and baby/toddler things. You can look on line or call your local community ed. office or recreation office. This will help you get out and do things and meet other in the community. Talk with neighbors and find out where a play group might be in your area. My son was about 4 months old when my husband and I moved to where we are now. I did not have any family or know anyone here. It gets VERY lonely. I got involved in a church (the one we are now members of). This helped SO much. Once you get to know people then you can start play groups at your house (if you feel comfortable with that). Or meet at the park. It is nice to be able to talk with other moms as you try to entertain your son as well.

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