Grandma just died now what?

Cristina - posted on 06/22/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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This is the thing, my husband is a man whom I have never seen crying, today the matriarch of his family just passed away and he got the call while on the way to college, he called me crying and it just broke my heart, I don't know what to say or do, she lived far far away, and he won't be able to see her or have closure, and now I have to let our son know that grammy died, how do you ladies think I should handle the matter, I'm really stuck, advice please!

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Christy - posted on 06/22/2010

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Be there for your husband first and foremost. Let him know you are there for him and to let you know if he needs anything. Give him a hug and let him cry. Poor thing. It's so hard when family passes away and there isn't much you can say to the other person other than that you are there for them.

Jessica - posted on 06/22/2010

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Just be a listening ear for him. Let him grieve. With your child keep it simple and share your beliefs about death and such. Good luck, losing a loved one is never easy.

Alison - posted on 06/22/2010

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Not to sure... may be just tell him she has gone to a better place and that it was her time to go. don't hid the truth. as for your husband all you can do is just be there as a friend and as a wife. you don't have to say anything just your presence is engulf.

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jessica hit it right on for me.. this is all you can do.. keep it simple for kids and let daddy know its ok to greive and when hes ready he can talk to the kids about it.. just be there

Tara Lee - posted on 06/22/2010

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My husbands mom passed away in September, and like your MIL, she was the matriarch of his family. There was really nothing I can say. You just have to be there for him, let him feel your love and just be a shoulder that he can lean on. As for your son, how old is he? My daughter was 1 when her Merere passed and was very close(visited every week since birth). She didn't really know what we were telling her, that Merere was gone. To this day, if she sees a picture, see points at it and says, Merere. and should we go over to the house, she will look for her but she doesn't get upset. We keep pictures around and talk about her often. And it gets easier in time. The pain of loss is still there, but it does lessen. Don't NOT talk, try and keep then memories alive. My husband once told me that his worst fear is that he forget her voice or close his eyes and not be able to recall her face. But with pictures and stories, we wont forget. If she was as well loved as my MIL, your husband will need you to be strong. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Sending big hugs...

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