doesn't know what else to do..

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my son is almost 11months and has never slept through the night..ive tried everything i can think of to try and get him to sleep through the night..i am now sick..my husband thinks b/c he goes to work full time that his job is so much harder then me being a stay at home mom.. so he comes homes picks up our son plays with him for a few minutes then plops his butt on the couch n that is where he stays till the night is over..doesnt help with bath time or dinner.. i just dont know what to do anymore and im about ready to pull my hair out!! please help!!

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Shannon - posted on 01/07/2010

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ok i have a patner that only recently got the hit on how much i really do because 2yr old and i were sick at the same time and he had to take work off and take care of us because i was throwing up. once he had to do eveything that i had to do he reliewzed how much i really do and now he helps. if you leave the baby with him for 24 hours. I know its hard. just go to a friend or family's house. he will get.

As far as the sleep. Lianne and I are in the same boat. my son used to sleep through the night and then opne day he stopped. now i just let him climb into bed with me and his dad. it helps.

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hi, i no u prob dont wana hear this but my daughter is 22months and still doesnt sleep through the :(
everybody tells me about a routine b4 bed but it didnt wrk 4 her i still hav one but it does nothing,
i treid absoulty everything sitting wiv her till she fell asleep but she's still wake up, i let her scream 4 hours then she'd b sick and still wouldnt sleep!
i did the 5min thing where u put them 2 bed leave go bk in 5mins put them bk 2 bed leave and carry this on until they sleep!!

i dont hav a partner so i find it very hard, now i just let her sleep in my bed she still doesnt sleep but at least i dont hav 2 listen 2 her screaming the house down.

does ur husband help during the nite getting up ??

Sonia - posted on 01/07/2010

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I totally know how you feel. My husband works at a mine and he comes home about five and gets right on the computer and doesn't get off unless he wants to watch tv. He hardly holds the baby at all and he wont make me a bottle or change a diaper ever. He doesn't help but he expects me to have the house clean when he gets home and something for him to eat. Its so frustrating.

Carrie - posted on 01/07/2010

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I would do the bath again, it calms, night time lotion and stuff really aren't any better in my use of them than any other lotions , but a nice little rub down dose help. then you could do a bottle(but you have to consider their teeth with the sugar in milk or juice) maybe read to him and rock him or sing and rock him or lay him in bed and love on em or caress him. till he falls asleep, then when he wake up during the night do the same minus the bath and lotion, keep lights off don't play , maybe not even talk just rub/ pat, try water bottle....

as for your stress level maybe try to get an evening out to chill or at least an afternoon to take a long bath and nap w/o having to worry about baby, maybe grandmas for the evening or afternoon.

Gemma - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi Jennifer.
It took to about 6 months for my daughter to sleep through the night. At first I thought she was waking because she 'used' to having a bottle in the night so when she woke just gave her water/juice and she would have a bit then go back to sleep. I didnt want her to get int that habit so when she woke I just let her cry...not for long, 5 mins or so at first and then after a couple of nights for 7 minutes and just stretched it out and eventually she went back to sleep.on her own.
I know its hard just leaving them to cry but as long as its not for a long time then its fine. Mya now sleeps fine through the night and on the odd occasion she does wake I give her the dummy back and she drifts back off to sleep or sits and talks to herself.

Its hard when a partner thinks that their job is harder or that they shouldnt help out because they woek full time. It can be very damaging to the relationship as resentment can set in. Being a parent (mother or father) is a full time, life long responsibilty for both of you. Its such a shame when the working parent takes this attitude. You would like to think that they want to help and be involved with their childs upbrnging.
I hope you can get things sorted

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ive tried calmly talking to him and sadly it doesnt work..as for my routine..he eats his dinner plays for a bit then he gets his bottle.. i was feeding him dinner then giving him a bath and using night time lotion then giving him his bottle and putting him to bed..i think im going to go back to giving him a bath at night and see if it helps..ive also tried playin music in the bedroom at night to help him sleep..

Carrie - posted on 01/07/2010

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sweetie its hard, maybe just try to talk CALMLY to you hubby, try to tell him you don't feel good explain you need help and that's what hes for. also with the sleeping thing its hard , its what i struggled most w/. Whats your routine???? i might be able to help if i know what you normally do to get little guy to sleep.

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