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in an earlier post i meant if it was ok to push your baby to "meet standars" like walking , saying new words at a certain age?....i have a 10 month old boy who is very active yet he just wont give his first steps....am i asking for him to do too much or am i setting goals in wich later he will understand......


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Kristin - posted on 03/25/2010




Just enjoy him, he will develop at his own pace. This little boy is learning so much anyway. You cannot dictate to him what order things are going to be learned. just let him do it and cheer him on as he gets things.

As for family, are they really putting pressure on you/him? It could be a case of miscommunication again. Although, if it isn't, feel free to spend less time with them until they can lay off. You are too busy playing with a perfect baby boy anyway.

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thank you! i have heard" my baby started walking before he/she was 1 yr" or just flat out "your baby is lazy" lol....i am really enjoying him at this time and really dont want to push him into doing things he is simply not ready or feels comfortable doing...but pressure in the family is hard not to pay attention. thanks again to all of you

Jane - posted on 03/18/2010




both of ours didn't walk before their 1yr. he'll be fine. the standards are guidelines, not sure bets.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2010




There are some things that no matter how much you want them to do it or how much you work with them to get it (understand it) they have to be ready physically and emotionally to do it. Walking and talking are things you can help encourage, but you can't make them do it. You have to let them do it when they are ready. I think it is important to recognize that they are their own person. No matter how much you want them to be or do something they may not want to or may not be ready to do so. It is good to help teach them things and to encourage them to do different things, but if you go past encouraging then you both become frustrated and then nothing gets accomplished and he may decrease his interest in doing it. He is his own little person that might get some things really quickly and other things he might be slow at getting. Some things he may have interest in and other things he may want nothing to do with.

Colleen - posted on 03/18/2010




Don't push. When he's ready he will. My nephew didn't start walking till 14 months and we were all shocked because my neice was walking at 10 months. Every child is different. Try not to worry.

Ala Ala - posted on 03/18/2010




i agree with denise, dont be pressured by articles and by what other babies can do. all babies are different and reach milestones at different times.

just like my two kids, my daughter started talking in clear full sentences by 1 1/2 years old, now my son who is turning 3 in july is still having a hard time talking. but my son learned to walk before he was 1 and was running by 1, while my daughter learned to walk around 1 and 2 months.

don't be too stressed. your baby will reach each goal in his own time when he is ready

Denise - posted on 03/18/2010





All babies are different. Stop reading the articles that say what your child should and should not be doing. He will walk when he is ready to. I would only worry about something if your pediatrician is worried about it. In the mean time, enjoy what he does now, they grow so fast and soon you will not remember what it was like before he walked.


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