facebook for 7 year olds?

Caroline - posted on 04/18/2010 ( 114 moms have responded )

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My ex husband and I share 50-50 parenting time with our son, he is 7 now. I have just found out that his father opened a facebook account for him which I am not happy about. I do not feel this is safe for a 7 year old and I want the account to be deleted. Anyone have an opinion on this? Do you think it is ok or not? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks

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Traci - posted on 04/21/2010

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COPPA states a child cannot have any sort of online account until age 13. It is actually law. If a website asks if you are under the age of 13, you cannot have an account, as it is collecting personal information.

http://www.coppa.org/

I am really amazed how many people are not aware of this.

Kaytie - posted on 04/19/2010

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My niece is 8 almost 9 and her mom opened a facebook account for her but she is not aloud to add people without her moms ok. She likes to play the games on there like Farmville and Petville. Her mom checks it daily for any inappropriate things and she also has to earn time on it. She has to keep her grades up and do her chores. My 3 year old loves to play with me on facebook too. I think that it is ok as long as the mom or dad supervise.

Sherry - posted on 04/20/2010

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I am SOOOO against it! Myspace too! There are other sites for the kids to play on. i won't even let my 12 yr old get on myspace or fb, I think those are ADULT like sites & should stay for adults only. I have nieces & nephews with fb pages, i just won't add them as friends...maybe u should ask of your family the same thing. Have ur son try Weeworld, or kid math games, there are plenty of age friendly sites out there... Good luck! Oh, and be careful cuz ur ex created the page for him & made it a big deal, so if u are the one to yank it away, it could backfire & make YOU the bad guy.. Again...good luck.

Beck - posted on 04/18/2010

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I know someone who did the same thing so they reported it to facebook and the account was deleted. There is an age limit and facebook figured it put and got rid of the page. Maybe you could look into that?

Shannintipton - posted on 08/27/2011

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Hi Anastasia, this post is a little old so I am going to close it, but thank you for your response. :)

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Anastasia - posted on 08/27/2011

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Just make sure you have a password to it too, and make it private, like so nobody,except friends, could see it. My kid has a profile - so she could play her petvilee, but we never post any pics of her. Also it'll be one of the ways to communicate for you with your son, while he is at his daddy's house!)

Yvonne - posted on 07/06/2010

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obviously your ex is mad that's why he's your ex i would seriously look into getting it deleted there are too many sickkos out there without you having to worry about monitoring facebook every day does he not think we have enough to do, sorry but he's a stupid man!!.

Good luckxx

Lacye - posted on 07/05/2010

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i have a facebook account for my daughter. but i have complete control over it. all of the people on her account are family, most of them that doesn't get to see Lily all that often. I have everything on private. nobody can look at it unless they are her friend. i'm the only person who knows the e-mail and the password.

but that is me. if you feel more comfortable have your son's account deleted, then do it. it doesn't really matter what other people think, he's your son. if you feel safer and more at peace with the account being deleted, then contact facebook and have it deleted. immediately.

Jen - posted on 07/04/2010

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No, I wouldn't be happy with that...
There are too many freaks out there just waiting to pounce on inocent children!
My 11 yr old son asked me if he could have an account as his friend had one and i said No way...

Gênesis - posted on 04/26/2010

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I completelly agree with you. My son asked me (hes 8) if he could open one and I said no way, but Iwonder what age would be ok to let??!

Sandy - posted on 04/25/2010

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Circle of Moms has child pages where a parent can post stuff regarding a child with significantly more security than on a Facebook page. You can tell the father of your child that you've made a page for your child and to use that instead of a Facebook page. There are very serious concerns about a child having a Facebook page regardless of how many blocks that page has checked.

Rebecca - posted on 04/25/2010

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I agree with you. I would not want my son's picture and stats on facebook. It's an open forum for anyone to look at and see pictures, what city and state you live in and a way to talk to you without sharing your true identity. Please be careful

Margaret - posted on 04/25/2010

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The rules regarding chldren and FB accounts is clear! Account holders must be13 year olds and up only!
Has anyone asked the child why he feels that he needs an FB account! More to the point what he told his father in order for his father to create an account for him?

I doubt whether his father would have been complicit in creating an account for him without asking the child, and being swayed by the arguement that his son gave to him! Particularly knowing that it may create annoyance with you! So, please do not blame the father here without taking the child to task too!
Gettting away from the emotional aspect here, and the outrage, a father would not go against the wishe of his child's mother, unless he was offered evidence that he would not be doing any wrong in doing so! Has the mother or anyone else thought to talk to the chld concerned in finding out what part if any he had to play in this! Then checked what he told Mum with Dad?

Kristina - posted on 04/25/2010

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I think thats a stupid thing for anyone under 16. I dont think its safe at all. I have a cousin who has set up accounts for all of her 3 kids and they are all under 10. Its stupid.

Mavis - posted on 04/24/2010

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So not okay...what does a 7 year old need a facebook account for? What does a 12 year old need a facebook account for? I am subbing at a school right now in a third grade class and some of them have facebook accounts...it's crazy...not modern...just down right over the top. Why does a person under the age of 18 need to network? Good luck with that but I would definitely stand my ground. I think I would tell my kids when they pay for internet service and their own computer then maybe we'll talk about it. I guess I'm just super old fashioned.

Sherre - posted on 04/24/2010

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No way. It's one thing if you're the parent and you choose to post certain statuses and pictures of your children on the web but allowing a 7yr old to do that is just crazy. Internet should be for adults unless children are being supervised and it's for school or they're playing games.

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I would delete it. The internet can be a scary place, especially networking sites. My kids wont be allowed to have them until i just cant stop them anymore lol. It would be wonderful if you could trust people, but thats just not possible. If you want it gone, just delete it or report it. ♥

Jana - posted on 04/24/2010

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I know people who have changed their date of births as well. Is it that important? Kids have more things to do than play games on the computer anyway.

Lee-Anne - posted on 04/24/2010

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hi caroline, Have you discussed with your ex? That might be the place to start first & explain yr concerns.
I am of the understanding that if the person is under a certain age they can't open a facebook account - however by changing the year of birth an account can be opened as I know of kids who have done this. I have just gone in & tried to open a facebook account with the year of birth as 2003 & it says I'm ineligible to open an account - so there you go, a false Year of birth has been used to open an account for your son. You can report them via facebook - there is a link on the left hand side right down the bottom of their home page (Report/block this person). If talking to yr ex about it doesn't work maybe you can do this. Hope it goes well.

Ann - posted on 04/24/2010

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I would have to say Caroline, that I would try to do whatever you can do and get this account deleted immediatly!!!! It is not approrite for a little boy that is 7 to have a FB account....it's absurd if you ask me, I totally agree with what Cindy wrote...there are way to many CRAZY people out there that stalk little boy's and girl's and god know's what else....I guess your Ex doesn't think that could happen to him!!!!! Good Luck getting your son's account deleted or at least monitor EVERYDAY!!!!!!

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dont really see the need for a 2nd grader to be on FB but you can monitor/ set privacy settings. would your ex give you access to the account so you watch over it? guess you might want to consider talking to your son about internet dangers & predators?!

Rae - posted on 04/24/2010

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I agree with you. It isn't a place for 7 year olds. I set one up for my 12 year old last year when she was still only 11 and I have since found that there are a lotof things on there...But also, for anyone under a certain age, everything is secured. Even for adding friends they have to enter a secure password to do so. My 7 (nearly 8yo) loves to get on to mine and play a few of the games. i guess my opinion is that if he is monitored, and just wants to play a few of the games, like petville, happy aquarium, ones like that, that's fine. But I don't see why he would need his own account. At 7 years old, he's completely miss the point of FB anyway. Just my 2 cents. ~Rachel Clutter~

Katie - posted on 04/24/2010

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I my child is only 7 months, but i do have twin brothers that are 9. If i had a choose i would say hell no!!! Not only because of secruity reasons and the safety of the child, but becasue a child doesn't need to be on the computer that much. Kids are surrounded by technology, not saying technology is bad thing, but kids should be out playing with friends, enjoying time outside, or doing other things that when we were kids enjoyed doing. Since we didn't have all the things they do, we had to emprephise and do more imaginary things. I wouldn't want my child looked in his or her room, playing video games, watching tv all day, or on a computer. I would rather see him enjoying other things.

Carla - posted on 04/24/2010

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I do not agree with a 7 yr old having a facebook account plus it is against facebook rules and regulations.The person who has a facebook account has to be over 13 yrs old.

Natalie - posted on 04/24/2010

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i would in no way let my child have a facebook account until they are old enough and mature enough. there are so many sick people out there and why would a seven yr old have a facebook account? shouldnt he be outside playing with friends? I think 15 to 16 yrs of age is when you should get a facebook account. its like a seven yr old having a cell phone what does a seven yr old need a cell phone for? So no i would not have my seven yr old have a facebook account there should be restrictions to what young children should do on the computer

L.A. - posted on 04/24/2010

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As for kids wanting, liking the game apps on FB. That can still be easily done within your own profile for them to play. They don't need a personal account to play the game apps. However, one always needs to be careful even in the game apps as 1. they add cookies as well as graphics to your temp files. 2. Some even if kid appropriate game type some won't let you reach other levels without adding more friends or neighbors so then what is the point if you can't go any further without adding people that play you don't know. (then again once accepting friendship for a game most don't know you can go back within your friend settings & remove them as a friend once accepted in game app without it affecting the game. It doesn't remove them from the game only from access to your account as a friend. You can remove them safely & still play the game with them) 3. Some games allow for personal written comments within the game & thus...if not knowing it is a child who is playing could end up saying some things that no child of young age should see, read or hear. ;-)

L.A. - posted on 04/24/2010

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I have a 9 yr old (just turned 9 in April) who has asked herself if she could have a facebook profile. She likes to play some of the app games that I allow her to from my profile that are kid friendly. However, my answer to her was no she can't have a facebook profile. Now she does model & it is good networking to have a page set up for her for agencies & etc to have link back to but still chose not to. Either way I would still be the only one accessing that anyway not my 9 yr old.

Same goes for Myspace was shocked to find some kids on there and well in comparison of Myspace & FB, Facebook is still safer but yet it is not. There are still children stalkers etc found on any social network. Why because majority of people on them are adults. No place for a kid. 17 maybe, but under that age I see no reason why there are plenty of kids sites that allow for social networking and even then you still don't know what who are kids & who is not if as parent already monitoring allowing known friends only.

Now suggestion if I were in your shoes. Depending on how amicable you are with his father. This is definitely a joint decision that should have been discussed together before doing so. Do you have joint custody? I think it is fare to say that discussing this with your son's father amicably about both your opinions on why or why not he should be allowed to have access to a FB profile account. If between the two of you the pros & cons as well as discussion of what kind of settings he set up for the account in the first place.....if joint custody...this is what I would call a violation of that court joint custody. Because it was not discussed with you first before doing so. We all know that joint custody means that all information is shared, discussed & a mutual decision before doing anything without the other parties consent. (I know doesn't always happen like that but is what it means) Neither parent can do anything that has to do with the child's safety, health, school or travel without the other parents permission & mutual decision) this FB thing falls under Safety. How much is the father actually monitoring what that child does on FB. Who he accepts friend requests from. I don't really think that FB has parental settings so leaves the door wide open for a child to connect with the wrong people. Safety issue then ...obvious.

Have you discussed these concerns with the father as to why you think this is inappropriate and that he should have discussed with you first? His reaction if you did to your disputing the fact that your son shouldn't have a FB account? Personally, 7 is way to young to know all Internet safety. Heck even my 9 year old while learning at school how to search in computer class I have found issues of YOUTUBE and other searches that still can pull up some sites that are not at all age appropriate. My daughter isn't allowed on Youtube. I know she likes music videos of her favorite artists but even in searching for Greek Gods & Goddess for social studies that tell of each of them and their duties & powers...found several home made versions & game versions that were inappropriate, to much sexual content, graphic & language in my search. I did find what I was looking for it was there but if a child did that search....well they would see then the things they should not at all. Way to many I found while searching for what I was looking for. Personally even youtube should have ratings on all that is within it like the movies do. G, PG, PG-13, etc. It doesn't so no place for a kid to go poking around. Neither is FB or Myspace.

Amanda - posted on 04/24/2010

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im sure a 7 year old can find games on the internet without going on facebook! seriously, i dnt understand why kids an even teens have to have facebook, msn,myspace an all other chat sites,why cant kids be more active by playin outside with friends or doing sport? it is very unhealthy for young boys an girls to sit on a computer for so long, reason is, they can get bad eysite at a young age an they become lazy! so do ur kids a favor, encourage them to go out an play, not sit on a comp an have a facebook account.

Renee - posted on 04/23/2010

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Well I'm glad to know now that they have age limits. I was thinking about getting my son an account and he's eight. He's autistic and is very into the games I play. He doesn't know about adding people and such. I won't do it now that I know this info. Also glad to know they do have one out there for kids.

Jana - posted on 04/23/2010

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I do not agree with the fact of a 7 yr. old having a facebook acct. Some content is inappropriate though I don't know if there is a way to monitor it. My son is 10 and wants a farm on facebook, but he is not of age to be allowed to join. I am not going to lie about his age just so he can have a farm.

Kelly - posted on 04/23/2010

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My stepson is 7 and asked for a FB account so he could play the games. I said no way, but you can play via my account as long as I am around to supervise it. I can't think of any reason a 7 year old would need their own account. I concur with many that you need to have full access to the account so you can monitor it if your ex won't respect your wishes to remove his profile.

Outi - posted on 04/23/2010

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My son who just turned seven has one, but only because he wanted to play some of the games that come with it ( like farmville etc) His settings are set to private and where only friends of friends can add him as a friend and the only friends he has is family members, no friends from school etc. He really doesnt spend any time in there expect when he wants to play farmville etc and he is very closely monitored. He also doesnt post or communicate with anyone.
I think its unnecessary for social purposes ( and maybe dangerous) but if the settings are controlled by you, his friends controlled by you and he obeys the rules he is given I think its ok if he wants to play games or connect with grandma etc.

Samantha - posted on 04/23/2010

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why did he open an account for your son? and who is on your sons friends list? i think those are important things to address. My daughter is 6, and i made her an account because she really likes to play the farmville, happy aquarium, etc type games. That is the only reason she has one. She does not even know her log in info, as i always log her in when she plays. her default picture is a random "princess" icon i found offline and there are no personal info what so ever on her page but everything is private anyways. I think if your son has an account for something innocent like that and his information is protected then its not so bad. i DO NOT think it was ok for your husband to do it without speaking to you first though.

Beth - posted on 04/23/2010

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I went through this issue several months back. My ex set up an account for my son who was 5 at the time. I had several of the same concerns that you had, but we were able to come to some compromises and set some ground rules. The only reason the account was setup was for access to the games, especially fishville. I check it before I allow my son on every time and delete any wall posts that may be inappropriate. I also delete any "friends" that I do not know. I also do not allow any pictures to be posted or any personal information to be shared. I really took some offense to the statement in a previous post that this will render children useless. My son has limited access and has to earn computer time by having good days at school, spending time reading aloud to us, or working on his math. When this account was first setup, my son was not yet reading, and this gave us a fun way to work on that. I think if it is used in an extremely supervised way, it can be an asset to learning and teaching. The only thing besides games he is able to do is chat with his grandparents or dad. This gives him a great opportunity to work on his spelling and sentence structure as well as begin learning to type. One of my ground rules was that it will be deleted once he turns 10. I feel at that point it has lost its minimal educational value and becomes a huge risk. That is my opinion on the matter.

Dawn - posted on 04/23/2010

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I soppose it all depends on the person. My son is 7 years old and has a facebook acct. I have the privacy setting set to where no one can even add him as a friend..he likes to play the games and on accasion write on my wall LOL..I think if its well monitored and you know the people that are his friends its ok..thats my opinion =)

Erin - posted on 04/23/2010

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I, myself think this is a bad idea. This is way too young to make wise decisions on what to say and what not to. I have allowed my 14 and 15 yr old boys to have fb accounts, but I have their passwords and check in periodically to see their activity...And no one can get on my computer without my knowledge or my husbands as it is locked and we are the only ones with the password. And at 14 and 15 it is difficult for them to use good judgement, let alone someone younger. My 11 yr old daughter has asked for an fb account and I have told her that she must be atleast 13 before we even discuss it. There are too many "bad people" out there to just put our kids out there for them to abuse...and your kids can always play games on your account with supervision. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you!

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I wouldn't be happy with my 7 year old having a facebook account, though if he is supervised at all times by you or your husband, then I wouldn't be so worried. If the account is to keep in touch with relatives I don't see a problem, also know that you can always set the privacy on his account. Always supervise him when he is on it.

Edu - posted on 04/23/2010

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Not to keen for kid's having FB at a very young age. There's no rules nor regulation and young kids say pretty much how and what they all feel. It's the no. 1 factor for predators are looking for. If they don't know the password and if a parents are sitting with them while they're in FB, it would probably help monitoring the activities. Still, for me, 7 yrs old is too young.

Heather - posted on 04/23/2010

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The only way I think Facebook is ok for kids younger than 10 is When a parent is with them and it is to only play the games like farmville, country life etc.

Jamie - posted on 04/23/2010

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Ah I think it is ok, if monitored. There are alot of sickos looking for children that age. AS long as it's private and you see your child's in going and out going messages it should be fine, but you and your ex should be on the same page about it.

Michelle - posted on 04/23/2010

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I think 7 is too young for an account of there own, a family one would be acceptable. The young kids don't understand there are bad people out there that will tell them anything to get to them. The kids online can be mean and bully because they are online and say things they would never say in person.The internet is good(for the most part) My sisters and I found our older brother on facebook. But there are dangers. My advice is to talk to your ex tell him your concerns (without an attitude or jugement) Ask him if he moniters your son online. Also explain the dangers to your son, let him know not to get out info, poeple are not who they say, and never meet with anyone without you or his dad being there. Teach him to be responsable online. Teach him not to bully or be mean and if someone is bulling or being mean to tell an adult. Let him know once he puts something online it doesn't go away. If needs proof show him by putting something up and show him how fast it gets around and how hardit is to get off once it is online. Mostly just talk to both and be strong in what you feel. If your son really wants the account make it a family one. I feel less preditors will try if it is a family accout.

April - posted on 04/23/2010

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You can contact facebook and have the account deleted. I've had done that to girls who were 12 and lying about being 18 years old. It can be harmless if the privacy settings are set correctly. With the privacy settings, only friends can send you messages, write on your wall, look at your pics or other personal info. And children need to know the dangers of posting personal info. If you decide not to delete it, ask his father to give you the password so you both can monitor the account.

Charlotte - posted on 04/23/2010

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Having a account for a seven year is just ridcules. He is way to young for facebook, dosen't the father know you have to be 15 years old to be approved for that. I would make a big deal about it until he removes it.

ADRIENNE - posted on 04/23/2010

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Wow. Seven is too young to have a Facbook page. I thought that Facebook was for teens and older.

Alice - posted on 04/23/2010

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i agree with you, my nieces have facebook and that is for games only and there family only to send them a nice message to make them feel special. what does a 7 year old have to communicate on fb about?? thats what school is for :)

Emily - posted on 04/23/2010

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My nieces have facebook accounts so they can keep in touch with family that lives far away. My sister does not let them be on it unless they are supervised and she checks it before she lets them on to be sure there is nothing unsafe. If you are going to have your child on i believe this is the only way you should go about it.

Jackie - posted on 04/23/2010

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This application (Circle of mums) is the closest thing my little one is going to be when it comes to facebook accounts. I think that if facebook should probably design one for children and limit the things they have on it.

Katie - posted on 04/23/2010

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get it deleted! fb for children is askin for trouble u get bulling, pedos and god knows what else! i wont let my daughter have an account till shes at least 16!! better to e safe than sorry, especially with the kids that already have been killled due to pedos and bulling!

Jessie - posted on 04/23/2010

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i have a 10 year old and i will not let her be on facebook that is just wrong to let a 7 year old be on facebook

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