First Child 18 months..To early to try for Second?

Ashley - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )




My husband and I were planning on having our second child around March or April of 2011. My daughter is now 16 months and would be 18 when we would need to start trying again..Those of you with children around 27 months does that work for you? We always wanted them to be kind of close!


Kate - posted on 04/15/2010




My brother and I are 18 months apart and we grew up very close and have a great relationship. My husband and I plan on having our second when our daughter turns one. I think its a GREAT thing to have your children close in age.

Beck - posted on 04/15/2010




mine arent as far as 27, they are 17 months and its great :) if you feel you are both ready there should be no issue with it. Make sure you think about what extra work it will put on you with a toddler and a new born and work from there. I have 2 girls and can't wait to have a 3rd but am waiting for a while because we don't really have the room to put another.

Good luck and all the best :)


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Barbara - posted on 04/20/2010




The question is are you both ready and capable? If so then go for it. My first two are just under 2 years apart and they are close. Both boys and get to go to most events together and share in experiences. It worked for us. Hope all works out well for you.

Rebecca - posted on 04/20/2010




i have 4 kids the first two are 24 months apart and next is 14 months then 27 months they all get a long realy well and it isnt two dificault as long as your active. my oldest will be 6 in september and my youngest was born feb. 22 2010 the older 3 are all potty trained and ons in kendergarden and ones in headstart/preschool.

Brittany - posted on 04/20/2010




My first child and 2nd child are just 2years apart, my 2nd child and third child are just 13months apart, it's kind of hard now at times but at least when they are grown they will all be grown around the same time. With three little ones so close in age I have to plan everything way ahead of time and always be prepared for everything but I love it and wouldn't change it for anything. The hole idea of having them so close was that they would always have someone 2 play with but now we've learned they always have someone to fight with! LoL:) But they do take care of and take up 4 and love each other dearly. I love seeing all three of them together as siblings, it's a beautiful thing, they will always have each other no matter what:)

Amber - posted on 04/19/2010




If you can mentally and financial handle having another child, then I don't think that there is really a time table that you should work from. It's your comfort level and happiness :)

Leanne - posted on 04/19/2010




I think this is all a matter of personal choice for the parents. No time is really too soon, unless maybe you're planning of popping one out and then trying again straight away then id be worried. If you want the ages relatively close then 18months to 2years gap i think is plenty :) tthat way the gap isnt too large and they will find as they grow up they will most likely relate better. I know a lot of my friends growing up that had siblings (i was an only child pretty much) had siblings often 1 to 2 years younger or older to them, so i certainly dont think its uncommon

Crystal - posted on 04/18/2010




My kids are 27 months apart, and I think it's worked out pretty well. At first it was a little tough having to care for a newborn (long nights, etc.) and then have the energy to care/entertain a toddler (active as all get up) throughout the day. But, you get into a routine, and it really just becomes second nature. Outings are a little trickier, but you find a groove, and what works and what doesn't. They have the cool strollers now days - sit and stand - for the toddler to stand and ride while the baby sits. Then once they get older ... like mine are 2 and 4 .. they play well together, most of the time :) and my son has ALWAYS been a great helper with his sister!

Angela - posted on 04/18/2010




We're planning on starting to try for our second when the first is 18 months. It took us 2 years to get pregnant the first time so they might not be all that close, but just in case we'll wait til then to try. :)

Laurie - posted on 04/18/2010




My two children are 21 months apart and it has worked out fairly well. I have to keep a sharp eye on my older son as he has not yet mastered gentle with his seven month old sister and will, for instance, when she is sitting in the floor playing with something, came over and "gently" push her over. He seems to think that she should be lying down or something. She of course hits her head on the carpeted floor and starts to cry. On the other hand, he is quite fascinated with her most of the time and will go over and talk to her or take her toys to play with.

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My girls are 22 months apart. Just like having kids at any age there are good days and bad. I like it because they always have a playmate. More often then not they both get along. Also means that they like the samethings. Its easier to find activities for them to do.

Michelle - posted on 04/18/2010




My mum left two years between myself, sister and brother. But myself and my ex, Andy, decided to wait until our daughter was in school before thinking about any more children. A lot of people weren't sure that it was a good idea to wait that long but I kinda like the idea of being able to sort out your eldest and get them off to school and then having the whole day to deal with the little one. As long as you involve you eldest with some of the activities you do with the new baby, I really don't think that any age gap would be a problem.x

Brittnii - posted on 04/15/2010




i had my second 2 months after my daughter turned 1 lol so i dont see a problem with u trying for another one.

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My boys are 24 months apart (now 2 & 4) and they are the best of buddies. They can also be the worst of enemies... but what siblings aren't at times? :o) If you are ready for another and can financially support it then go for it. I would definitely recommend having kids close together.

User - posted on 04/15/2010




My sisters are 10 months apart and my mom wouldn't have done anything different. They are really close too. Most of the time siblings have their fights, but who doesn't? If you're ready why not? Good luck. That sounds great:)

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