Fighting Sleep

Nichole - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My 9 month old is fighting going to sleep. He refuses a nap, but if I'm lucky will fall asleep in exhaustion and sleep for 30 minutes. At bedtime he fights his sleep so much instead bedtime at his normal time (7-8pm), he don't get to sleep until closer to 11pm. Then is up at 1am, 2am, 4 or 5am, and then up for good at 6 or 7am. I'm exhuasted, my baby looks exhuasted,, but just won't sleep. I've tried rocking, co sleeping, white noise, clean bed sheets/blankets, formula, water, bedtime snack, cereal, tylenol, gas medicine, gripe water, teething tablets....everything short of a doctors visit. Should I take him in? What could be causing thiss that teething tablets, gas meds, gripe water, or tylenol couldn't help?? Should I be concerned?

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Nichole - posted on 06/06/2010

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Just because I don't let him cry it out doesn't mean he's in charge. I think CIO is cruel. And it didn't work when I tried it for my son. He screamed and cried so bad he gave himself an asthma attack. What's right for you AINT right for EVERYBODY! Just because a parent don't use CIO don't make them a bad parent. Everybody style is different, so don't JUDGE!

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Chelsea - posted on 06/06/2010

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My son is 11 months and Justt started fighting to go to sleep, i spent 3 hours doing everything i could to get him to go to sleep... so i know how u feel when u say nothing works..whats worked for us a few times is to try and take his mind off the fact hes so tired and play a little game for maybe 20 minutes and then i give him a small bottle and lay with him and he falls right to sleep... Maybe it''ll work for you.

Patricia - posted on 06/06/2010

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Hello, your son sounds like ours, he's 13 months now, and we've never been a fan of the CIO method myself, I read somewhere that if they didn't have a self-soothing technique (aka passy, lovey, blankey, etc.) it was not really going to help them. My son doesn't have that, so we do the rocking etc. Your baby's schedule was almost exactly like ours. It hasn't gotten any better and it is worse when he is sick. One thing to watch for is real sickness like ear infections, constipation etc. I read that their ears hurt when they lie flat. A doctor visit might not be a bad idea from time to time otherwise its just how it is. I did find a GREAT book that has helped me BEGIN the process of sleep training without the CIO, it is by the baby sandman, he summarizes all the popular sleep training methods and then gives his own thoughts on how to train them to sleep. My efforts have been constantly thwarted by his sickness, he gets needy and doesn't sleep well when he's sick. If i may the sleep method we've chosen is to 1. create a routine, 2. be consistent 3. lay them down in their bed and be near without touching them and then slowly move away soothing them with your voice, if they cry pick them up and love on them and try again,...we have not really been able to get through the 3rd stelp successfully BUT we got him liking his own big boy bed :)

Liz - posted on 06/06/2010

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oh boy.... maybe he has a dirty diaper. sometime my son gets really up set and i had just changed him so i thought it couldnt be it ya know, but low and behold it was... or did u take something out of his crib that use to be in there to help him sleep? i hope that this all works out ♥

Nichole - posted on 06/06/2010

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No CIO. If you read above...I already said that don't work for my family.

Katie - posted on 06/06/2010

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I say just let him cry it out....he will wear himself out. Maybe he is going through a growth spurt. My son did the same thing when he was.

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2010

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Suit yourself but the rocking method isn't doing him any favors. Or you. He needs to learn to fall asleep in his bed. If you train him not to, don't complain when he won't. I'm a mother of four, soon to be five. I'm trying to give you the benifit of my experiences, I know it's tough, but eventually you will figure out for yourself that your child needs you to be the one in charge, not the other way around.

Nichole - posted on 06/04/2010

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Amanda, I'm sorry but we don't agree with the cry it out method, but thanks for the advice. We don't mind rocking him or what not, but the point was nothing gets him to sleep anymore.

Amanda - posted on 06/04/2010

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Nope, that all sounds very normal unfortunately. However, there is hope because at 9 months old he's at a great age to start sleep training. You are going to have to learn to let him fall asleep in his own bed, on his own. Yes, this does mean listening to him cry until he figures it out, but I'm guessing you've been having to do that alot anyway. As long as you know he's tired, and has a clean diaper and isn't hungry, then just place him in his bed, cover him with a blanket, offer him a pacifier if he uses them, turn off the light and close the door. He may cry for as long as an hour the first couple times you do this, but if you stick with it, the pay off is great for the both of you, and it will get better I promise. If it's too hard to listen to him crying, even after making sure he doesn't need anything, then step outside for a few minutes to give your self a break. And dad has to help with this too, it's tough and you'll need all the support you can get. Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 06/04/2010

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Nope, that all sounds very normal unfortunately. However, there is hope because at 9 months old he's at a great age to start sleep training. You are going to have to learn to let him fall asleep in his own bed, on his own. Yes, this does mean listening to him cry until he figures it out, but I'm guessing you've been having to do that alot anyway. As long as you know he's tired, and has a clean diaper and isn't hungry, then just place him in his bed, cover him with a blanket, offer him a pacifier if he uses them, turn off the light and close the door. He may cry for as long as an hour the first couple times you do this, but if you stick with it, the pay off is great for the both of you, and it will get better I promise. If it's too hard to listen to him crying, even after making sure he doesn't need anything, then step outside for a few minutes to give your self a break. And dad has to help with this too, it's tough and you'll need all the support you can get. Good luck.

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