feel unimportant?

Niki - posted on 03/27/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Just wanted to know if anyone else feels this by staying at home are we less important to others? I wanted to know because we don't work and have a job " title" does this make us less important? Or am I the only one feeling like this?

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Kristin - posted on 03/27/2010

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I think we all feel this way no matter whether we stay home or if we go work. Being a parent is hugely under appreciated. As a SAHM, you are doing an amazing thing for your kids. All mom's need to do for themselves what will enable them to be the best mom they can be for their kids. Sometimes it is stay home, for others it's go work outside of the home.

It is hard to remember that you are valued beyond your ability to drive and change diapers when that's all you seem to be doing. We all get it. Hope they do something special for you soon.

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Melinda - posted on 03/27/2010

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You are the one the children go to for everything. You do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, taxi driver, manage calenders which child had what lesson, at what time. You hold the fort down. I was flipping the tv statioins and Dr. Phil said that stay at home moms do the equivalent of 2 full time jobs. We are Supermommies! We are a Home Engineers. If anyhting happens we are the go to to fix everyhting--I am a single mother---saved money to stay at home with my son for hist first year---what would your husband do without you holding down the fort?

Kaitlyn - posted on 03/27/2010

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Not less important, im my opinion were the most important. People around you especially ur significant other, need to recognize you and what you do more. It will help a lot make you feel like you matter, the thankless, unpaid but the most rewarding and loving job a person could have.

Nicole - posted on 03/27/2010

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I think every mom feels this at least sometimes. Being at home is a very under-appreciated job, but a very important job none the less. Only another mom can truly understand what is feels like. Being a SAHM can be very lonely and tiring. Just know you are not alone and you have the most important job in the world. Even if others think what you do isn't important that is when you have know that what you do matters.

Here are a couple of my favorite thoughts on motherhood:

"When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchen prove to more controlling than what happened in congresses? When the surf of the centuries has made the great pyramids so much sand, the everlasting family will still be standing..."

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"Motherhood is the greatest potential influence either for good or ill in human life. The mother's image is the first that stamps itself on the unwritten page of the young child's mind. It is her caress that first awakens a sense of security; her kiss, the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness, the first assurance that there is love in the world."

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