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Casey - posted on 06/30/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am really in need of some advice or help. This is my second post. I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old both boys. My four year old is constantly hitting me and my 1 year old. today he slapped him across the face so hard he sent him across the room. I am at a point of not know what to do and giving up.. Please help.


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Katherine - posted on 07/01/2011




He definitely needs a therapist for this. Or you can try this at home. Like some other posters suggested, restrain his hands.
Hold them until he has calmed down. Don't talk to him or make eye contact.
Start a reward chart too. Don't take stickers away when he doesn't hit though. Always use positive reinforcement. Try to redirect also.
You are going to need to spend a lot of time with him.

Kendra - posted on 07/01/2011




I took my son to the doctor to see if I could get someone to talk to him. We worked on him hitting me and the one thing that she had me do when he hit me was get down to his size hold his hands and look him in the eyes telling him it is not ok to hit mommy. she also told me to make him set down in one spot if he kept doing it and every time he moved put him back telling him untill you stop hitting mommy and everyone else you can not get up she said I had to stay at this cause nothing works over night. I am happy to say after a little of doing it he has not hit me.

Shannintipton - posted on 07/01/2011




That is not good. However hitting him and telling him not to hit might be sending mixed messages. What if you just grabbed his hands every time he hits you and hold them firmly and tell him NO. You will have to do this over and over and over. I have a four year old so I know what that age is like. They screaming and demanding little creatures. But they can be reasoned with .....to a point. lol This will not be an easy fix but what is the alternative. Pick a method, stick with it and DONT back down. If you think its hard to do that now just wait until later. Good luck.

Alicia - posted on 07/01/2011




i have never been in this situation because i only have one child, almost 2. have you tried time outs? we put our daughter in her room with the light off and door shut for 2 minutes (number of minutes per year they are old) or try taking his favorite things/toys away for a bit until he learns not to hit his little brother. sorry i cant be of more help.

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