Has anyone els have done this

Victoria - posted on 09/23/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My son sleeps good so good sometimes i go an check on him alot see if he is still alive how do i clam down about this or is this a natual thing to check ?

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Karen M - posted on 12/31/2012

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Hi there thank you for your reply! I also do the same as sometimes they sound liike they are not breathing even though they are and there's nothing wrong with checking better too than not at all! I do it quite often as well as my son has asthma! but I use to do the same with my grown up daughter's so don't worry! And have a great Happy new year!

Corinne - posted on 12/30/2012

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Sometimes if my son is sleeping really quietly, I check to see if he's still breathing. He's 3.5, so maybe I'm paranoid.

Karen M - posted on 12/30/2012

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I also check on my son as I have done with my adult daughter's, have always checked on them and do the same for my son who is four years old and more so for him as he has asthma which he has had for a long while now and took nearly two years before I finally got the answer to his symptoms plus he had an asthma attack a couple of times but that was put down to a viral wheeze, he had a sevear asthma attack in october and went to hospital where I was told they don't like to say its asthma even though he is on 3 types of medication.had to take him to the doctor over his constant coughing and our doctor said it's definatly asthma! He's had most of the signs,but I can safely say we trust our doctor, we have no breathing alarm monitor which I'm wanting to buy and have searched the web and still looking for one that's for children from 2 yrs upwards and there doesn't seam to be any at all, it's hard to sleep at night and will have to keep checking every now and then on my son untill I find some peace of mind! So I'd like to say to you that there's nothing wrong with checking on your child/children often it's natural, Please don't worry what other's think about that it's better to check than not to check best wishes for the new year ahead!

Irene - posted on 09/26/2009

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My son is 2 weeks shy of his 4th bday and my daughter is 13 months today...I check on both of them every night before I go to bed.

Jane - posted on 09/26/2009

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i think it's a completely natural, primal instinct for mothers. and with all of the information these days about SIDS, i think it's normal as well. i have a baby monitor w/a screen and am always checking it to see if i can see their chests moving or if they are moving or if i can hear them breathing (which i can't unless they have a cold).

Jenn - posted on 09/26/2009

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I still worry sometimes even with my 3 1/2 year old if he sleeps in - because it's such a rare occasion - that I have to make sure he is breathing! I think it's pretty normal to worry :)

Kendra - posted on 09/26/2009

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Both of my children were sleeping through the night before they were 6 months old and both of them have always slept very hard. They are now 6 and 7 and I still check on them before I go to bed. Even feel there chest to make sure they are ok. So I think it is very natural.

Kimberly - posted on 09/25/2009

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This is totally natural, I was really bad at it so I got one of those baby monitors that did video to along with sound and hooked it up to a tv in my room (also comes with hand held one to) it worked for me, but honestly it takes time...

Iris - posted on 09/25/2009

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Well get a baby monitor. If he stops breathing you will not hear him. It is normal to have those fears.. I had those same fears when my son was born.. I do suggest a baby monitor though. It will take away those fears..

Nicola - posted on 09/25/2009

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of course i usto do the same thing,its natural t worry,as long as you dont go overboard with it.

Jennifer - posted on 09/24/2009

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I don't think you'll ever stop. I still do and my eldest is 9, I always have done it and makes me feel better to check on them.....

Shelly - posted on 09/23/2009

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I heard of a mat that you can put in their beds that if they stop moving for a certain period of time a little alarm sounds. Not sure of the details but Babies R Us carries a lot of stuff like that.

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I still do that all the time. I have 2 boys. One is 3 and the other will be 1 soon. I just pray alot because if I didnt I would go out of my mind and not get any sleep. Hope this helps. God Bless!

Sophia - posted on 09/23/2009

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Its a natural thing to check. My daughter sleeps good too. I wonder if she still is alive too. I tell myself "as long as she wakes up crying shes fine if she sleeps that good." relax and read a book and listen for the baby.

Jessica - posted on 09/23/2009

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I used to do it all the time. One time it was winter and my two year old (one, then) was all bundled up in a snowsuit sleeping in his carseat and I litterally almost had a heart attack cuz i couldnt see if he was breathing or not. it freaked me out. hes two yrs, 4 mos now and i still check on him quite often. its natural...maternal instincts and all

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I do the same thing. I have a 4 1/2 month old. I check on her 4-5 times before I finally relax enough to go to sleep.

Stephanie - posted on 09/23/2009

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I honestly don't think you ever stop feeling that way. SIDS happens. You just need to make sure you do enough to prevent it from happening as much as possible. I have a 11 month old and 21 month old and still feel that way. Its normal. Before I go to bed my husband and I go in and re-tuck the kids just to see them again before lights out.

Myranda - posted on 09/23/2009

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I used to do that all the time! My daughter slept in our room with us until she was about 8 months old, so that made it easier, but once she was in her own room I would constantly check on her. I think as your son gets older you'll start to feel more confident and comfortable in knowing that he's okay without you checking him every few minutes. =)

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It is natural to be concerned...many moms read so much about what babies do before they are born that sometimes we scare ourselves a bit about the big scary things we read or hear about. It is normal to worry about this little boy...he is so important to you and you don't want anything to happen. Do you have a baby monitor? You could put it in the crib by him and carry the other one around. That might help to ease your mind. With my first child, I checked him...all the time. Once you get a routine with each other, you'll do it less. Pat yourself on the back..you are ok! Keep up the good work!!

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