Dreading Thanksgiving

Leslie - posted on 11/15/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I'm dreading the holidays this year. Through some unfortunate events, we've had to separate from my family, even though we still live in the same town as them. Holidays are hard because they still pressure us to come, but I have no desire to. I just feel bad for my kids sake that they won't know the whole extended fsmily gathering thing.

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Carol - posted on 11/15/2012

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Start a new tradition. We moved 2 years ago 1000 miles away from our family. Last year we went to a neighbor's house and had a great time. I also understand a bit of what you're saying since we cut off contact with my dad. He was never really around anyway, but now he's the closest relative. It's been almost 2 years since we stopped talking and I have been so much more at ease. I used to dread visiting him and his floozy.



I try to think of it in terms of what the relationship gets anybody. If all it creates is dread and uneasiness, then why bother? The kids are better off without the stress.

Charlie - posted on 11/15/2012

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I am dreading the whole family gathering thing for Thanksgiving also. I have a sister, nephew, and her so called fiance living in my mom's basement. They both have jobs (he owns a store and she works there too). They are totally taking advantage of my mom and wont listen to her when she tells them to find a place of their own. Their relationship is up and down. When they are on the outs she doesn't go into work and he goes to stay at his moms... I would rather have my own dinner in my own house, but I go for my mom's sake. I just think that it is going to be a big fall out on Thanksgiving to where everyone is just going to speak their minds on the whole situation. Next year I think I am going to have my own at my house and invite my mom to come.

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Leslie - posted on 11/21/2012

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Jocelyn sorry to hear of the deaths in the family! I know holidays must be lonely for you! I hope you have a great Thanksgiving tomarrow and are able to start some new traditions of your own!

Jocelyn - posted on 11/21/2012

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Leslie, glad to hear your family is starting their own tradition, it will be great for you all. Mary: I understand your situation completely...2 kids, 1 on the way...I used to cook Thanksgiving Dinner for 13 plus people w/my mom for years and then due to deaths in the family and unfortunate circumstances I have no one left. My boyfriends family is great and we do go there for the holidays, but, it is not the same as not having my family around. I also have no one to go out w/and I get teary-eyed listening to everyone's stories about the holidays. I miss shopping w/my mom and getting up at 3am for all the "door buster sales" and spending the day together!!

Leslie - posted on 11/18/2012

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Thanks for responding ladies. We have decided to have our own Thanksgiving at home, and then put our tree up so the kids can have fun too. We've had several friends invite us, but thought it'd be neat to have our own. Thanks for the advice. I'm sure we'll get a lot of junk from family members, but I have pretty much told them to lay off. Would love to hear how everyone's thanksgiving went!!!

Mary - posted on 11/18/2012

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I too and dreading the holidays. I have 4 kids and an emotionally absent husband on one side and I am the only child to my elderly father confined to a nursing home bed. I must admit I feel Very Sorry for Myself since all the people around me have these wonderful family gatherings. I don't even have any friends to go out shopping with on Black Friday because I have set myself apart from everyone to avoid being hurt. Plus I have no money anyway! LOL I just really want to know if there is anyone else out there who can understand where I am coming from.

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