emotional cry or protesting cry??

Erin - posted on 04/22/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Is there any simple ways to tell whether my little boy is having an emotional cry or is just protesting sleep? i have ticked all the boxes, like hunger, wind and dirty nappy but when put down to bed i cant tell the difference and am worried if i go to him thinking something is wrong he'll get use to me always running when he cries but i dont want to neglect him if something really is wrong.

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I think it's really important to establish a bedtime routine at an early age. If you have attended to all baby's needs, then it's nappy time. If baby cries, let baby cry. If you pick baby up, then baby sees that when I cry, mommy will pick me up so I won't go to sleep. I hugged and loved all three of my babies, but bedtime was bedtime. I needed them to go to bed. So, I let them cry it out, to comfort themselves. My oldest boy, cried for 45 min. but my girl, barely cried. I just didn't want to battle at bedtime, so I made sure the babies were trained to take a nap.

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Erin - posted on 04/23/2010

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Hi jacki, my little guy was an absolute nightmare at night! He would wake up every 1-2 hours for a feed and sometimes not go back to sleep for hours. This was until I started him on a routine. The key being that he wakes at 7am and goes to bed at 7pm reguardless. He also needed to learn to self settle without the aid of me cuddling him, dummies, music etc. He does cry out in protest as he doesn't want to sleep but he soon gets the message it's sleep time and gives in to his tiredness. It's essential ur routine is consistant for eg, everynight at 5.30 is bath time, 6pm is his feed and 7 is bedtime. You then wake him up at 10pm even if still asleep for a feed. Leo now only wakes at 2 and 5 every night. 100% better than before, he's only 3 1/2 weeks, just wish I found this book at the beginning. It's called Save our Sleep :)

Jackie - posted on 04/23/2010

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i think this is one of the major things when having a child. I am still awaiting my little one to pop out but i have to admit, i am worried about crying. I know everyone around me will just instantly try to pick him up if he starts crying and I am a bit worried that he wont have a routine at all. How do you apply a bedtime routine? and when did you reinforce it?

Erin - posted on 04/23/2010

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Thanks Joelle, that is a really big help. It just reinforces that what I'm doing is ok. We have our routine that is the same every night and at the same time, bath, feed, wind and bed. How long did it take for your son to settle down and not cry as long?

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