Dying to go back to work.

Alyssa - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 3 months old, my daughter is 19 months old. I took maternity leave from my job a month early because I took my daughter to work (I'm an adoption specialist with an animal rescue group) with me and it was just getting too hard to do my job and have her there. (I couldn't and still can't afford a sitter.) My boss is asking me about coming back to work, just for a couple days a week at first and I am missing my job so much. My husband was laid off in Oct. and has been unable to find a job. I want to go back to work without any kids (I could bring my son if I wanted to.) But my son is breastfed and my husband doesn't was me to put him on a bottle. Anyway, I'm about to lose it. My husband and I never get out, but I can hardly even stand to be around him. I guess what I'm trying to say is I want to go back to work (and school) and tell my husband to suck it up and be the SAHD or I'm going to go crazy. I just need some advise on how to deal with this stressful situation.


Laura - posted on 02/25/2010




If you are on WIC (and it sounds like you would definitely qualify), you can get a manual pump if you ask and a really great electric one if you are working or going to school for 20 hours or more a week. Sometimes DHS will pay for some or all of childcare if you qualify too, so no worries if your husband does find a job. Hope that helps a litte :]

Pamela - posted on 02/25/2010




You and your husband need to work through this together. This needs to be a family decision. Have you considered pumping so your husband could feed the breastmilk while you are at work? Be sensitive to the fact that men are brought up to be the bread winners and that unemployment and the feeling of failure from not supporting his family is weighing on him. Let him know that you going back to work is not a reflection on him. I know you are both tired and stressed (you have two kids under the age of two so that is par for the course!) Try to stay as cool as possible when discussing the topic even through your husband may not. The male ego can truly be fragile.


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Jessica - posted on 02/25/2010




If you have a job you love and need to go back to work - then do it. Hubby will have to step up and take care of the kids. He's out of work anyway so it makes sense to have him take care of them while you work. You just have to sit down with the husband and let it all out and then make a decision. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 02/25/2010




I think you NEED to go back to work, from the sounds of it. I was a full time SAHM for the first 10 months of my daughter's life, but then had to go back to work, thankfully, on ly part time. It really saves my sanity. I do not breastfeed anymore, but I did for the 1st 2-3 months that I worked. I borrowed an electric pump from my sister, which she had bought from someone from church for $100. It was a Medela, and man, was it nice! My husband, who is a rancher, watches her the 2 days that I work, and it has been great for all of us! They have bonded in a way that I know they wouldn't have if I didn't go back to work. It can make you a better mom and wife, and he will appreciate you more. Make a list of pros and cons about you working and talk it over with your husband. During tough times, you come closer as long as you come together to work things out. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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