Getting my son to play in a nursery??

Alicia - posted on 10/14/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have been at home with my son since day one. He is now just about 18mo and really has never left me. I can go out and leave him w/ my husband and he is ok. He has spent a few hours here or there w/ my mom (who he doesn't see all that often b/c she is not close by) and seems ok. But yesterday I went to a MOPS meeting and he was in the nursery for two hours. He was screaming when I went to pick him up and was apparently like that off and on the whole time. I felt terrible. I want to go back to future meetings but just don't know what to do. As soon as we got to the nursery, he started happily playing so I left to go to the meeting. I don't think he is old enough to get it if I explain the situation much more than I did. Do I just keep at it? It is only once/month so I feel like every time is going to seem like the first time for a while. Any ideas? I think he is getting clingier as time goes on so it seems like a good idea to try and get him to be a little more independent. But really, he has a pretty short tolerance for group play, which we do several times/week. Even when I am with him, after about an hour he is waving and saying "bye bye", walks to the door and wants to leave. I'd appreciate any ideas on helping him adjust. Thanks

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Alicia - posted on 10/14/2009

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Thanks for your reply, Kim. It's so hard because he was fine when I left...happy as could be. I will certainly try again next month and see how he does. I just think perhaps 2 hours is quite a long time to start. And really i feel so badly for the nice volunteers who work the nursery and are unknowingly training my son to play without me around!!

Kim - posted on 10/14/2009

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Two months ago, I started my shy, quiet daughter in a Mother's Day Out Program at a local church. She was 13 months old and like your son had not been away from me very much. The first few times were hard to leave her because I think sometimes we have more separation anxiety than they do. My daughter cried every time I left her and it broke my heart. The teachers told me after about 5 minutes or so she was fine. She now loves her school and reaches out for her teacher when I drop her off. She is now to the point that she loves going there. I think the older we wait to leave our babies, the harder it gets for both mom and little one. The only advice I can give is to just be patient and consistent. Reassure him every time that you're going to come back. Overtime he will eventually adjust to new surroundings.

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