Faliure to Breastfeed

Lisa-Marie - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




Are you a mummy who couldn't breastfeed - how did it make you feel?
Do you think there is enough support for those who can't?

I am a mummy who was physically unable to breastfeed. It left me feeling guilty and very upset that I wasn't able to supply the best for my baby. I now know that I am not the only one out there who went through this and I have started a support group for those who couldn't or can't breastfeed. We all know 'breast is best' but sometimes it doesn't work out that way. In Australia 2-3% of women can't and that's about 6000-9000 women - quite a few.

Here is a link to the group on facebook if you would like to join. But I would also like to here your story......



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Andrea - posted on 04/17/2010




I wasnt' able to breastfeed either and it hurt like heck that I couldn't do it!!! My daughter was born premature and she just wouldn't do it at all!!! I did pum for 6 months and that helped out alot with knowing that I was a least trying to give her what was best!!! I remember when I would take her out I would use straight formula to feed her and would get the nastiest stares for giving her a bottle!!! Sometimes I just wanted to scream at them that they weren't perfect and shove it!!!

Susan - posted on 04/17/2010




I was only able to do it, by pumping only, for 3 months before my supply ran dry. I felt pressured to do it and wasn't comfortable doing it so I wasn't dissappointed when I had to stop. I don't understand why mothers enjoy it, I certainly didn't and I felt so pressured and looked down upon for having an opinion of my own that I caved and did it for as long as I could. I understand "breast is best" but it also has to be something you are comfortable with and if a mother isn't comfortable with it or chooses not to do it we shouldn't be looked down upon. I think more mothers need to not feel pressured and know that it's okay to give your child formula you're not a failure!!!!

Joanna - posted on 04/17/2010




I could not breastfeed either my son just could not latch on no matter what and how we tryed i did feel bad but i was able to use a pump for 2 weeks. but i don't know if i want to even try to breast feed with the next one???????????

Kaytie - posted on 04/17/2010




I was unable to breastfeed both of my children and it killed me. I was in a car accident right before I had my oldest and the seatbelt ruined my milk glands permitly. I tryed and tryed so hard with my second child and still was unable to. It was so hard cause my older sister had twins just a few weeks after I had my youngest and we would get together with the kids I would be feeding him a bottle and there she was breastfeed the twins at the same time. I would go home and cry cause thats what I wanted most in the world. But both of my kids are health so I know that I did the best I could.

Heather - posted on 04/12/2010




I'm a mom who does breastfeed successfully, but some of my close friends have been unable to breastfeed their little ones. I do not feel there is currently enough support for women in these circumstances. Mom's who are doing the best they can for their precious babies don't need any added guilt over things beyond their control. It's great to see a group starting out for this cause, I think far too many amazing mom's are silent because they feel ashamed & that's not right.

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