Fighting for sleep

Pallavi - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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So my little kiddo is 4.5 months old, she has always been a fighter for going to sleep. At first she was religious about her naps then they quickly gave away to getting night sleep. Now there are no naps and fighting to go to sleep. I put her down at the same time every night and for every nap. We pretty much have the same routine for all these times. But she just fights. I am working up to let her cry herself to sleep but its really difficult for me to hear her in such distress. I read, heard, and tried all the advice I can handle ... just looking for some positive support. I know that she will get through and find a schedule that works best for her. It's just so tough to hear my little angel struggle when I know that all that will make her feel better is some freaking sleep. I am also breastfeeding, she burps consistently, has never had colic and has normal BM's. It seems as though she has anxiety about sleeping because she doesn't want to be left alone. I have a shirt of mine in there with her so that she can smell me ... next step is a picture of me in her crib.

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Pallavi - posted on 10/08/2009

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thanx a lot ladies ... she gets a massage every nite ... I have a "Stuffie" in there for there that finds comforting ... she is such a stubborn monkey sometimes ... we will keep trying :)

Elmarie - posted on 10/08/2009

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There are so many things that can be done but the thing is that you must get the strength within yourself to pull this off. 1st, during the day wake your baby up at 7 and feed her, at 8am put her back in her crib or bed to have a morning nap.. you must maybe try express and give your little one a bottle to teach her you can't always hold her when feeding. This can spoil them so quickly. Give her a bottle and lie her down, keeping an eye on her that she doesn't choke.. Leave her to fall asleep on he own, without patting or singing.. She must learn how to fall asleep on her own without comforting,patting or singing. Try putting some music in her room close to her bed and she'll soon calm down and and fall asleep. Wake her up at about nine if she isn't awake from her nap.. Feed her some cereal till she's full and then let her play a bit... Put her to bed at about 11am again, try stretch it a long as possible, unless she is getting really irritated.. Let her sleep for about 2 hours if she can.... You must also try leaving your child in her bed during the day for some time.. That will teach her to fall asleep when she feels tired, and to roll around and entertain herself... Keep an eye on her, mak sure her nappy is dry and clean and that she doesn't have any winds stuck.. use some Tellament drops in some water, that hepls alot to loosen winds! BUt at night time feed your baby at 6Pm a little cereal instead of purity, as cereal fills their tummy's more that purity does, it's sometime that they are still hungry that they don't want to sleep at night time.. After the feed, go bath the baby in nice and warm water, and afterwards give your baby a massage... That helps them to relax and calm down... Play a bit with her till she gets really grumpy and see to get irritated quickly.. This will show you that your little one is dead tired now.... Express some milk again, enough for a proper feed, but the baby shouldn't drink much after the cereal.. Try keep her awake to about 8 half past 8.. Remember a baby will take naps during the as they are tired, not when we want them too.. That's why i say, leave her in her cot during the day, this will really teach her to sleep when she feels tired. My little one is in a routine now, and i left her in her cot during the day, checking on her constantly, making sure she's clean and dry, and she used to play in her cot, fall asleep, wake up, play, fall asleep..... ect.. She now crawls around in her cot and carry on.. This might sound harsh but it really helps! you can't force your child to sleep, they will sleep when they are tired... making sure her tummy is full and that she's clean and dry is the most you can do..... She'll cry in the begining, but soon get over it, she'll see that you're not running to her the whole time. remember, babies are very clever and know how to turn us mothers around their pinky... So be patient and leave her on he own.. She WILL soon learn and fall asleep on her own and start sleeping much more and even better....

Hope this will help!!

Good luck

Susan - posted on 10/08/2009

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trust me i had alot of problems getting my daughter to bed i used to have to walk with here four hours to get her to go to sleep, but i learned that if you but them in there bed and let them cry it out it will only last for a couple weeks, and they will learn to fall asleep on there one...i was run ragged doing that for months and my mom help me out with it....made all the diferance in the world,,,then i actually started getting sleep

Susan - posted on 10/08/2009

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Quoting Kynna:

the only thing that i can help with is.. my daughter had the same problem and so does my son now, but every night before i would put them to bed i would give them a warm bath and use the night time wash and lotion after i got them out, as i put the lotation on them i would give them a rub down. I would sing to them and make sure they had a warm bottle ready for them i know that is a little different in your case. i know they say you need to not do this but try gettin a big stuffed animal and puttin it in there with her and take it out when she goes to sleep, the feel of something or someone in her bed might just help the feeling of being alone. The crying is ok i wouldnt let her go any longer then 2 minutes and then walk in give her her binky if you allow her to have one, tell her that everything is ok that she is alright give her a kiss on the forhead tell her that you love her with all your heart and tell her to go sleep, and that you will be right there with her. These are just somethings that i tried and worked with my daughter and are working with my son right now, please let me know if i was able to help you in anyway... and good luck... and get some sleep soon i hope.


 

Suman - posted on 10/08/2009

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my son had the same prob......i used to play with him so that he becomes tierd and then i used to sing him some lullabies or some kids song or some kind of soft music while making him sleep .....it worked with me. i hope u too find some solution

Kynna - posted on 10/08/2009

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the only thing that i can help with is.. my daughter had the same problem and so does my son now, but every night before i would put them to bed i would give them a warm bath and use the night time wash and lotion after i got them out, as i put the lotation on them i would give them a rub down. I would sing to them and make sure they had a warm bottle ready for them i know that is a little different in your case. i know they say you need to not do this but try gettin a big stuffed animal and puttin it in there with her and take it out when she goes to sleep, the feel of something or someone in her bed might just help the feeling of being alone. The crying is ok i wouldnt let her go any longer then 2 minutes and then walk in give her her binky if you allow her to have one, tell her that everything is ok that she is alright give her a kiss on the forhead tell her that you love her with all your heart and tell her to go sleep, and that you will be right there with her. These are just somethings that i tried and worked with my daughter and are working with my son right now, please let me know if i was able to help you in anyway... and good luck... and get some sleep soon i hope.

Dani - posted on 10/08/2009

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It's soo very hard to listen to them cry themselves to sleep, I still have to let my son cry on occasion. But it gets easier, and inless you want her to sleep with you for the rest of her life it's time now to let her learn to sleep by herself. It's the hardest thing to listen to, but go outside, or turn up the radio/television. I had to learn to put on baby monitor on silent until the lights stopped lighting up.

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