got a 22 month little girl that is very smart but refuses to talk will it be ok? any suggestion?

Jessica - posted on 03/19/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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she will point and uhh and if asked for things will get them, will manuver chairs to get what she wants sometimes has spoken but not often. words like dada and she said a dogs name once and her aunts name once and plays pikaboo but says "ta ah" for ta da said thank you sence she was 9 months just worried if she dosent start talking soon she will have a speach problem and i've tried getting her to say words and she just shakes her little head and goes uh uh

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Jessica - posted on 03/29/2010

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ok.... update.... she has started to shat dat when she points now and she is tring to say some things like candy or what not and she won't stop saying momma now lol i hope this is a start and she pickes up more

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

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My dauther did this until she was almost 3. I started to get very concerned to a point where I almost took her to the drs to see a specialist. Then all of a sudden she woke up one day and spoke in a full clear sentence and hasn't stopped talking since...lol. I wouldn't be too concerned I learned that my duaghter understood and could talk if she had wanted to but before she decided she was ready she didn't want to.

Jessica - posted on 03/24/2010

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thanks guys all of this is very stress full becouse i know she is bright i latch lock their bed room so they cant drag to many toys into the living room well she wanted in and insteed of coming to me she took a toy broom and popped the lock up and opened the dor incredabal! she also manipulated chairs to get to high places so i know her brain is funchoning great the problem is i looked up the nearest speach theripist and its three counties away thats 130 miles!! :( i'm tring to do as u suggested and i have my oldest say cookie or cup to set and example to her but she just gets agitated and i ask is this a cup she shakes her head yes and i ask her to say it she shakes her head no and makes the no sound no uh uh .... u know what i mean its hard to spell sounds but we do it when we say mean know then when i still refuse she throws a tantrum i dont give in but my husband thinks im crual

Jamie - posted on 03/23/2010

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just keep trying with her, and be persistant about it, like if she wants a drink try to make her say cup before you hand her the cup. At this age. this behavior is perfectly normal with children - remember, every child is different and every child developes on there own time when they are ready! If it is a big concern to you, you can always talk to her pediatrician, and if the pediatrician is concerned you can get her into early intervention. But I would not be too concerned with it now.

Amy - posted on 03/23/2010

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My 4th child is now 30 months old, he has only just started saying words, but has been amazing at everything else. Don't worry, they get there in their own time. I did however get him on the list for speech therapy as there is a 6 month wait. If it turns out we dont need it I can cancel, but if not then I have it.

Liz - posted on 03/22/2010

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Don't worry to much about it. Kids tend to take their own time when it comes to things like this. My little man took his time but once he started he hasn't stopped. I found that with fraser interaction with other kids at play group really helped.

Nicole - posted on 03/22/2010

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I would get her speech. Whether through early intervention or privately. I am not a fan of waiting bc it can lead to other issues but that is jumping ahead. My older daughter was speech delayed and did very well with early intervention speech and is doing fine now!

She probably yelled mommy bc she was so stressed and does not have the ability to request what you wanted her too. I would accept any sounds and label all objects that are common to her. Good luck! Trust your instincts.

Lisa - posted on 03/22/2010

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some kids just talk late but you should try signing time it may encourage her to talk but if it doesn't at least you will be able to communicate with her & know what she is asking for they is a facebook & the program is awesome my daughter started signing at about a year now she almost 3 & she still uses it & wants to watch the program!! It's made easy for all to learn!!

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Jessica, my8 yr old did not talk until she was three. She had a pretty traumatic birth and was not breathing when she was born which resulted in some delays. One of which was a speach and language delay. Basically she could talk, but was unable to pronounce the words so she just refused to talk. She started with speech and language therapy when she was 9 months old and although she still requires speech and language in school, she is doing a great job and actually loves to read. She even reads to my 7 yr old at bed time now. If I can help you in any way, please let me know. I am on facebook as well. Have a great day!

Cheraki - posted on 03/22/2010

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Have you had your child's hearing tested? Sometimes children don't hear the words clearly so they don't speak them...
Another thing would be speech therapy..

Good Luck and Best Wishes

Brittany - posted on 03/22/2010

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i would try and encourage her more by trying to Make her say or atleast try to say what she wants.. Dont give in and give her what she wants unless she is really making an effort to say something. My sister was like this for a Very long time, she would just say 'uhh' at everything and point! drove me Nuts!

Tori - posted on 03/21/2010

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My daughter is 22 months old too. She doesn't say a whole lot either. She says bye bye, mama, dada, dog, baby, no, yeah, one, two, and every now and then she'll just surprise us with a word (and then won't say it ever again!). I think it's pretty normal. Kids go at their own pace. The only thing that would cause concern is if your daughter has ear infections pretty often. Two of my friends had tubes put in their children's ears because of constant ear infections and they started talking a LOT once the procedure was done whereas they barely said a word before hand. My daughter has only had one ear infection so I think she's just taking her time. My grandpa didn't speak at all until he was 4 years old (and he went straight to sentences) and my friend's son is almost 3 years old and just started talking more.

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2010

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gina said mommy today cuz she wanted a cookie and i wouldnt give her one until she tried to say it and she screamed i wanted to give in sooooo bad!! but she got so mad she screamed MOMMMMMYYY!!!!! i was so thrilled! its like she has the words in her head and is just to stubern to let them out

Cherish - posted on 03/21/2010

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Hi,
Kids with speech disorders often do very well with speech therapy.
Have you used sign or PECs w/her?

If she does have a developmental speech disorder,all that means is speech is under developed and w/ therapy they do very well,and eventually "catch up".

What state are you in?
I can get the number to call,where you can get a free eval and if needed free therapy :)

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2010

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no i haven't got an evaluation yet i was hoping she'd start she dos try to say hello when she is on her play phone now and i guess im just worried that if i do i will find out she does have a problem i know thats wronge but i just want her to try she doesn't seem like she wants to. and sissy does all her talking for her like when she brings me her cup melanie will say sissy want jucie i try to tell her to let gina tell me but at 3 she thinks that she is helping.

Carolee - posted on 03/20/2010

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I didn't talk until I was almost 4. I didn't need to! I knew how, and always tested high in school... I've just never been a "talker". My sister, on the other hand, translated every single movement I made and talked for me, so that probably had a LOT to do with it (lol)! I've just always been incredibly shy...

Cherish - posted on 03/20/2010

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Not all children with CAS are the same. All of the signs and symptoms listed below may not be present in every child:
A Very Young Child

* Does not coo or babble as an infant
* First words are late, and they may be missing sounds
* Only a few different consonant and vowel sounds
* Problems combining sounds; may show long pauses between sounds
* Simplifies words by replacing difficult sounds with easier ones or by deleting difficult sounds (although all children do this, the child with apraxia of speech does so more often)
* May have problems eating

http://www.asha.org/public/speech/disord...

Cherish - posted on 03/20/2010

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Hi,
My youngest son will be 8 in June and does not yet talk.
He has apraxia.
Have you had a eval?
Is she in therapy?
Some kids only develop part of speech,with out help....

Jessica - posted on 03/20/2010

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thank you all for ur advice and ideas i will try them out and get back to you. it makes me feel better knowing i'm not alone.

Priscilla - posted on 03/20/2010

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If the pediatrician says she is fine then not to worry. Keep a close eye on it. But there are lots of kids who speak late. My aunt had one that didn't speak until he was almost 4. Now he is a college graduate. You can try forcing the issue from a sort of sneaky side way. Next time she wants something and you are busy dong something already. Without looking at her, tell her that she will have to tell you want she wants or wait until you finish what you are doing. Not like you are punishing her. You want to be clear that you need to finish the task you are on before you can help her - unless of course she can tell you want she needs. Creating tiny delays like this may have the effect of making her just impatient enough to speak.

Brittany - posted on 03/19/2010

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I also have a 22 month old daughter that does not speak very often. She does say a couple of simple words, but does not really talk. She knows what colors are which and can do simple task I ask of her, such as putting something in the trash. Just today I asked her to open the bottom drawer of a cabinet as she was opening the top. She quickly closed the top one and opened the bottom. She can point to any body part I say and sometimes repeats names. Your toddler sounds just like mine. Her fav right now is The word no. I am a little worried also, but I think she is probably on track.

Kaitie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Dont worry a lot of those behaviors are completely normal. What I did with both of mine I would tell them what it is and if they wanted it then I would not give it to them unless they at least tried saying what it was... even if it was not quit correct. After I did that a lil bit then they started to use more words. I know it will be hard especially at first but if you dont make it toware she has to speak then she does not see a need to speak. Good luck and let me know how it goes.Also you can always ask your pediatrician for more ideas.

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