Giving up her dummy

Christine - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Hi my daughter is 3 in a few weeks, and we have told her that the fairies have taken her dummy,it has been 10 days now and it she seems to be getting worse, the day sleeps have stoped and getting her to sleep at night is our biggest problem, she kick and screams and cant be reasoned with, i aslo have an 11 month old who keeps getting woken by her tantrums, she also wakes and comes in our bed which i dont mind but she still kicks and crys, how can i calm her quickly. ive tried rewards but doesnt seem to work. please help

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Richain - posted on 08/29/2009

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I gave mine to Santa Claus. I know several parents who have done this too. Basically when they get old enough to really know about Santa... or any other character like this.... they trade the passy away. In other words, I am a big girl now and I am giving you this to prove it. Can I have big girl toys now?



I also know people who have clipped them so they dont suck anymore and used the "its broken" line to get the child to toss it. We havent gotten to that point yet, but I know it wont be easy. Best of luck.

Pamela - posted on 08/29/2009

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If you are referring to a pacifier....I never allowed my children to have one but encouraged them to have a blankey instead. My 11 yr old still has hers and my 5 yr old is cuddling with his right now. They only have them at home and I would rather them have something of comfort. At the end of a hard day this soothes them and no one has to know. As pacifier is another vice all together. You just have to be strong and talk to her. When I took my kids bottles away I simply packed them up and made them throw them away themselves. That way they knew that from that point on they were a big kid and didn't need that anymore. Maybe you should have done that? She needs to know the truth to accept it is gone for good. Find her another special something to replace it.

Beppie - posted on 08/29/2009

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have you tried maybe a water bottle? I had a problem with my daughter waking up and my doctor told me to put a bottle of water at the corner of her bed. Every night when I laid her down I told her that the water was there and it worked. She would wake in the middle of the night and reach for the bottle and it would sooth her enough to go back to sleep. The nap thing is true. My 2 year old is done taking naps because she was getting up at 3 or 4 am ready to play and I'm not ready to play at that time! : ) It has definately changed the dynamics of my day but its ok. Oh, and i know a 3 yr old isn't a big girl but they like to think they are and whenyou refer to them as such it makes things a little lighter somtimes. I give you props for all the work you are doing it is hard, confusing and extremely challenging to be a mother! Good Luck and I hope things are getting better!

Casey - posted on 08/29/2009

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is she still having daytime naps? this could be a problem. i know its more difficult for mothers to give them up than the munchkins but it could help....

Christine - posted on 08/28/2009

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she hasnt had the dummy for 11 days, and im not giving it back now as she will get very confused, we did the whole what present do you want and she got a little tikes princess cosy coupe, rewards are not working. i need ideas on how to settle and calm her to go to sleep, we have tried lots of things, remembering i also have an 11 month old that always needs my attention. yes a dummy is good but i have noticed her teeth moving and dont want to do damage to her adult teeth.

Casey - posted on 08/28/2009

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Hi. my daughter was four when we finally gave hers up. i told her (i've told this story in other convos) i asked her what we cool pressie she would like when she decided to throw her dummy away, and she did it that day.(and we followed thru with gettin the pressie that nite) And she thru it away her self and it was her decision. I'm a big advocate for letting children grow up slowly. Maybe limiting it to bed time ONLY and having her put it in a safe special stop for the rest of the day. then wasit another 6 months and try what i did, my daughter adored her dummy but could be reasoned with and (bribed) at four. just don't stress about it, shes not going to have it when shes 16 and if its interrupting sleep?? Just tell her its for bedtime only and stick to it. then go from there. hoped this helps. (PS) my daughter has been without her dummy for 4 months now, and she sleeps fine.

Sarita - posted on 08/28/2009

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what is a dummy??But what ever it is I dont think a three year old is a big girl, or putting your foot down is the right way..Now I do agree with telling her the truth and letting her know that she is at the age that she doesnt need it any more, dont reward but maybe a compromise (maybe a night light) we got my children fish tanks for there rooms at night it is there night lite and they watch the fish swim around till they fall asleep it calms them...then you can turn off the light or leave it on all night and turn it off during the day

Beppie - posted on 08/28/2009

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Maybe you want to sit her down and tell her the truth. you would be suprised what they can handle at that age if you hold them to a higher standard. Forget the rewards. no tantrum I have ever seen is worth a reward. You need to put your foot down and tell her that she is a big girl now and this is how it is going to be. She will go to sleep...it will get the better of her. Good luck!

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