don't put me down

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




my son is 10 months old and lately refuses to touch the floor-he can barely crawl, walk, or cruise. its a new habit and when you put him down he screams. hes has a serious set of lungs on him and he can go for hours... what should i do?


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Melissa - posted on 12/05/2009




sit on the floor with him. and if you have to leave him on the floor alone then leave him. let him scream. he won't learn he's not going to get his way any other way.

Jamie - posted on 12/05/2009




One of my daughters didnt like the feel of carpet or grass... and would scream if i sat her on either. Try laying different types of blankets down and see if that helps, it sure did for my daughter.
Also, my girls went thru stages of wanting to be held and not sat down, and with that i just had let them cry it out.. otherwise i'd be still carrying them today hahaha.

Samantha - posted on 12/04/2009




Maybe try letting him know that being on the floor can mean he gets to have fun and explore. I will sometimes put my babies toys on the floor and lay next to him and hold them up to show him how they work and get him interested. I also try to play games with him where I put him down and then hide behind something and then peek out and say something silly. He had a problem with me putting him on the floor and walking behind the wall that separates our kitchen and living room for a while until I started poking my head out every once in a while and saying "peek-a-boo". It helped him to learn that I wasn't leaving him and that it was a fun game too. And having toys and blankets around him helps when I do that too. Then he tries to hide from me and then look to see if he surprised me. So I guess what I'm mainly trying to say is to try and play with him on the floor and make it seem fun to explore when mommy's not looking and then wait for her to sneak up on him and make him laugh. I hope this helps.

Kelly - posted on 12/04/2009




i honestly cant say that i have gone through this with my children but however my brother in law had this issue with his son and when ever they would come over they would put him down and it would start so i told them to leave him be and not to pay attention to him he would start in and i would look at him and say hey now thats enough and i would puts some toys around him or i would put him in a walker or the highchair with toys and some of those gerber puffs its a snack for infants fast disolving it takes time it wont get better over night but it will it normally takes a child about a week to get use to something new

Erika - posted on 12/04/2009




My 9 month old daughter did this recently at my Grandma's house. I don't think she liked the feeling of the carpet. Your son might be going through a phase. I would just try to play with him as much as possible on the floor. Maybe put a toy or something he really likes across the room, perhaps he'll go get it.

Hope this helps a bit.


Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2009




Make sure that there is nothing else going on like a sensory issue that mite be causing him to freak out when touching the floor . trying deep pressure massage and talk to your childs Dr there is lost of information online on how to help your child with it if it is the reason why your child freaks out .

Ilene - posted on 12/04/2009




I like what Michele Walker said and I totally agree. Although my kids weren't as nice about it, so, after trying to play with them and reading to them and all that motherly stuff, I got to the point where my dishes were piling up, I had no clean clothes and I didn't even know what sleeping felt like. So (the first one) I talked to him (Yes at that point I was off my rocker) and told him that I couldn't afford the jumpy thing and he would have to deal with it, like it or not. I would bend to put him down and he would try to claw me like a cat. Baby mittens took care of that. Anyway, he would scream and flip out and I would talk to him while I was doing the dishes and doing the laundry. It took a few weeks I think, but the screaming got less and he really started to like the floor. Him and I would race and he beat me everytime. lol Stand your ground. Your mom and what you say goes, period. Children get used to things. The last thing you want to do is give him whatever he wants wheather it's holding him or the DS when he gets older. They will figure you out and learn your weaknesses wheather you know it or not. And when you think you have a child under control, they'll hit you with something like a bomb. Good luck and congrats. I just read another post that said if he dosen't calm down, get a sling to carry him around. Isn't that the same thing as holding him? It's just not with your arms.

Katherine - posted on 12/04/2009




If playing with him on the floor doesn't seem to make it better, I'd suggest getting a sling and wearing him. My Moby Wrap was how I got things done when my son was going through that phase. :)

Erika - posted on 12/04/2009




I agree with these moms... if you play with him on the floor and show him that being on the floor= fun, he wont freak out as much when you put him down. Play some toddler music and put some toys down the music might catch his interest and calm him enough to stat focusing on toys and crawling and stuff???

Shannon - posted on 12/04/2009




it's just a phase. My son did it too. I agree with Michele, try to play with him while on the floor, who knows it may work. For my son I just dealt with the fit while I did what I had to do. They can't be held all of the time. He will get over it.

Michele - posted on 12/04/2009




I would say just hug him, sit on the floor with him and start by reading a book and play for a little while. This generally works with my daughter, then she gets distracted by all the fun and ends up playing by herself. She starts out in my lap and quickly wants to play what mom is playing and has to leave my lap to do so.

Good luck!

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