Feel alone when it comes to how to raise my kids

Ycastillo502 - posted on 01/14/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have no friends to talk to or noone really beacuse who is around are negative n the opposite of my ideas on treating my kids i dont knwo what to do ! I feel the guilt of having to spank them because of not listening to my repeated times on behaving or doing such things

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Ycastillo502 - posted on 01/15/2016

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Thanks n you are correct i understand thats not the way to go but they were living with dad since divorce n he just didnt give them attention or time so now that they live with me is like i have to let them but no i put my foot down n they seem hurt by eat n ive spanked them twice becasue i ahve to repeat my self then they laughed thinking i wa splaying i took away games so they r doing ok with it n i sit down to talk to them that we need to wprk together on this i think it will work out but i get stressed since im alone on this i mean thatsvwhat i feel

Raye - posted on 01/15/2016

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There are usually other methods of discipline that work better than spanking. I'm not going to tell you not to spank if you feel it's warranted (I got spanked, and I turned out ok), but it may send the wrong message to your child that violence is a way to solve a problem.

Whichever punishment method you use, you have to be consistent. They cannot get away with it one time and have you spank them or remove privileges or whatever the next time. You have to enact the punishment as soon as the problem arises, every time it arises. If you don't have consequences every time, then the kids know that they can keep doing the bad behavior and get away with it, at least sometimes.

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