feeling BLAH and unmotivated

Holly - posted on 06/20/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




i am back to being a SAHM. i stayed home for my sons first year, i couldnt go strait back to work with him being a preemie, so after that year i worked part time, and that job only worked out for a short time, and shortly thereafter found a full time job that i loved!!! BUT......after a year they decided to make some changes and shift everyone's positions and that got really stressful and irritating because there was no communication and my boss and i began to see things in different ways i was not comfortable with what was going on.so i quit.(sorry im rambling) i have days where i feel i have accomplished something but most of my days i feel useless and frankly depressed, my son is going to be 3 at the end of july and i try to fill my time by playing with him; going to the park, playing games and prepping him for preschool. but when hes doing his thing or napping i just dont know what to do with my self, i would like to start working out, or i have some home repairs and chores that can be done but lately i just dont see the point.


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I completely understand. loved my job, stayed late, went in early, but things were not going as I planned so I quit to stay at home after my youngest was born. I started to get bored until my other two got out of school for summer. I make a daily schedule and treat it like a job. Mon - friday 7-5 . I realized that trying to do serious cleaning or hobbies never worked, always got interupted. After dinner and on the weekends I do my cleaning and whatever I need to do. Remember your accomplishing something greater than a paycheck a promotion a thank you from a boss, your a mother.


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Melissa - posted on 06/22/2011




it is so hard to get motivated when your stuck at home all day...It is so hard for people to understand that! I have recently found lots of coffee helps but there are plenty of days watching tv during a nap is really all that gets done!

Nayuribe - posted on 06/22/2011




i feel exactly the same!!!! my prob is that with any hobby or project i'd like to pick up, i need $$$, which i don't have, i know that doing the dishes and laundry and having a clean house are very important jobs that need to get done, but just like u, i lack motivation, i don't know what to do with my life, i don't wanna end up like my mother, she had a career, she was a preschool teacher, then she had 3 kids and never went back to work or school, she was just a mom, now that i'm a mom, she keeps telling me how awful it was and how i need to start doing and being something besides being a mom. thing is, i don't have a clue as what to do, after almost 5 ys of being a mom, i don't know what i like to do, don't even know what my favorite colour is anymore, it's so depressing!!!

Holly - posted on 06/22/2011




thank you so much ladies for your support i knew that i couldn't be the only one feeling this way. And your right Elizabeth my job is not a career but is important and that is just how i should handle it ( as a job and schedule 8 hours of the day)

Jennifer - posted on 06/20/2011




I know exactly how you feel. I have tried hobbies, but even those don't excite me for long. I start on a project, and half way through get bored. I stared scrubbing my walls down this spring, got the master bedroom, bathroom, hallway, and living room done, and lost the drive to finish. I honestly think I need to talk to my doc about getting something for depression, because it's only getting worse. I love my kids (I have 4), but anymore they drive me insane. Hope you find something that helps you.

Christy - posted on 06/20/2011




Sounds like you are a busy body, and that's perfectly fine! Find a hobby, reunite with an old hobby, work out, etc while your son is napping. Start a small business,
something to keep you busy while he is in bed. Look at it this way, he will only be this little for a short time, then after that you have the world ahead of you!!! :)

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