Feeling Overwhelmed

Adrienne - posted on 09/11/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am feeling so very overwhelmed at the moment. I have this image in my head of how "mom" should be. How clean my home should be. The things I should be doing, how I should be educating my children... I don't ever feel like I measure up to that image. I feel like I should always ALWAYS be present and positive or at least calm. Like I should never or rarely let my almost 4 year old son watch tv and that my 4 month old should be interacted with every second... IF the kids are sleeping or occupied with something wholesome I should be cleaning or making perfect craft projects for the week ahead or even dinner plans for the weeks ahead...

I feel ALL OF THIS PRESSURE ALL THE TIME to do ALL OF THESE THINGS!

I know other people manage to do all or many of them more consistently and better than me... rationally, I know my children love me and that they will love me regardless of how much transformers (or not) my older son watches. Some days I do really well! I get things mostly clean and start working ahead of things... but then inevitably something happens and I have to start over. Then I feel like a small child whose blocks have been tumbled.

I should be okay with it roll with the punches, all that right. That's HARD some days though...

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Jessica - posted on 10/02/2013

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I feel the exact same way. It doesn't help that my boyfriend has some idea of what a stay at home mom should be. He seems to think that i should never feel annoyed or overwhelmed because women are meant to stay at home with kids. I always feel like i could be doing a better job and i feel like i am not measuring up. I have three children and they get on my nerves and annoy me, and then i feel bad. Sometimes i find myself wishing i never had kids, which makes me feel even worse about myself. I see other people enjoy their kids so much more and I am trying my hardest but I just don't seem good enough

Stephanie - posted on 09/17/2013

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Boy do I know where you're coming from!! I have a soon to be 3 year old boy and an almost 5 month girl, not to mention 2 step-children every weekend. Its super difficult sometimes juggling the daily demands of maintaining your household (ie cooking, cleaning, etc) not to mention trying like hell to keep up with the Jones' (or all those super moms making homemade rainbow pasta or macrame pot holders during craft time with the kids). Just take a second to breathe. As long as you are concerned about being a good parent, chances are you ARE a good parent.

Jesuswillreturnsoon11 - posted on 09/17/2013

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I agree with u i just do it for my husband i don't like feeling this way i use to be the one who couldn't get enough now since our three little ones im dried out and he's hot and ready I'd like help as while

Holly - posted on 09/17/2013

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It's okay!! It takes a while to get into a routine with 1 baby! Then another ones comes and you feel like everything you had down is out the window...a whole new ball game! If you're tired when the kids nap, you should definitely nap too!! It'll give you the energy to get things done later. And make you happier. Because lets face it...if you're happy, your kids will be happy too. The house will be clean again...someday;)

Lisa - posted on 09/14/2013

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I'm with Dana- Just breathe. No mom is perfect we are just people. I'm sure you're doing a great job. Your son will watch TV eventually LOL so don't worry about that. I think you're putting way to much pressure on yourself. Go get a good fun book and take them to the park, sit out side enjoy some sun and read :)

None of us have it all together we just take it day by day.

Dana - posted on 09/11/2013

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Hi Adrienne! Take a deep breath! I know how you feel! And I have one child, a 5 month old. So you must be even busier with two! I officially give you permission to throw those expectations out the window! Just do your best and enjoy the time with your kids. I get frustrated too that the apartment is a mess and I can't get to anything. I take care of baby and laundry, and thankfully husband does the dishes. Cooking in big batches helps, so what if we eat the same thing for 3 nights! :) I also feel guilty putting the little one in front of cartoons but without anyone around to help, sometimes it's the only distraction so I can cook quickly or even just run to the bathroom! It may take time to change your mindset and you may get overwhelmed from time to time. But my suggestion is to take the pressure off yourself. Your kids are taken care of, happy and healthy. That's your job and you're doing great! The rest just doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things!

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