Getting him to understand!

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How do I get my soon to be to understand that being home 24/7 with no breaks is a hard full time job? He works 4 12hr days with three off. When I ask him to take care of our son every once in a while for a full day( which has yet to happen) I hear I need to have a day off, I work all the time, mind you at a desk!

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Michelle - posted on 05/18/2010

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Kristin,
I understand what you mean. I had a family emergency in another state when mine was 6 weeks old and had to fly home. He thought it was a vacation for three weeks when really there was most days and nights at the hospitol, then planning a funeral all on top of carring my son around and breastfeeding. He thought it was a vacation and still thinks it was.

Michelle - posted on 05/18/2010

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Emma,
Mine does do the night feedings but because I like to have back up in the freezer for emergency I sometimes have to get up. It would be nice to just go out and have a girls day or have a day to sleep in!

Kristin - posted on 05/17/2010

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I know we all want the full day off, but maybe start with a couple of hours here and there.

I had an interesting discussion about our last "vacation" with my husband. For him, it was exactly that. For me, it was taking my life on the road without all the stuff at home that makes things go more smoothly.

Emma - posted on 05/17/2010

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Write a schedule of exactly what you do every minute of a normal day down to the last minute and show him. If he can see exactly what you have done he might have a better appreciation for you. I tell my partner "you get to leave your workplace and rest in between working, I am in my workplace 24/7 and I don't get any breaks, even through the night" My partner works 16 hours a day (2 jobs) mon-fri and still gets up thru the night on the weekend for bottles because he understands during the week he gets solid blocks of sleep whereas I only get a broken nights sleep. I guess I'm one of the luckier ones though. Hope this helped

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