don't know what to do?

RIKA - posted on 05/30/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




sometime i feel so confuse when my three boys want my attention at the same time...especially my four years old boy n my two years old....any sugesstion for me ??


Nicole - posted on 05/31/2010




hmm, this means that you are a good mommy...I have one and he always wants mommy's attention! He knows that when all else fails mommy is the best playmate. Even when I have so much house stuff to do, and I do get overwhelmed, he tugs at me because he knows that when he needs a friend mom is a good one to turn to, and I will always be there, I wouldn't have it any other way. I like to see it as the ultimate compliment. I do worry about how he will handle sharing me with the new baby, but I think it is a matter of finding a way to cope that works, your four year old is definetly old enough to express his needs verbally, and he is also old enough to take verbal instructions such as, "Mommy is going to take care of this quickly and we can take special time after." or asking him to help in the little ways he can like if the two year old just wants to play, try having him help you entertain him with silly songs and dances or playing all together with the same toys. One thing I know is that little boys like to be made to feel like little men, anything that makes him feel like a big boy is going to have a big impact.


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Jane - posted on 05/31/2010




i try to give them attention together as much as possible b/c as a family, that is how things are from here on out. but i do like it as well when i have one-on-one time. sometimes my in-laws take one of them or my husband wants his one-on-one time so we all win. but overall, i think it's best for them to understand that you have time for the both of them and they learn to enjoy things as a family. it's not as if you are giving 50/50, as a family they get 95% of your time b/c you are always together so things overlap.

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I have two boys, ages 5 and 9. One girl who is 8 yold.

Your 2 yold will need your attention most of the time. But pick a special time for the 4 yold, maybe when 2 yold is asleep, and do something the 4 yold likes to do. Like read a book, or Playdoh. I meet the needs of my children by spending time doing what THEY like to do. Mostly my boys love it when I play Legos with them, or build with blocks.

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