Freaking out.

Toni - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a 6 mth old and my husband and I were not being careful about protection because it took so long to concieve our son we didn't think we needed to, I'm now 7 weeks pregnant. I'm not sure how I feel about it. I'm excited but I'm scared and kind of embarassed. I feel like people will judge me for not being careful. It makes me not want to tell anyone at least not till I have no choice. Plus I don't know what I'm going to tell my work I'm not even done my mat leave and when I am done I will be 6 mths pregnant which means I wont be able to work for very long before leaving again.
Thanks for listening


Shannon - posted on 04/26/2011




OK honey, take a deep breath and listen very carefully NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE just relax, go with the excitement..... my nieces are exactly one year and 5 days apart and they are the best of friends. Your place of employment, will just have to deal with it, not everyone does things the same way and if you have children close together in age they can't fault you for that or else it will be considered discrimination. Just take care of yourself and enjoy your little one :-) Good Luck

Kimberly - posted on 04/26/2011




These things happen. I wouldn't care what other people think, I would just get some rest any chance you get because you're going to need it! :) Good Luck!


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Michelle - posted on 04/26/2011




No one has the right to judge. I know how you feel, I think my son was around 8 months old when I found out I was pregnant again. We would only use natural family planning but weren't even doing that at the time. Being that we are both in our 30's it seems better to just go with the flow as it were. There were plenty of people that tried to make me feel embarrassed and tried to make me feel like I didn't have a right to be excited. Got it worse when we got pregnant with third (when the second was a year). Don't let those people get to you or take any of your excitement. I'm sure you're not the first woman to have back to back maternity leave. The only opinions that matter are yours and your husbands. That beautiful baby outweighs someone else's opinion any day of the week. congratulations!

Bonnie - posted on 04/26/2011




No one has the right to judge you. It happens. You knew you wanted another child eventually and assumed it would take long like your first. The only people who have to think about any of it is you and your husband, that's it.

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/26/2011




dont worry this happnes...i know a handful of people around my age that have had back to back children,everything happens for a reason,think of it as a blessing,as for work i dont know where you live but here you need 600 hours of work to qualify for maternity not sure how it works maybe you can stop the mat leave your doing early and go back to work early too reopen a mat leave for when your second baby arrives.(just an idea i dont know how it works where you live).congratulations.

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