Getting boys out of the house

Julie - posted on 04/09/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have two toddlers, boys, and it is always a fight getting out of the house! They want to go bye-bye, but don't seem to want to do what it takes to leave. Getting on shoes, going to the bathroom, getting on coats...then they want juice...I am very often late for events because of this...Any suggestions??

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Kelly - posted on 04/14/2009

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My kids are a little older now so it's the morning thing of getting to school!! I have a rule that they are not allowed to watch tv, play ds or really any other 'fun' things until they are all set for school. And that means, ready to put on coat and shoes and walk out the door. It sounds a little militant when I see it in black and white lol....but we have our morning routine. It starts at 730 when they are gently woken up if they are not already awake. A few snuggles and then it's time to dress....then down for breakfast.....up to brush teeth.



I realize this doesn't work so well with younger kids but perhaps watching tv after they are ready to go could be a reward for getting ready on time?



Oh, one other idea I just thought of was that we used to...and sometimes still do....have getting dressed races! The kids love beating us to being fully dressed, mommy seems to always lose cause my socks are the last thing I do before my shoes go on! It gets them focused on the task at hand. I know there were mornings that I would help one or the other....but we had lots of giggles!

Keli - posted on 04/10/2009

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P.S. I meant to try this for the morning routine instead of bedtime to help with your situation!

Keli - posted on 04/10/2009

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Hey Julie! I don't know if this will help you, but in the Family Fun magazine a mother wrote in an idea for her young kids to get them into the bedtime routine. She made cards (about half a sheet of paper) from the computer maybe with clip art or some other pictures from the internet and hung them on hooks she put on their dresser/bed. On the other side of the card (which was laminated) there was a checkmark with the word "done". When they completed their task (brushing teeth, getting on pajamas, etc.) they turned the card over. I don't know if maybe you could look on their website to find a picture but it was under "My great idea" column. Maybe this could work for your older son at least and your younger one would probably like to follow to be like his big bro! Hope this helps! Good luck!

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If someone knows the answer to this I'd love to hear it! I have three boys - 8, 3 and 3. It is a fight every morning to get them out the door to school.  Same thing - shoes, coats, etc. we haven't been late yet but I want to tear my hair out every day!

Heather - posted on 04/10/2009

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Thanks Ali. I used to teach 0-3 year olds for years and now have my own so I guess I just use the same methods! And the alarm idea is good too! One thing i always leave room for is a poopy diaper!!! usually someone has to poop or is poopy during that time when we need to get going so if I alow more room I won't be late! I too use the 5-3-1 min warnings and they work great!! I use them for discipline though. I will start at 5 and then when I get to 0 I will ask if they still need help to whatever it is I asked them to do most usually they'll do it on their own!

Claudia - posted on 04/09/2009

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I only have one, but usually if I know it's an event I have to be at, I have his clothes at least laid out and I do use an alarm or the ringtone from my phone and give him one task at a time.  I usually start an hour ahead because at least that gives me wiggle room.  So he may have an alarm for pick up your toys, then an alarm for brush your teeth, then an alarm for get dressed, then an alarm for pick which toy you want to take with you in the car, etc...  Usually works out and he may even get 5 minutes to play or watch TV before we head out the door.  Kids don't do well under rushed pressure is my experience, especially if it's early in the morning.   =)



 

Ali - posted on 04/09/2009

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So, yes... Heather's answer was WAY better than mine.  The one thing that I do that seems to help is 10-minute, 5-minute, 3-minute and 1-minute warnings.  I will say that my 3-year-old responds well to the warnings.  Heather sounds like a much more put together mom than I am.  Oh well.  I try.

Heather - posted on 04/09/2009

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I would start by telling them in morning when they wake up what your plans are for the day and reminding them up until it's time to start getting ready to go. And I would get ready to go about 30 min early. While you're talking to them about whats in store for the day it's a good time to remind them of how you like them to behave when you're out and about. I also occasionaly use treats or rewards if my kids do what I ask and do it well. But be careful with that to much is not a good thing!

Ali - posted on 04/09/2009

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From one Gage to another...  I have NO suggestons as I am in the exact same boat with two toddler boys (ages 3 and 1.5).  They make everything a challenge!  I guess I just get a little manic and get the job done.  Although they do not make it easy.  Sorry I am of no help, but I do relate big-time!  Just remember to breathe... who cares if your a little late.  Whatever. It is what it is!  Good luck.

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