Feeling Worthless :(

Jen - posted on 08/02/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




I'm a mom of 2 boys very active boys age 10 and 5. I've always worked and my husband and I moved our family from Michigan to Pennsylvania for him to get a job a really good job, and now I don't need to work but i am going absolutly crazy, feel completely worthless, I feel like a slave, I feel like nobody appreciates me and I am too proud to talk to any of my family or friends... Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do for ME not my kids not my husband just me that will make me feel like im contributing to our family??? I know I do alot for my family ya know (cook, clean, cater, taxi) but what do I do for ME?????


Danielle - posted on 08/03/2012




What part of Pa are you in? I live in PA too and I have a 10 year old.

Lee - posted on 08/03/2012




I joined a stay at home moms group when I quit my paying job. It was a define life saver. These are groups designed to support you and understand what you go through on a regular basis. It helps to make friends and have someone over the age of 10 to talk to. (especially if you just moved to a new area.) I recommend MOMS club international. You can google it. It stand for moms offering moms support.


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Jen - posted on 08/04/2012




Thank you everyone for the advice. I have been told the same thing Gabrielle get a hobby. But it sit here everyday and try to figure out what that hobby shoud be. Well I just can't think of one...

I do love going to the gym Dawn it makes me feel so pumped like I can take on the world but haven't been able to go there since summer vaca but school starts soon so I'll be able to do that again... And yes my husband does support me as a SAHM... I've always did something to contribute to my family but now he can do it and wants me to stay home.

I am in Washington Pa Danielle what about you?

And thank you everyone that gave me advice it helps....

Tina - posted on 08/03/2012




I sell stuff from home in my spare time. I use the buy and sell on facebook and ebay etc. I enjoy making jewellery thinking of doing that when I have the time. Otherwise I just try to go for a walk. I stick the kids in the pram go for a walk. Get some things while I'm out. It makes me feel good.

Dawn - posted on 08/02/2012




What do you like to do? Read? Bake? Hike? I'm a new SAHM, too. I haven't stopped working since I finished college, so I totally understand where you're coming from. Is your husband supportive of your staying home? It's important for you two to be on the same page.

I don't make nearly as much as I used to, but I love writing, so I've taken some odd jobs that fill that need and also pay, so I still feel I'm contributing to our household financially. Not to mention the "free" childcare and maid service I provide.

I've also recently decided to explore some new hobbies like origami and calligraphy. I spend more time exercising, too, which is good on so many levels and sets a healthy example for my daughter. I've also started clearing through years of piled up clutter in our house which definitely makes me feel productive, more organized, and helps me clear my head.

Think about stuff you like to do or things you'd like to try and go for it. And even if your family doesn't say it, I'm sure they appreciate you. Do you appreciate yourself? We can't accept from others what we are unable to give ourselves.

Gabrielle - posted on 08/02/2012




my mom always tells me i need to get out of the house and do something that i wanna do but idk what i wanna do or even what i need cuz i've been a mom for 3 years. i dnt member what it was like b4 the kids were here. she says spa day or anything that is actually FOR ME. i dont do any of that stuff but i love to bake so i end up baking a bunch of stuff and then sell it to friends or i sew stuff for myself or my daughter or take time out of my day to read books.

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