For all the stay at home moms!

Lize - posted on 02/17/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




My mom sent me this, and I thought all stay at home moms will enjoy and relate to it....

A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk 's office, was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

'What I mean is, ' explained the recorder, 'do you have a job or are you just a mom?'

'Of course I have a job,' snapped the woman. 'I'm a Mom.'

'We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation, 'housewife' covers it,' said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, 'Official Interrogator' or 'Town Registrar.'

'What is your occupation?' she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out.

'I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.'

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

'Might I ask,' said the clerk with new interest, 'just what you do in your field?'

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, 'I have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't) In the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.'

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than 'just another Mom.'


What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.


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Allie - posted on 02/19/2009




that was good, now i need to go to bed, a person with much research to do needs sleep. hopefully my 6 month old will allow.

Sam - posted on 02/19/2009




soooo good hope you dont mind but ive copied it aswell,i know quite a few research associates!! thanks that made me smile x

Lize - posted on 02/18/2009




I am happy to hear that so many people enjoyed this story.  Keep your heads high and chins up!

Amanda - posted on 02/17/2009




This is an awesome boost for any mom who has had a rough day or just needed a boost! I'm printing it an putting it on my fridge! Thanks for sharing!

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LOVE IT!!!!!! This just made my day. I'll be sure to pas it on. Who knows, maybe by the end of the year we'll have thousands more Research Associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations . =)


Nichole - posted on 02/17/2009




I love it!!  I'm so tired of other women degrade me for my "1950's" mind.  I understand the fight for Womans Rights but I choose to stay at home to raise my kids.  It works for me and my kids!

Heather - posted on 02/17/2009




This is awesome!!! I hope you don't mind but I am going to print it out and take a copy to the three other Research Associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations at my church.

Emily - posted on 02/17/2009




This is great. My husband and I went to get our taxes done this year and the accountant asked what my job was I replied with a simple "homemaker" and my husband said, and I qoute " she does WAY more than that. She does everything." I felt truly loved and appreciated at that moment. I couldn't have asked for a better husband.

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