Four old wanting me all the time.

Jodie - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a four old that just loves me so much she hates to be without me at night. She has to have been when she wakes from bad dream. She starts preschool my herself in few weeks. I think she is getting nervous and scared! She is wetting bed again after being fine at night. I am not sure how to help her when the big day comes Sept 14. She says she well not cry but I think she well. What can I do to make this easier on her when she goes to school without Mommy?

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Iris - posted on 08/27/2009

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I hd the same problem with my step son when he was three years old. I had to start leaving him with friends and family for a day or a sleep over for him to learn that mommy is always coming back to get him.. And when she starts pre-school, just drop her off and go. Let her cry, she will learn that mommy will be back to get her..I know it is mean but it does work.. And my youngest son, i started leaving him with family and friends over night when he was a year old so he would not get clingy..

Jodie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Thanks it helps. Just to know someone is listening. I am sure things well work out they always do somehow. I just wish to get some sleep.

Lindsey - posted on 08/26/2009

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I dont have any personal experience with this but my oldest will start school in a few short years and this is what I plan on doing if he has any anxiety. Talk with the school she will be attending and see if you cant make a visit or two to the school in advance, talk with her new teachers (about the 'fun' things that will be going on in class) and let her explore the new surroundings. Maybe, if shes even slightly familiar with her new surroundings, she might not be so hessitant to let go of your hand when you have to go. Also, dont ask her if shes going to cry or be a 'big girl' ... instead hype up the big day and tell her how much fun she will have playing with new toys or meeting new friends. You could even have a 'surprise' waiting for her at home after the big day ... a party hat with a cupcake or cookie perhaps?? GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

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WOW....I have no experience in this area, I have all boys and they are 3, 2, and 1... My best sugestion would be, Pray about this!!! I am sure you already have, and, I am sure you aren't the first mommy to go through this... Have you tried the Big Girl talk, letting her know that she is such a big girl getting ready to start school... and from talking to friends, preschool is a bit more leniant(sp?) with letting the parents hanging around til the child is comfortable on the first day, and don't forget the teachers there know how to handle the children who respond the way you think your daughter is going to...Who knows, on a positive note, she might enter into that class room and realize that school is going to be fun!!! then you can cry...My friend Bonnie thought her son was going to have a hard time seperating from her when she took him to his first day, and to her surprise she had to ask him to kiss her bye...I tell you, I am amazed daily by the way my boys respond to things...Blah, blah, blah....Sorry this is lengthy, but as a stay at home mom and a new mom to this site, I am kinda having an adult conversation right now with you...LOL...I will remember you and your little girl in prayer and ask that the LORD gives you both the strength to get through this....GOD Bless

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